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newflowers -> RE: Psychological submission vs. Physical submission (7/28/2004 11:06:43 AM)
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ORIGINAL: subinfyniti
[8|] Thoughts to ponder...... do we all get the same " warm, fuzzy feeling" from the psychological submission as we do from the physical submission?
Personally for me, there needs to be a balance of both. I need the feel of the mental submission along with the feel of the touch. Others seem to choose one or the other....or...do those who choose just " settle"?
I find that the psychological aspects are stronger - those times when I can feel him begin to slip into my mind, learning and knowing the inside parts of me that I tend to keep hidden and the fragile parts I tend to protect. When I begin to feel as if I want him to know ___ (fill in the blank), it is indicative of my wanting a deeper bond.
The physical aspects can be intensified by a strong mental (and let me add emotional) bond. There are times when I may submit to or request a particular form of play - sometimes because I want it and it thrills me, however, sometimes it is because the activity itself or the sensations involved are illustrative of his control. The thrill of feeling his control, his power, his strength - this is as important to me as the more overtly sexual/sensory acts in which we may engage. It is his (inherent strength/power/control = dominance) dominance that I want to feel. This doesn't become a 24/7 play scene, rather it becomes part of me, feeling his control because it is in my psyche.
Not necessaily limited to BDSM and/or sexual activity, sometimes, it is simple - I will do a *thing* because he likes it and doing so pleases him and feeds my need to please him. Most often, it is a deeper psychological submission, when I can feel the seduction of my mind, feel him gathering up, slipping past, over, and around my inner defenses, it is at and a result of these times, that I can be elevated to a soft, warm puddle of submissve me.
newflowers
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