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LadySonelle -> RE: Consensual Blackmail and Third Parties. (7/29/2005 7:44:09 AM)
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Well, the submissive likes to play with the danger of being controlled by the threat of exposure. some are very 'into' this sort of play.
To say "Bklackmail is blackmail" is the same as saying "A bating is just assault and battery! Anything else is just play beating."
The point of consensual blackmail is that the submissive is teased, goaded, tormented and incited by the Mistress. If She were just to say "Well, right, I've sent the pictures!" there would be only terror and no tease. It's the "Now you know you have to call me at 4:00 every day and be on your knees! You didn't call yesterday. You *know* I could get you in a great deal of trouble don't you, My pet?" that gets the slave (and Mistress) hot under the collar (or whip?)
The slave then stammers "Oh, Mistress, I'm SO sorry, I'll do exactly as you tell me! I had company! I - I couldn't call, but I'll make it up to you!"
and he's ragingly aroused.
At some point, the Mistress may contact the persons around the slave (whose addresses he has given Her) with some innocuous message. "Son, an old high school friend called for you. She said her name was Jane. She said she wanted to get together with you." and that sends the slave into another round of arousal, fear, etc.
If the slave knows the Mistress would NEVER compromise him, t6he game is less exciting. The secret is to balance on a knife edge of "She might.... She wouldn't... would she?"
The difficult part is ending the game. If a Mistress decides she no longer wants to play, it's a bit easier, but if the slave decides he no longer wants to play, it's a harder thing to do... I think that disengagement of the two parties needs to be on a pre-arranged set up, such as the Mistress giving the slave a sealed envelope with a release word which the slave gives when he truly wishes the game to end. Or the Mistress sends the envelope or file of photos back to the slave . The best safeguard for both parties is a good solid contract written out beforehand which stipulates that the mistress will adhere to ethical play and the slave will hold the Mistress harmless WRT legal prosecution.
Such a contract really isn't legal, because you cannot agree to perform an illegal act, which blackmail IS, but it, at least, gives both parties written evidence that she is not a predator and he is acting voluntarily. The conditions of the release from play must be spelled out in the contract and three or four copies made. One goes to the sub, one to the Mistress, one to a trusted third party and possibly another to a fourth trusted party (one for slave and one for Mistress) and the copies that are given to the external parties kept SEALED in order to prove that tampering with the document did not occur.
It is a delicate dance and much harder work for the Mistress because the slave, in order to get his charge, must resist the Mistress' orders. Instead of the eager "Yes, Ma'am, I'll do that!" of the slave who loves to serve, there is balking, whining, etc. and the mistress must provide emotional support while at the same time scaring her slave over and over! On the other hand, the intensity of the play is almost entirely up to the slave! He can just leep the threat a low background prsence by complying with the mistress' demands or he can ramp up the play by becoming fractious.
Of course the very best safeguard for the slave is to provide the Mistress with false addresses for contactees, but that defeats the purpose of the play... to scare the slave and excite him at the same time.
As I said before this is serious edgeplay and requires a great deal of trust on both parts and very high ethical boundaries for both, but particularly the Mistress.
Lady Sonelle
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