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being collared - 10/12/2007 11:31:19 AM

shyred

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If i may i would like to ask what being collared means to you, anyone may put there 2 or more cents in. Even if your not collared.

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RE: being collared - 10/12/2007 11:42:12 AM

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being collared to me means - i'm owned property but also loved, protected and cherished daughter by Daddy. not only am i collared by Him, He's also chained (i wear ankle chains and wrist one) and ringed (recently presented me with His ring) me. now i completely wear all of His symbols of ownership on my body because this is a lifetime commitment between us. we're considering a tat on my right leg.

yet since i have 2 Doms in my life, my 2nd will be have special jewelry for me to wear as symbols of his ownership as his submissive/wife. those he won't present to me until we meet again in Jan.

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RE: being collared - 10/12/2007 11:43:27 AM

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cut and pasted from my journal

this question gets asked a lot on the boards"what does a collar mean to you"to me it means exactly the same thing as a wedding ring. It goes on once and only intolerable cruelty or infidelity would cause it to be removed. Just as i believe one marries for life, one collars for life. Infact i would go as far as to say i would no sooner place a collar on my neck as i would a ring on my finger - and if i am granted my desire in this, that i would not take a collar until i am also given a wedding ring.

A marriage is a partnership between two people, who bind themselves together in a relationship of love, care, security and support for the rest of their life. As husband and wife you carve yourselves a place in the world together and protect eachother from the hardships of life as best you can.

Marriage is forged for a lifetime, marriage is not easy and i have almost no respect for those who treat a marriage as something disposable. I have watched my parents struggle and fight for their marriage, they have worked hard to maintain a happy and healthy marriage for more than 40 years and that is exactly as it should be. A collar is the ring for the other side of the relationship, the collar is the Ms wedding ring.

As fro those poeple that wander around with a collar dangling from their finger tips to play hoopla with the nearest submissive ....What kind of woman would you get if you walked around a bar offering a wedding ring to any girl who would take it?

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RE: being collared - 10/12/2007 11:43:46 AM

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I am not currently collared but have been. My views are from being in the lifestyle for many years. To me a collar is a deep commitment. It's two people cementing their bond and promising to do their best to fulfill one another's needs in their respective roles. It's not unlike the symbolism of a wedding ring. For the sub/slave it's surrendering herself willingly to her chosen Master. For the Dominant it is an acceptance of great responsibility to see to the sub/slave's needs. I'm sure others will argue semantics and some will have more poetic responses but this is my basic belief on a collar. It's symbolic of ownership thus meaning trust, respect and open communication and hopefully honestly have been attained in the relationship and they want to commit to each other. I believe it should be for life and the relationship should be filled with all the love and emotion a marriage is supposed to hold. It should NEVER be taken or offered lightly.

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RE: being collared - 10/12/2007 12:55:00 PM

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to this slave it is a powerful relationship symbol...not fashion(even if it is fashionable), or as something to wear on a whim. it is symbolic of ownership to One individual with complete authority and power over this slave's earthly life, until death parts us.

unlike others who wear multiple collars, this slave's path has her wearing One's collar, and cannot fathom wearing anyOne elses.

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RE: being collared - 10/12/2007 1:23:09 PM

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A collar is not the guarantee of security that some think them to be. How well you get along *is.*

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RE: being collared - 10/12/2007 2:15:56 PM

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To me it means I Belong to him..... and he Belongs to me.

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RE: being collared - 10/12/2007 3:39:14 PM

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For me, its the bdsm equivalent of a wedding band. I belong to him.

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RE: being collared - 10/12/2007 4:22:42 PM

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RE: being collared - 10/12/2007 6:08:46 PM

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Being collared to me is being marked. It is like shouting from the mountain tops that i am owned and belong to only Him. i am proud to wear the collar of the One i beg it from. To me it is beautiful and a very precious gift. i radiate knowing that He wants me to be only His.
He is my everything, my instructor, my disciplinarian, my confidant, my lover and my best friend. i turn to Him for everything as He is my protector and guide.

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RE: being collared - 10/15/2007 11:07:11 AM

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Ty all for your comments.

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RE: being collared - 10/15/2007 12:36:53 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: shyred

If i may i would like to ask what being collared means to you, anyone may put there 2 or more cents in. Even if your not collared.

It is somewhat like a wedding ring and a marriage to me. A formal commitment to each other, to our relationship and a symbol of that commitment.

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RE: being collared - 10/15/2007 2:02:50 PM

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It means that we belong to each other....forever!

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RE: being collared - 10/15/2007 2:09:21 PM

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collared to me in being committed to each other a sign of respect saying yes this is my partner,and yes i respect her or him enough to some sort of degree to honour him/her with this token of my affection,committement and love/devotion

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RE: being collared - 10/15/2007 5:44:21 PM

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For us a collar is a symbol of our love, commitment and permanence to each other.

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RE: being collared - 10/16/2007 9:16:30 AM

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this is something i have given much thought to

and this is where i stand on it. He does not have to collar me(only if he wishes to) as for the commitment side of it i am His and He knows it, as do i. the symbolism for me comes from the marks(bite,cane,belt,ect.) He leaves on this body. i have found that i dont need anything else to represent how W/we feel about each other, W/we know.

no, i am not collared, but i dont really feel the need to be.

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RE: being collared - 10/16/2007 4:25:50 PM

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for me a collar is a formalization of a power exchange relationship...as a sub or slave in the relationship, i wear the collar...it is not necessary for me to be collared to be owned and i can be collared without being owned....

i also at times wear a collar as part of my kitty persona to lifestyle events...because kitties should not be wandering around in public without a collar on....

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