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Prinsexx -> RE: My search for a female submissive for us.. (10/12/2007 3:21:31 PM)

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ORIGINAL: kitttty

My Master has ordered me to find a submissive partner for us. I am not sure if he intends for her to submit to me or if he intends for us to submit to him together without a hierarchy of authority on our parts.


The dynamics need sorting out.
I have had no problems finding a slave type male sub for 'us' although it will be his role to serve me, to clean me up and to serve my needs when my master has finished with me.
My Master has said that he wants to use a female submissive to make me jealous, to tie meu up and make me listen, also to suck his cosk and also to ensure me that I am his number one.
Any all all or more of what he requires i have agreed to since he is my Dominant.
It has only appeared i think to be easier to get the male slave because my subconscious fears play a part in my process of selection for the female.
That and of course there appears to be more owned submissive femmes than males.
But nothing is impossible. A couple is also willing but I am interviewing ia sub sub couple....these are being presented to me as part of a deal that a photographer gets to take pictures.  How much I need to discuss this with my master is something I need to disucuss with him as we are new together. It's the honeymoon where he is setting tasks and I am happy to obey. I hope the honeymoon lasts.....
we have discussed the fact that I am promiscuous by nature and he gets easily bored...but at least it is my promiscuity (lets call it polyamority) that holds his attention.




obis -> RE: My search for a female submissive for us.. (10/12/2007 4:09:17 PM)

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ORIGINAL: mnottertail
The girl is sent, first she gotta be able to stand the other girl.......the man is secondary in this, believe me. Don't give a fuck Master or not.


Ron is absolutely right, of course, that it is the girls that make or break the situation, particularly in a one-night-stand threesome. She has to do 75% of the seducing, but the guy can't be a passive bystander -- he won't make it happen, but he will sure as hell stop it from happening. The guy's job is basically to be respectable, interesting, funny and not fuck things up. But he can't be absent from the equation, no emotionally stable woman is going to sign up for a (non-paid) threesome not having any idea who the guy involved is.



kitttty -> RE: My search for a female submissive for us.. (10/12/2007 4:11:57 PM)

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LOL, you sure about that.......in my younger days I had four subs in the house...have you ever owned four cunts?


Dude, how did you get four chicks in the house?? Do tell!!


Master says that paying for it is cheating and that the point of the task is for me to show my commitment. The point is not the end- he doesn't actually just want a threesome. What he wants is to see me pull my hair out trying to frantically search for another girl for him. And i had long ago asked if he would ever prefer her to me or if she would always be a peripheral occaisional partner and he said that as long as I am the most obedient, he will like me best. That is good because I have 100% faith in my inability to find a woman capable of enduring the Master like I do.


I have 2 ads on CL- 1 BDSM related and the other vanilla. I wonder if i can get a post op transexual to serve Master- they're 'sluttier' than girls aren't they? I haaave to find a girl or else I'll never know how Master will react to me succeeding.



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: My search for a female submissive for us.. (10/12/2007 4:14:40 PM)

*banging head on keyboard* 

People in Ds are stronger, more secure, more honest and more mature right?  That's what people keep saying...



kitttty -> RE: My search for a female submissive for us.. (10/12/2007 4:18:27 PM)


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People in Ds are stronger, more secure, more honest and more mature right? That's what people keep saying...



People keep saying that who are into Ds. duh. Of course they'd say that. But why would kinky people be any better than the rest?

I dont know about strong/honest/secure/mature and whatnot, but I am pretty damned curious about stuff, especially the Master.



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: My search for a female submissive for us.. (10/12/2007 4:21:14 PM)

I'm not sure you quite understood, or are trying to be sweet in an effort to ignore the intent of my message.

Because I think you and your master are utter messes with so much BS floating around it's ridiculous.



kitttty -> RE: My search for a female submissive for us.. (10/12/2007 4:30:17 PM)

Dammit. I was trying to keep the psychosis under wraps.


Sigh. You have no idea how bad it gets.

Wait, i wonder if a submissive couple fits the bill. Are those easier to find than single female submissives?



