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YourhandMyAss -> Any one here ever gone to a sex therapist, and did it work? (10/9/2007 6:07:36 PM)

I know it's an awfully personal question, but if you've ever been to one, why did you go, what did they do to help you, and did it work?

I've suffered from sexual problems my entire adult life, that's not long I know, only being 24, however I've sometimes thought about trying a sex therapist for the issues of low to non exsistant libido, and finding sex, even with someone I l ove to be an emotional and mental chore. I was molested as a child, and I've delt with those issues, but it just seems like my libido was stronger at  that age than it is now. I had no problem with enjoyment or arousal or cumming way back when.

Now, I am rarely aroused, Rarely am I able to cum, even with both of our best efforts it takes forever and I have to be agressive on the clit to the point of making it sore. Sex is a huge chore for me and almost always ends in disapointment, and it's not my partners fault, not really cause he does try to please me, I just don't seem to get any enjoyment from the act.

When I am horny, on the rare ocasion it's about all I can think about, It's practically an obsession, then he gets annoyed cause I blast very high powered sex energy his way. He gets annoyed cause there's nothing he can do, being unable to be here much. Eventually though the hornyness just turns to depression and tears, cause I need the connection from the act, and he's the only one I am allowed to and honestly really desire sex from.



ChicagoSwitchMal -> RE: Any one here ever gone to a sex therapist, and did it work? (10/9/2007 6:11:21 PM)

Have you seen a regular doctor yet? It could be hormonal or something. You seem to want to be excited but just can't get there. A sex therapist is going to deal with phycological issues (i think) which it doesn't sound like you have.



YourhandMyAss -> RE: Any one here ever gone to a sex therapist, and did it work? (10/9/2007 6:14:22 PM)

Chicago, not really, I did ask her one time if it was normal for young people for all purposes in prime of their life, to be so disinterested in sex, or when they are interested in sex have so much difficulty getting enjoyment, and she said it's diffrent for every one, and suggested weight loss, Which I am sure would help some, however this issue has been an inssue even when I was skinny.



ChicagoSwitchMal -> RE: Any one here ever gone to a sex therapist, and did it work? (10/9/2007 6:17:27 PM)

I would be very direct with the question and say you want help with your libido. Don't ask her if it's normal. The correct answer is "it's different for everyone". I suggest being direct. "(what?) I want help with my libido. (why?) cuz it's affecting my relationship. She has to address that if said that way.



YourhandMyAss -> RE: Any one here ever gone to a sex therapist, and did it work? (10/9/2007 6:19:28 PM)

Chicago, next time I go to the dr's I'll put it more directly.  I had hoped having a dominant partner would help, cause that to me ment they'd guide you and help you along and mentor you sexually and well that thought, while nice, isn't really reality lol. He tries to excite me and get me off, it's just not enough.



Aswad -> RE: Any one here ever gone to a sex therapist, and did it work? (10/9/2007 6:20:48 PM)

Using any prescription meds or herbs, YMA?
That's also a common reason for things like that to occur.
Barring that, I'd suggest a blood workup and a referral to a sex therapist.
The patch sold under the trade name Intrinsa might be a good idea to try as well.

Health,
al-Aswad.



YourhandMyAss -> RE: Any one here ever gone to a sex therapist, and did it work? (10/9/2007 6:22:04 PM)

Aswad, nope I'm not on any medications, or hebal stuff.



ChicagoSwitchMal -> RE: Any one here ever gone to a sex therapist, and did it work? (10/9/2007 6:25:02 PM)

I hear you and also just realized that I completely side tracked your question. [sm=ofcourse.gif]Seriously though maybe a little hormone replacement therapy might do the trick. I hope this isn't too person so feel free to tell me to F*&K off but are you able to achieve orgasm by yourself/



YourhandMyAss -> RE: Any one here ever gone to a sex therapist, and did it work? (10/9/2007 6:27:55 PM)

Chicago, sometimes, but it's usualy very hard to get it by myself too. I have to be EXTREAMLY aroused to cum quickly alone, it takes about 20 minutes, maybe more, and the toy does leave me sore and numb if i have to be rather agressive, which in some cases to cum at all I do. have to be rather agressive w/ith my clit.



ChicagoSwitchMal -> RE: Any one here ever gone to a sex therapist, and did it work? (10/9/2007 6:33:07 PM)

If you're having difficulty cumming alone and it's not disturbing thoughts stopping you as you suggest then I think it's almost certainly physical. Thats the good news. The right hormones might have you whore moaning (I stoled that from someone - sorry).



YourhandMyAss -> RE: Any one here ever gone to a sex therapist, and did it work? (10/9/2007 6:40:39 PM)

Chicago, It would make sense. I'll call my gyno office when I come back from my trip and see about an appointment to talk to my gyno about this constant difficulty with sex.



Aswad -> RE: Any one here ever gone to a sex therapist, and did it work? (10/9/2007 8:55:41 PM)

Good idea.

