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Action -> SoulMates... (10/11/2007 5:53:52 PM)
Dear Ladies My partner, life mate, soul mate, best friend. whatever you wana call my husband is 4000 miles away from me right now. And dispite all things in my life its one of those few things I can't do well is handle his absence. The details are that I was working on my settlment visa to go to england with him, paper's didn't arrive on time for our flight and Im here in the states still. As much as I know it'll be very soon to be done and I'll be over there but I thought'd I'd lay my heart out to you ladies a little bit, I know some of you out there have husbands, partners, even a terribly close slave that you can lean on at times like these. So I guess Im asking to lean on you all a bit just now, maybe tell me you do at times like these. Im not trying to wallow but I can't help but do exactly that. -Lil Miss Action

twistedkytten -> RE: SoulMates... (10/11/2007 5:59:35 PM)
I wish i could offer solace, i find myself with that same miserable ache when Master is away.. and we live just a bit more than an hour apart, His schedule is far more busy than mine so we don't get together as often as i would like.. so i miss Him terribly and often. i try to find distractions whatever they may be.. good luck

AllforFun -> RE: SoulMates... (10/11/2007 6:13:40 PM)
I have dealt with this alot in my lifetime. I came from a military background and there were many times my father was off doing who knows what and who knows where (were werent allowed to know at times.) Here is my advice as harsh as it sounds, you have to suck it up. Just remember all the times you stopped and missed him so much your heart nearly fell into your stomach and show him exactly how much you missed him next time you see him. :)

MasterFireMaam -> RE: SoulMates... (10/11/2007 6:23:28 PM)
It's hard when your mate has to go away. hugs Master Fire - former Navy wife.

MistressDolly -> RE: SoulMates... (10/11/2007 6:26:02 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Action Dear Ladies My partner, life mate, soul mate, best friend. whatever you wana call my husband is 4000 miles away from me right now. And dispite all things in my life its one of those few things I can't do well is handle his absence. The details are that I was working on my settlment visa to go to england with him, paper's didn't arrive on time for our flight and Im here in the states still. As much as I know it'll be very soon to be done and I'll be over there but I thought'd I'd lay my heart out to you ladies a little bit, I know some of you out there have husbands, partners, even a terribly close slave that you can lean on at times like these. So I guess Im asking to lean on you all a bit just now, maybe tell me you do at times like these. Im not trying to wallow but I can't help but do exactly that. -Lil Miss Action Nothing worse than missing someone you love :( There's really not much you can do to ease the pain. (Perhaps find something that you can preoccupy yourself with - to help a little?) There's nothing wrong with wallowing! Some moments will be better than others. You just have to keep on going with the flow. Things will get better! :) ps. Be mindful of cycles - the severity of circumstances can be exaggerated.

dominalisa -> RE: SoulMates... (10/11/2007 11:04:29 PM)
Just keep yourself busy so you do not feel lonely. Wallowing will just make you feel sad. And you could come across as too needy to a man. You've got to learn to be on your own and enjoy your own company for awhile. Work on developing YOU. You have a long list of non-bdsm interests and things you're curious about listed on your profile so you should look into them. By the way, if you're interested in medieval faires, find one near you. Here's a list by state: http://www.renfaire.com/Sites/index.html or maybe a kickboxing or self defense class. (search http://www.google.com to find one near you) Also I would recommend that you use some of this time to read some good bdsm and/or FemDom books. or check out the local munches/groups near you. (http://www.darkheart.com/sceneusa.html) or try to make some of your own kinky toys. There are books and websites about this. One can never have too many toys.

LadyPact -> RE: SoulMates... (10/12/2007 5:45:25 AM)
I've been in the situation where My husband has literally been in another country, and yes, it sucks. Some terms have been longer than others, but I can tell you from personal experience that the most difficult times of the duration are just after he goes, and right before he comes back. What I mean by saying that is, from what I'm hearing, you're in the same "just after he goes" period, which can be the toughest. Since you were planning on leaving at the same time, I'm sure you have some additional things at issue. Your things are probably already packed (or gone). Classes or work schedule probably doesn't exist. You may have also already said your local good-byes. A diversion might be exactly what's in order. You might want to spend some additional time on the net, or try some books from the library. Unpack (or acquire) some of the things you would need to spend time on your favorite hobby. Maybe do some extra research on your new area that you'll be going to. Of course, you're always welcome to hang out on the boards here with Us. <wink>

Action -> RE: SoulMates... (10/13/2007 12:57:00 AM)
Hit it right on the nail and thank you so much all of you for your understanding. As odd as it is I don't keep people on the net very close so I hate to come to them with anything reguarding me needing to lean yet I feel alot better to publicly vent something and let people discuss. An odd switch around. Meanwhile Im shopping for some artistic bongs and toys to add to my list of things I want to buy when I DO get back to england. As well as taking this time to look up some prospective slaves who've contacted me.

LostParadise -> RE: SoulMates... (10/14/2007 12:09:16 PM)
It may sound strange, but I like to miss a beloved partner. I than can realize, how much she means to me and that I love her. Thats a good feeling!

TakenPet -> RE: SoulMates... (10/14/2007 12:52:52 PM)
I feel for you and its awful to be apart. Just do the best you can as far as contact and keeping busy until you can be reunited again. We all know how you feel and we are here to listen, and share. Cry if you feel the need, cook when you feel the need, do what you must to maintain your sanity and live in the solace that you will be together again soon. Sorry I know its not much,

canupleaseme -> RE: SoulMates... (10/14/2007 1:00:43 PM)
Big hugs from me. I hated it when I was apart from my boy and he was only a five hour train ride away and that was big enough . I found it hard to lean on my friends because they just didnt understand how I felt for some reason. I found myself walking round feeling 5 paces behind myself, I couldnt concentrate at times and just felt awful. I tried to fill my time by planning nice things for when we were together again and using my free time to have nice baths go to the gym and do the shitty jobs I don't normally have time for. Oh and I slept loads the time passed quicker lol. Whilst I am not dependant on him to function on a day to day basis I just found little joy in my day knowing he was so far away and I couldn't just hug him. Now he is here practically all the time and we look forward to the odd times apart becasuse we miss some of the things we used to do lol go figure !!! It sounds like you have a massive adventure coming up. Its nice over here and when your back in his arms and can smell him (thats the thing i miss mostest) it will all feel like you havnt been apart (well thats what I find anyway ) I hope you feel better soon and have a safe journey.[:D]

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