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how do you... - 10/9/2007 7:15:30 PM   
Hergirl0824


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Status: offline 		say thank you to your Dom/me for a wonderful day and all they do for you. Ma'am has helped me gain real perspective into this lifestyle and who i am. Today we had a particularlly wonderful day and i want to show her my appreciation but don't want to seem overboard (if that makes any sense) since our relationship is so new. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

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RE: how do you... - 10/9/2007 7:22:36 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		Other than copying and pasting this to her...I dunno.  I could give suggestions, but you presumably know what she wants and needs and will suit this message best for her.

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RE: how do you... - 10/9/2007 7:25:30 PM   
Hergirl0824


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Status: offline 		thank you for the reply..i sent Her an email thanking Her..was just kind of curious what others do..still trying to find my way around things in this lifestyle...but i do appreciate your response

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RE: how do you... - 10/9/2007 7:42:07 PM   
TemptingNviceSub


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Status: offline 		The way you would thank anyone important in your life..look for that something special to them..a simple fav flower, if they like to read a special book mark,if they like to garden a special plant to put in their garden that they can appreciate every year it blooms,a special chain that hangs from rearview mirror of car, that is pertinent to them..just something small usable inexpensive but heartfelt nonetheless...Tempting

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RE: how do you... - 10/9/2007 7:59:28 PM   
chellekitty


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Status: offline 		something i would do...is...pick a flower today...and put it between the pages of a really heavy book, then in a specific amount of time...a month...3 months..6 months...a year....go back and get it and present it to her and say "i picked this and pressed it and preserved it to remind me of the day that meant so much to me...i didn't forget...i wanted to give you a tangible reminder...." or something like that...

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RE: how do you... - 10/9/2007 8:40:51 PM   
iammachine


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Status: offline 		Simply saying "Thank you" is a great start. :) 

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RE: how do you... - 10/9/2007 9:44:15 PM   
crouchingtigress


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From: Maui
Status: offline 		punch and pie?

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RE: how do you... - 10/9/2007 9:48:38 PM   
chellekitty


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Status: offline 		[the Rippers are deciding what to do with Tank Girl and Jet Girl]
T-Saint: I say we kill 'em!
Donner: I say we hump 'em.
Booga: I say we eat crumpets and tea.
Deetee: Tasty! Crumpets and tea. All in favor of crumpets and tea, say "I."
Rippers: I!
T-Saint: Shut up!

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RE: how do you... - 10/10/2007 2:07:39 AM   
desertdancer


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quote:

ORIGINAL: chellekitty

[the Rippers are deciding what to do with Tank Girl and Jet Girl]
T-Saint: I say we kill 'em!
Donner: I say we hump 'em.
Booga: I say we eat crumpets and tea.
Deetee: Tasty! Crumpets and tea. All in favor of crumpets and tea, say "I."
Rippers: I!
T-Saint: Shut up!



Oooooh, you quoted from my favorite movie !  I knew there was a reason I liked you.


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RE: how do you... - 10/10/2007 7:20:39 PM   
AEslaveM


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Status: offline 		i often do small things for Master, like bringing flowers or sending him postcards or the like.  Simple little thank you notes are another favorite..........and there are times when HE says thank you............melts my knees when he does that...............

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RE: how do you... - 10/11/2007 1:10:06 AM   
MRandme


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Status: offline 		my Master just celebrated a birthday and i wanted to do something for Him. When i asked what He'd like, He told me that when i serve Him, i give Him everything He wants. (aw! i melted!). Finally i hit on the idea to give him a thorough full-body massage. Yes, i have given Him a massage before, but when you go to lengths to make it special, it shows.

So think of a service She enjoys having you do and take it a step further. Make it a gift by putting your own touches on it, finding some way of doing it in an out of the ordinary way -- try to engage all Her senses when you do it.


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RE: how do you... - 10/11/2007 7:39:39 AM   
Littlepita


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Status: offline 		I look him right in the eye, stroke his face, and sincerely express my gratitude.

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RE: how do you... - 10/11/2007 7:49:56 AM   
Sabella


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Status: offline 		Why wait if every day is wonderful with them?

"I had a really wonderful time today, thank you!" is always well received. You could buy them something they need, do something for them they haven't got time for (always a good choice), write a poem or letter, learn to cook their favourite meal & serve by candlelight, plot a surprise night or weekend away. You already probably know best what would make them really happy.


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RE: how do you... - 10/11/2007 9:16:16 AM   
MrDiscipline44


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Hergirl0824

say thank you to your Dom/me for a wonderful day and all they do for you. Ma'am has helped me gain real perspective into this lifestyle and who i am. Today we had a particularlly wonderful day and i want to show her my appreciation but don't want to seem overboard (if that makes any sense) since our relationship is so new. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
Keep
It
Simple
Stupid

Just say thankyou for the great day. Thats all I erquire of my girls. If I want something more, I tell them.

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RE: how do you... - 10/11/2007 10:49:28 AM   
Hergirl0824


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Status: offline 		i do appreciate everyone's responses and ideas. i am always looking for new ways to show the people i care about how much they mean to me and got some new ideas here so again i say thank you. And yes i do know Her best and what she would like but i have often found that new ideas or what someone else has done in the past can add a fresh perspective and foster new ideas in me, that was my only reason for asking.

So once again i thank you all for your responses and this "stupid" sub will quietly bow out now.


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RE: how do you... - 10/11/2007 6:28:04 PM   
obis


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From: Austin, TX, USA
Status: offline 		One of the things I love about d/s relationships is that it frees us somewhat from the typical "playing hard to get" crap that so many women are taught. If you feel passionate and effusive, then be passionate and effusive in your thanks. Sure, you'll be admitting that you're interested, and you'll be giving her the power in the relationship by putting yourself out there, but isn't that the whole point?

It's only when you're trying to walk a delicate tightrope of a 50/50 relationship and worried about who has "hand" that you need to be constantly sweating the impact of expressing your feelings.

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RE: how do you... - 10/12/2007 12:39:20 AM   
ownedgirlie


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Hergirl0824


So once again i thank you all for your responses and this "stupid" sub will quietly bow out now.



He wasn't calling you stupid.  "Keep It Simple Stupid - KISS" is a rather well known accronym/phrase, used to help people not overcomplicate things.

I buy my Master special gifts now and again, specific to something he enjoys, or something intimate between us.  Since there is no possible way I can ever thank him adequately for all he has done for me, I vow to give him the best I can possibly give him of myself, and to constantly strive to be better.

And I do express my gratitude, in both the spoken and written word, quite regularly.

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RE: how do you... - 10/12/2007 5:59:01 PM   
sextoygirlNY


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From: Long Island, NY
Status: offline 		chelle,
have to make a small comment, this idea is overly romantic and wonderful, its something that is a real ritual, ,,,,but please be careful of "colorful" or dyed flowers particularly since colored flowers can bleed unto the white pages of the book and ruin the writing.....
then again might be an interesting thing if Mistress/Master just goes to open up there book and find a wilted flower thinking "what the hell is this"...*giggles*..had to laugh about that...
wishe syou well,
melanie

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RE: how do you... - 10/12/2007 7:49:49 PM   
TakenPet


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Status: offline 		Master knows because I thank him, and he knows that I appreciate him through my actions.  Its really quite obvious by the big stupid grin that never leaves my face, the one he loves to see.
Just be open and tell them that you appreicated the day.

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