And, for hormone replacement and the like, Intrinsa is getting popular.

Health,
al-Aswad.



domiguy -> RE: Any one here ever gone to a sex therapist, and did it work? (10/9/2007 9:20:39 PM)

I went to a sex therapist to see if there was any way possible to lessen my sexual magnetism....She started by asking me my age, height and weight and then she asked if I could guess how many fingers she currently had in her pussy....



FangsNfeet -> RE: Any one here ever gone to a sex therapist, and did it work? (10/9/2007 9:24:24 PM)

I've never had a meeting with a Sex Therapist before.

However, I have taken a few pointers from Therapist on TV. One of the womens channels WE, LifeTime, or O2 has an elderly Sex Therapist who is interesting to listen to. Play Boy made a video with an Elderly Jewish Women who is a Sex Therapist. Last but not least, there's also Dr Z.

For the majority, I have enjoyed the education. The ideas have helped me keep a creative mind so my Sex Life can continue to be kinky, spontaneous, and never boring.

For anyone or any couple who may be in a sort of a slump, I think a sex therapist can help any couple who would be willing to add spice to there love life. 



YourhandMyAss -> RE: Any one here ever gone to a sex therapist, and did it work? (10/10/2007 12:06:11 AM)

why would a 24 year old need hormone replacement?

now maybe whore moans yes* grins*
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ORIGINAL: Aswad

Good idea.

And, for hormone replacement and the like, Intrinsa is getting popular.

Health,
al-Aswad.




Celeste43 -> RE: Any one here ever gone to a sex therapist, and did it work? (10/10/2007 5:41:30 AM)

Did you see your primary physician or a gyn/ob. If a gyn/ob does she specialize in this or not? If not, ask for a referral for someone who does specialize in this. Because going to the eye doctor for a foot problem is not helpful. You need to first see the right physician and get a full physical workup including thyroid testing.

Only after the physical has been ruled out should you go to a psychologist. And only after it's been ruled out that this is not a result of early abuse, or shaming, or any such effects from a young and impressionable age should you then go to a sex therapist.



YourhandMyAss -> RE: Any one here ever gone to a sex therapist, and did it work? (10/10/2007 9:37:10 AM)

I saw a primary Celest. I do think it's  from the molestation, but not cause of shame or anything. I've delt with emotional issues from it. I think some of it may be that most sex stuff is old hat, done that years ago big deal.


I had tons of libido when I was  being molested, I guess it's common for  some  who're molested to have a strong sex drive during the molestation an then maybe not so much as an adult..

For one instance I used to love, love oral sex, way back when, now it just doesn't do a damned thing for me, and I don't think it's because of the abuse, I just do not get enough sensation pleasure from it to get off. I think it's kind of like popcorn in that early on it's yummy but  have to many bags of it, and you begin to stop tasting the yummy popcorn and just having this overal greesey taste, that numbs your tongue.  I think prior exposure to tons of sex at such an early age has kind of altered my interest in it, in someway.

I also think my sexuality has been warped by my molestation. I pretty much know it has been.



YourhandMyAss -> RE: Any one here ever gone to a sex therapist, and did it work? (10/10/2007 12:59:19 PM)

I called the dr and I have an appointment with my gyno the 14th of november, I doubt she'll do blood work and what not just cause I ask but we'll see what if anything this appointment acomplishes.



mnottertail -> RE: Any one here ever gone to a sex therapist, and did it work? (10/10/2007 1:02:31 PM)

Hey they have the equivalent of female viagra, ask the doc, might just be you need to pound a little blood down there.

A Better Life Thru Chemicals.....

Dr. Timothy Leary 



GhitaAmati -> RE: Any one here ever gone to a sex therapist, and did it work? (10/10/2007 1:24:21 PM)

YHMA...Im 27, and Im having to take whoremoans...ok..hormones...its jsut funner the other way. Anyway, I have some of the same issues you describe, although my hormones were started to help with some other problems and are actually helping the others too....

Ive always been rather dry..vaginally..(ok..I know you dont wanna hear this ron but its true..some of us sluts just dont drip cum down our legs 24/7...sorry)....it takes quite a bit to get me worked up to that point....sometimes worse than others, but its been an ongoing thing. As long as im really worked up...it really frustrates my husband, because as horny as I get..it seems like no matter what he does or tries I still end up going to bed frustrated because no amount of stimulation makes the hornyness go away....but then there are days where Im really not at all horny, even though Id like to be....I spent years in a relationship just..well..faking it...cause I just wanted sex to be over with so I could go to sleep. Emerita makes a female libido formula that actually works pretty well in fixing some of those issues if they are caused by body chemisty issues....but if they are caused by something a bit more emotional, then the therapist mught be your best bet..or even a combination of the two....feel free to write me on the other side if youd like more info on all the stuff I take....

ghita~



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