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DarkDaddyZ -> RE: Age (10/12/2007 6:22:07 PM)

24 to 60 is my window (23 if you count chellekitty, LOL). 




FullCircle -> RE: Age (10/12/2007 6:24:46 PM)

If you are young enough that you can climb the stairs you’re not too old to be tired to the stairs as seen in all good amateur/ex-wives porn.




Celeste43 -> RE: Age (10/12/2007 6:26:33 PM)

If you're looking for a play only relationship it wouldn't matter much. If you're looking for a d/s only relationship it probably doesn't matter much.

It is more likely to matter if you're looking for a life partner. If you're 30 you may want to start a family at which point a 50 year old isn't the right partner, as they probably already have offspring who are closer in age to you than they are. Looking for someone to grow old with? Someone 20 years older is less likely to be able to travel with you when you retire, if they're still alive. Do you need commonality of life experiences in a partner? Unlikely in someone with a huge age difference.

How much it matters depends on what you look for in your relationship.




Aileen68 -> RE: Age (10/12/2007 6:26:36 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: FullCircle

If you are young enough that you can climb the stairs you’re not too old to be tired to the stairs as seen in all good amateur/ex-wives porn.


What????  Have you been spending time with Ron? 




FullCircle -> RE: Age (10/12/2007 6:28:41 PM)

Yep I tied him to the stairs he didn't like it but old people are easy to push around once you threaten to take away their meals on wheels.[:D]




FullCircle -> RE: Age (10/12/2007 6:32:29 PM)

I wonder if that silver slut at the start of Buck Rogers is still as sexy today? Why is it the people of today don't wear semi transparent 70’s space age stuff.?[;)] It should be law.




MidMichCowboy -> RE: Age (10/12/2007 6:43:15 PM)

Age is just a number. I'm more interested in shared interests and passions. Horses, motorcycles, liberal politics, wine tasting, rodeo, jazz, blues, what books have you read, what are your politics, COFFEE, tea, not having to be entertained 24/7, rides in the rain (yep on motorcycles or horses), skinny dipping, .. well, you get the idea. Plus, I have young kids and friends from 19 to 99. A little over three years ago, this cowboy fell in love with and almost married a young, intellectual goth lady. But life held an opportunity far from where I could move cause of my kids, and I supported her taking her chance. I've known ladies older than me and the same age. But ... I am young in mind and activities .. that you must match. So to all you lovely ladies, I don't care what age you are.




MySweetSubmssive -> RE: Age (10/12/2007 7:36:55 PM)

It doesn't really matter to me if they are older or younger -- I've enjoyed both and don't see age as affecting the D/s dynamic. 

What matters is how much older or how much younger.  In general, I don't think I would have a lot in common with an 18 year old submissive (or otherwise) male, though having one that young is a wickedly delcious idea.  And because I would like things to be open to a relationship (and even baby making), I'd want someone close to my own age.  Of course, this isn't hard and fast.  If I met the love of my life and he was the "wrong" age, I wouldn't think about it twice.

MSS




SexyBlackMan2 -> RE: Age (10/12/2007 7:47:45 PM)

age doesn't matter. I've had younger and older.




iammachine -> RE: Age (10/12/2007 9:14:02 PM)

I know that age is a factor for me, though I wouldn't consider it to be an incredibly important one.

When it comes to scening, really age only matters as far as "Can they play with me legally?" Aside from that, it's not a factor. I have played with spry young 18 year olds, and wise leather daddies in their 60's (and still as hot as ever in chaps!).

In regards to longer term arrangements, ie some flavor of partnering, I tend to relate best to people somewhat older than myself but within "peer range". I consider anyone up to about a ten year upward swing to be in my peer group, as I've almost always interacted with people about that age range older than myself. I've often found it difficult to relate to people younger than myself, though as I am getting older, that gap is beginning to close some as younger people's life experience is catching up with my own.

That, of course, is something that I consider to be a very soft guideline. I have just found that (age) discepancies beyond about a decade have "often enough" for me to notice been counter to comptability; ie, just not having as much in common in terms of interests, life experience, goals et cetera. Similarly, I've found that most people younger than myself generally don't have anywhere near the life experience I have, and we have a difficult time relating. I'm not going to make any self indulgent commentary about maturity, I was just one of those people that had to grow up fast, so it skews things. I was living as an "adult" when most of my direct peers were still enjoying being kids.

There's an exception to every rule, of course. My rules are more like the pirate's code anyway, they're more like guidelines. :)




erebus -> RE: Age (10/12/2007 9:44:05 PM)

I could not relate to anyone younger than, say, 40 (not that anyone young has been asking).  The life experiences are just too great.  Other than that, I have few restrictions.  Attitude is the most important thing, isn't it?  Chemistry is important on the other hand, though, I must say.




erebus -> RE: Age (10/12/2007 9:48:55 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Celeste43

Someone 20 years older is less likely to be able to travel with you when you retire, if they're still alive.


This I couldn't disagree with more.  I've hiked with some men in their late 60s who will leave you in the dust.  I used to hike a lot, and I was surprised at how many 20 year olds who were out-of-shape and couldn't keep up with those twice (or more) their age.  The thin and wiry older guys were the ones to watch out for. 

Kids these days are soft.  All those video games, I guess.




Celeste43 -> RE: Age (10/13/2007 8:31:00 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: erebus

quote:

ORIGINAL: Celeste43

Someone 20 years older is less likely to be able to travel with you when you retire, if they're still alive.


This I couldn't disagree with more.  I've hiked with some men in their late 60s who will leave you in the dust.  I used to hike a lot, and I was surprised at how many 20 year olds who were out-of-shape and couldn't keep up with those twice (or more) their age.  The thin and wiry older guys were the ones to watch out for. 

Kids these days are soft.  All those video games, I guess.



You're 55, a woman 20 years older than you would now be 75. Let's say you retire at age 70 and want to start traveling the world. At that point she'll be 90 and probably not up to your level of activity.

On the other hand if the woman is 20 years younger, then when you're 70 she'll be 50 and not able to retire herself and go traveling, because of the negative impact on her career and her future economic needs. This btw presumes that she doesn't have, at age 50, family still needing raising and college tuitions to provide.




InnocentYoungSub -> RE: Age (10/13/2007 10:03:16 AM)

I do like older women a lot. But I'm also open to women closer to my age. Its just that..well I don't really trust women right around my age. I have reasons, lol.




pinioned14Me -> RE: Age (10/13/2007 7:39:55 PM)

I prefer they're compatible. Age isn't the qualifier...attitude is.




came4U -> RE: Age (10/13/2007 10:14:28 PM)

I've been with older *which I usually prefer, but one such geezer (as I call him) 'acted' sooo old it was a turn off.  His behavior and vocabulary was so old fashioned it made me stop and wonder 'wtf am I doing??'

Yet, younger than 35, I sense the same issues.  They have a different beat about them. I don't understand them, they don't understand me. I fail to find them very interesting.  I'm stuck.  Late 30's to mid 50's are my limits now. They are old enough to have their shit together, yet young enough to not be tuckered-out from strollin in a mall.




Willowmoon -> RE: Age (10/13/2007 10:29:58 PM)

Age matters to me.

I do not want to belong to somebody who is much younger then me nor do I want anyone that is anymore then ten years older then me. On the older side of things I hate the idea of doing anything with anyone that is anywhere near my parents age it repulses me.





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