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Cant have sex becosue of Premature ejacualtion, help? - 10/12/2007 10:31:03 PM

subpaul1960

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Hello Everybody. I am a 47 year old submissive white male i have been chaste pretty much for the last 10 years. My question is that now im tryng to have children but am not able to last long enough to penetrate and cum before peneration or just as i am about to enter.

Is this common amoung submissive males?
and is it even desirable?

And of course Mistress with males with simialr problems please can you respond with your sugestions or suport or help

Thank you in advance

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RE: Cant have sex becosue of Premature ejacualtion, help? - 10/13/2007 2:39:06 AM

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Yes, quite a few men have problems with erectile dysfunction and or premature ejaculation. Well done, you have taken the first step and that is admitting that you do have a problem, many bury their head in the sand. Now go see your doctor and have a check up. A friend of mine went for hypnosis and he said he had good results from this.

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RE: Cant have sex becosue of Premature ejacualtion, help? - 10/13/2007 3:03:59 AM

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Can I suggest that you stop focusing on the actual orgasm, and try desensitising your penis? It can be a long process, but if you or your partner spend time playing with your bits, stopping when you almost feel ready to orgasm, leaving it a few minutes, then playing again, it can be very effective. Sex shouldn't be attempted while you are doing this, for maybe a few weeks. If you have been chaste for a long time, I think you will probably get too excited to quickly when having sex.

You can also try the above method, but when you are almost ready to pop, one of you firmly grasp the end of your penis with thumb and both forefingers, until you go soft again. Keep doing this whilever you can. Eventually, your dick will become desensitized to the pleasurable sensations and you'll be able to "perform" better and longer.

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RE: Cant have sex becosue of Premature ejacualtion, help? - 10/13/2007 7:59:51 AM

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My slave has this same issue because other training used on him in the past. This is the reason I do not like chasity. It has it's benefits for some; however, a lot of folks including myself do not understand the full damage it can do to the male reproductive system.
Now, here is my suggestion as the others have suggested as well. You need to go to a doctor one who specializes in reproductive disorders such as an endocrynologist (hope I spelled that right) and tell them exactly what has been going on. They are highly trained in infertility, and will be able to do tests and show you what you can do. Don't waste anytime.
I compliment you for coming forth and asking questions. I wish you the best and hope you get to have a little one soon.
You really need to go to the doc for this one.

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RE: Cant have sex becosue of Premature ejacualtion, help? - 10/13/2007 8:52:58 AM

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Ask your primary for a referral to someone who specializes in male sexual dysfunction. Unfortunately, when it comes to sexuality the term use it or lose it does apply.

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RE: Cant have sex becosue of Premature ejacualtion, help? - 10/13/2007 1:54:49 PM

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Just chiming in to agree with SEE A DOCTOR. A urologist, an endocrinologist, and possibly a sex therapist for an array of exercises to do.

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RE: Cant have sex becosue of Premature ejacualtion, help? - 10/13/2007 8:09:37 PM

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Thank you for the replys

In response i have seen several doctors and clinics and tried everything from excerises to cream to drugs with no success.

using the stop start merthod of firm pressure on the tip of the penis does not work on me as the slightest physical touch of the penis triggers orgasm, sometimes even when it is not being touched. After i cum im unable to achieve another erection for several days afterwards.

I suspect my long term chastity i was chatse and without erection and orgasm for over 7 years at onepoint, has cuased this

Any other ideas, suggestion would be welcomed

Thank you

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RE: Cant have sex becosue of Premature ejacualtion, help? - 10/13/2007 9:20:31 PM

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Well if I was "chaste" for 10 years I'm sure I would orgasm immediately as well. Maybe you just need to catch the little guy up and give him some more attention. I have found that using oral and then denying with males tends to make them last longer. If this problem has been around for awhile, however, go see a doctor, it could be an indication of something else wrong.
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RE: Cant have sex becosue of Premature ejacualtion, help? - 10/14/2007 1:26:35 AM

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Hello again ben

Yes, that's what I'm talking about. You say that once you orgasm, you can't achieve erection again for several days. Try, in that time, playing with your dick. You seem to be basing everything on sex, erection and ejaculation. You need to desensitize the area and NOT in a sexual way. If you are only doing this whilst in a sexually charged situation, the problem will continue forever.

laurell is right also. This could be an underlying medical condition, which isn't helping. It sounds more likely to be a phsycological problem, but if you have tried so many "cures" and nothing has helped, you are only going to get the same answers here as all the doctors and clinics have suggested.

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RE: Cant have sex becosue of Premature ejacualtion, help? - 10/14/2007 1:48:54 AM

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Hello Paul/Ben,
If having children is what you are trying to achieve penetration isn't strictly necessary. There are syringes (is that the word?) and "turkey basters" commonly used to introduce the semen into the vagina, all you need to do is produce the juice. Not as romantic, that's for sure, but no less chance to produce a baby that way.
Sex is so much more than penetration! One idea would be to learn to concetrate on everything but it. That has been known to help since your mind is off it.

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