CuriousLord -> RE: My search for a female submissive for us.. (10/12/2007 4:44:57 PM)

Perhaps you should suggest to him looking himself.  What sort of sub wants to be recruited through another sub to an unfimilar Dom?  And, if he has any sex appeal, it'd help his case to be seen and speak himself; a charismatic and articulate Dom can typically find a new sub with an awful lot of ease.  You're more likely to attract girls that are.. well, into you.  And I'm not sure if he wants to watch you and another girl play primarily, but if he wants this other girl to serve him, he really ought to be the one to attract her.

Not that you can't help.. perhaps looking for them and making recommendations to him and vouching for him to the other girls could be to his benefit.. I just can't see a quality sub even honestly considering the proposition of a sub for a Dom she doesn't even know.

EDIT:
Actually, just a thought.  I tried the lots-of-slaves thing once before.  We were just open about the dynamic.  A lot of people asked about why she did what I told her, asking why she called me "Master" and such.  The responses ranged from threats to call the police, insults, disgust, curiousity, tolerance, and attraction.

If you just act out the dynamic in an adult environment (such as a bar or an adult-only club) in an earnest, nonhostile manner, some peope might just ask about it anyhow.  Vanilla girls tend to be prone to trying it.  Some'll like it and be great slaves.  Some will decide it's not for them, and eventually leave.  I'd suggest helping those that it probably won't work with it realize it earlier so the break off is easier and such.



mnottertail -> RE: My search for a female submissive for us.. (10/12/2007 4:57:31 PM)

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ORIGINAL: kitttty

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LOL, you sure about that.......in my younger days I had four subs in the house...have you ever owned four cunts?


Dude, how did you get four chicks in the house?? Do tell!!



It shall not be recounted here, it would not be considered haute polyamory nor honorable Mastery these days. This much, pre-hiv days and at the waning of the free love days.

Suffice it to say, I picked them, it ended  very  badly, and I lost any chance at serenity for my entire life.  I can only say I am scarred from the experience...I can never see going over two, and they are either gonna have to be best friends or lovers or both, and the  first girl  will be bait for the other.........it is the only way I will  ever do that again-----oh yeah, and a fucking whip and grenades.

Ron



RapierFugue -> RE: My search for a female submissive for us.. (10/12/2007 5:55:50 PM)

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ORIGINAL: kitttty

Dammit. I was trying to keep the psychosis under wraps.


Sigh. You have no idea how bad it gets.

Wait, i wonder if a submissive couple fits the bill. Are those easier to find than single female submissives?


LOL!
 
Top troll.  6/10.



Arach -> RE: My search for a female submissive for us.. (10/12/2007 6:24:00 PM)

I have a delightful, beautiful, VERY sexy and VERY masochistic young girl as my slave.  We are looking for another to join us because she wants a lot more bi-sexual experience and I.....am a guy.  But the emphasis here is WE are looking.  We both want it, and if it is going to happen we BOTH are going to have to be happy with it.  No, beyond that, if it is going to happen all THREE of us are going to have to be happy with it.  Whether it eventually turns out that my slave will occasionally or constantly dominant the third or whether the third will occasionally or constantly dominate my slave, I don't know.  But neither will dominate me.  That is pretty certain.

I do not know if it is right or wrong, good or bad to have my slave looking.  It just is.  I do know that it is better that we BOTH are, rather than just one of us.

Arach



kitttty -> RE: My search for a female submissive for us.. (10/12/2007 6:35:43 PM)

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Top troll. 6/10.



If I were tops, wouldn't i merit a higher score? Say a 9/10?

I cant be sure that the Master isn't looking, especially since he has at least once asked me to be the third partner. Once he asked me to be the third partner and phrased it as though his existing girl was the less important one to him.

if i join a local BDSM group, it is likely that the Master will accompany me to meetings and he will in the process be part of finding third girl but he is not going to do the online search- or at least he wouldn't tell me about it.



RapierFugue -> RE: My search for a female submissive for us.. (10/12/2007 6:54:54 PM)

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ORIGINAL: kitttty

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Top troll. 6/10.



If I were tops, wouldn't i merit a higher score? Say a 9/10?

I cant be sure that the Master isn't looking, especially since he has at least once asked me to be the third partner. Once he asked me to be the third partner and phrased it as though his existing girl was the less important one to him.

if i join a local BDSM group, it is likely that the Master will accompany me to meetings and he will in the process be part of finding third girl but he is not going to do the online search- or at least he wouldn't tell me about it.


