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slavegirljoy -> RE: Falling In Love (11/1/2007 10:50:04 PM)
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ORIGINAL: OnyxDelphi
What is the social etiquette for falling in love with your Dom/Sub/Master/Slave.
Love is a feeling and i don't know of any etiquette governing feelings. Expressing that feeling is another matter. When my Master first spoke to me of becoming His slave, He made it very clear that i would be His slave for life and nothing more, not His girlfriend or wife or anything other than His slave. So, when i began to feel a deeper fondness for my Master growing inside me, it was very frustrating for me because i was afraid of overstepping my place, as His slave, if i were to express my feelings for Him.
It took a long time and several entries in my journal, which my Master reads, and discussions and tears and, gradually, it became clear that my feelings for my Master were not something to be afraid of and that they were welcomed by Him and that He had developed deeper feelings for me, too and these feelings were not going to cause my place in His life, as His slave, to change or change the way He uses me or change the way i serve Him.
i asked Him for permission to display my affections for Him through a hug and a kiss and He granted it. He also started to show affection for me by giving me a kiss or a hug. He has also moved me into His bed from my bed on His floor and has kept me there for the past month. For the first 22 months of my being His slave, He expected to see His slave wearing His collar, chained and asleep on His bedroom floor, when He got home from work. Now, He expects to see His slave wearing His collar, chained and asleep in His bed. He enjoys me being in His bed and i like being there. But, if He were to say to me that i need to go back to my bed on His floor, i would do so, without any bad feelings. i sleep well in both places and i know that He cares for me, just the same, whether i am sleeping in His bed or on His floor.
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Is it wrong, should there be a fine line? [>:] What do you do if you're not in love and the other one is? [&o]
How can feeling love for someone be wrong? It can definately complicate a relationship, especially when one person feels love for the other and the feeling isn't returned. How to handle that really depends on how each person wants to handle it and what each is willing to live with. i am a very loyal person and i would never let my feelings interfere with my loyalty to my Master. i agreed to be His slave for life and that's what i feel bound to do. There was no love offered and no love guaranteed but, if love develops, even if it is one-sided, that doesn't give me cause to go back on my word to my Master to be His slave for life.
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Is it wrong, is it right...and more importantly...what do you do?
-Master Fiik
Love is a feeling. How can that be wrong? Feelings just are what they are. What i did was let my Master know how i was feeling, through my journal and through discussions.
You can't make someone love you but, neither can you stop feelings of love from developing, if they are. You can't just say "don't love me" and expect that to be the end of it. Love happens, sometimes, especially over time, when two people are living together in a very intimate way and are depending on each other for meeting some very deep needs in each other. Love isn't a bad thing and it doesn't need to be a reason to change the Master/slave relationship that's already there. Love can add some to the relationship between the Master and the slave in a positive way. It can also complicate the relationship but, that is just something you have to deal with your own way.
Like with most issues in a relationship, feelings of love are not just going to go away on it's own, so it really is best just to get it out in the open and talk about it and then, figure out how to deal with it.
slave joy
Owned property of Master David
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