No.  For that kind of score it would have to be a) less lame a car crash of a situation and b) more entertaining.  This manages to be both predictable *and* boring.
 
Seriously, you’re on a hiding to nothing, as it were. 
 
Or I’m wrong, in which case pop back in 5 years and tell us all how wonderful it all is.
 
I know my words seem harsh, but honestly, they’re not; I’ve seen this sort of shite 100 times before, here and elsewhere.  Hell, I’ve even, in my shameful, lying past a decade ago, been party to such activities.  I hang my head in shame, as I bloody well should.
 
So he’s looking to add you as a third, while getting you to look for a third?  You can’t be sure that Master isn’t already looking himself, *alone*?  Here’s a trick: take a deep breath, clear your mind, step back – now look at how silly that sounds.
 
Your line about just wanting to find another girl to suck his cock with you speaks volumes, quite apart from the last nail in the coffin of romance motif it flourishes;  this is supposed to be about *HIM* leading *YOU*; do you seriously think you’ll learn much from roping in whatever 3-hole skank you can locate into this set-up?
 
Are you really that easily taken in?  No, of course you’re not.  No-one is.
 
Ergo, it’s a troll, or the soap-opera of the challenged.  Either way, it makes lame reading.  End of.



RapierFugue -> RE: My search for a female submissive for us.. (10/12/2007 7:01:04 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Arach

I have a delightful, beautiful, VERY sexy and VERY masochistic young girl as my slave.  We are looking for another to join us because she wants a lot more bi-sexual experience and I.....am a guy.  But the emphasis here is WE are looking.  We both want it, and if it is going to happen we BOTH are going to have to be happy with it.  No, beyond that, if it is going to happen all THREE of us are going to have to be happy with it.  Whether it eventually turns out that my slave will occasionally or constantly dominant the third or whether the third will occasionally or constantly dominate my slave, I don't know.  But neither will dominate me.  That is pretty certain.

I do not know if it is right or wrong, good or bad to have my slave looking.  It just is.  I do know that it is better that we BOTH are, rather than just one of us.

Arach


Lovely post.  If I’d read that first I wouldn’t have bothered to answer the other post.  Honest, direct, open.  Fair play to you.



kitttty -> RE: My search for a female submissive for us.. (10/12/2007 7:16:57 PM)

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do you seriously think you’ll learn much from roping in whatever 3-hole skank you can locate into this set-up?


I will learn what happens. I want to know what will he will do if I succeed.


And what's the harm in obeying my Master anyways?



RapierFugue -> RE: My search for a female submissive for us.. (10/12/2007 7:21:36 PM)

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ORIGINAL: kitttty

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do you seriously think you’ll learn much from roping in whatever 3-hole skank you can locate into this set-up?


I will learn what happens. I want to know what will he will do if I succeed.


And what's the harm in obeying my Master anyways?


Nothing.  Go right ahead.



Celeste43 -> RE: My search for a female submissive for us.. (10/12/2007 7:46:17 PM)

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ORIGINAL: kitttty

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do you seriously think you’ll learn much from roping in whatever 3-hole skank you can locate into this set-up?


I will learn what happens. I want to know what will he will do if I succeed.


And what's the harm in obeying my Master anyways?


Getting an std is the harm. However learning that as long as he gets his rocks off, he doesn't give a damn what diseases get passed around is something you should learn. Unfortunately it's likely to be sooner and not later.



MaamJay -> RE: My search for a female submissive for us.. (10/12/2007 9:20:16 PM)

Geez anyone else feel sorry for any poor unsuspecting third that gets entangled into this mess?
Maam Jay aka violet[A]



EvilGenie -> RE: My search for a female submissive for us.. (10/12/2007 9:47:36 PM)

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

*banging head on keyboard* 

People in Ds are stronger, more secure, more honest and more mature right?  That's what people keep saying...


My head is now bloodied from banging it on the keyboard for so long. Brick wall is next! [sm=banghead.gif]  Damn, I could have had a V-8.



EvilGenie -> RE: My search for a female submissive for us.. (10/12/2007 9:59:05 PM)

''asstard'', mental note: REMEMBER that one!



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