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Could you obey better? - 7/29/2005 7:00:31 PM

Superman42280

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Anyone here think they need to improve as a sub/slave? What could you do better to obey and be a better sub/slave?

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RE: Could you obey better? - 7/29/2005 7:06:50 PM

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I think we all have improvements we need to make in all areas of our lives. I think my main improvement that I'm focusing on is learning to speak the same language as my Dom. We have a lot in common but are two very different people.... with different communication styles.

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RE: Could you obey better? - 7/29/2005 7:20:43 PM

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Oh hell I KNOW I do... I'm not perfect, especially since "perfect" usually means your comparing a slave to what you read in a book without regards to reality. Oh well. Only person I have to please is Master :)

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RE: Could you obey better? - 7/29/2005 7:24:29 PM

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Of course. The Owner is actually terribly happy with how things have been going lately, but there's always room for improvement and growth.

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RE: Could you obey better? - 7/30/2005 9:21:16 AM

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I think anyone who is honest with themselves will say that there is always room for growth and improvement, be that with their slavery or with their every day things such as work.

Stagnation is worse than death.

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RE: Could you obey better? - 7/30/2005 12:00:50 PM

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master says i am a bad slave because i let vannlla feelings get in the way. how can I stop my needs and wants so i dont top from the bottom as he says?

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RE: Could you obey better? - 7/30/2005 12:36:44 PM

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master says i am a bad slave because i let vannlla feelings get in the way. how can I stop my needs and wants so i dont top from the bottom as he says?

Define Vanilla feelings.

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RE: Could you obey better? - 7/30/2005 2:55:03 PM

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I don't think that any sub/slave thinks of themselves as perfect. We are always trying to improve on something. I know I have always thought that I can't do anything right, so everything I do, I do to the best of my ability.

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RE: Could you obey better? - 7/30/2005 6:35:42 PM

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Without question. For me it is a learning process, and much of that learning involves learning to put HIS needs ahead of my own.

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RE: Could you obey better? - 7/31/2005 12:44:36 AM

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I feel that I dont communicate well with my Master... I only been a Slave for a little over 3 years and I still have trouble communicating. I can"t seemto express my feeling to my Master without stepping out of line.

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RE: Could you obey better? - 7/31/2005 7:58:41 AM

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I think we could all stand improvement somewhere. I can't think of a specific area of our relationship that needs work, but that doesn't mean it's not there. We basically take each issue as it comes up and try to do better afterward. Living is learning.

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RE: Could you obey better? - 7/31/2005 8:13:49 AM

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Oh yes....Master is always telling me things I need to work on. Its mostly my attitude and the shift from Mommy/Running the house mode to humble, quiet, submissive slave mode. Hard to do in our house, but its something I know I need to work on.

There are a myriad of things that could always need improvement, my slavery is a process of learning, loving and self discovery. So I know there wont be an end in sight any time soon

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RE: Could you obey better? - 7/31/2005 8:27:54 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Superman42280

Anyone here think they need to improve as a sub/slave? What could you do better to obey and be a better sub/slave?

No. I'm perfect.

(What a silly question.)

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RE: Could you obey better? - 7/31/2005 8:30:55 AM

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obey better ...i dunno i think this one boils down to the angel that sits on one of my shoulders and the lil devil that resides on the other submission is at times difficult ..if everything he asked me for i could do or obey without tht i'm not sure i would feel stretched or that i was in a way stretching him -i like the struggle sometimes ...i like Him watching me ponder and try harder and harder to achieve i think it mildly amuses Him.
Of course i want to grow and develope and be all i can be for Him i want Him to be pround but in doing so i don't want to loose the features that he found attractive in the 1st place ...i hope tht makes sense x

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RE: Could you obey better? - 7/31/2005 8:31:34 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Davesgirl

Oh yes....Master is always telling me things I need to work on. Its mostly my attitude and the shift from Mommy/Running the house mode to humble, quiet, submissive slave mode. Hard to do in our house, but its something I know I need to work on.

There are a myriad of things that could always need improvement, my slavery is a process of learning, loving and self discovery. So I know there wont be an end in sight any time soon

Interesting, I'm not sure how the two conflict frankly.

Here I help my Mistress raise her grandchildren so I spend a lot of time riding herd. In our case She does not find this at all non-submissive, but rather a service. Needless to say, I don't run herd over Her, and no matter what else is going on I treat Her as She "should" be treated at all times.

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RE: Could you obey better? - 7/31/2005 8:50:48 AM

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quote:

master says i am a bad slave because i let vannlla feelings get in the way. how can I stop my needs and wants so i dont top from the bottom as he says?

Communicate everything, then you won't feel the subconcious need to get it out there by topping from the bottom. When he knows what you need he can and most likely will keep that in mind and incorporate an answer to your need in whatever you're doing.

I can't emphasize it enough. Communicate, EVERYTHING. He'll love you all the more for it, and you'll feel a lot better, even if you feel awkward in the moment of communication.

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RE: Could you obey better? - 8/1/2005 9:11:18 AM

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Ok, I do see where the confusion can come up with my last post. Let me see if I can maybe clarify?

Our home is chaotic, to say the elast. 6 kids, running 1100 mph from the time their feet hit the floor. So, its a bit rare that I have any free down time. Master elaves for work in the afternoon, and isnt home til around 1130 that night. For around 13 hours a day, Im in almost constant Mom mode...The one in control, the one making the rules and seeing that they are obeyed. But, at teh same time, it is also a service mode, now that I think of it. Because its not jsut the kids I tend, its him as well, til he leaves for work.

I think I am having this problem right now, mainly, because we are both new to our new relationship style. Just going to take some work.

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RE: Could you obey better? - 8/1/2005 9:38:20 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Davesgirl

Ok, I do see where the confusion can come up with my last post. Let me see if I can maybe clarify?

Our home is chaotic, to say the elast. 6 kids, running 1100 mph from the time their feet hit the floor. So, its a bit rare that I have any free down time. Master elaves for work in the afternoon, and isnt home til around 1130 that night. For around 13 hours a day, Im in almost constant Mom mode...The one in control, the one making the rules and seeing that they are obeyed. But, at teh same time, it is also a service mode, now that I think of it. Because its not jsut the kids I tend, its him as well, til he leaves for work.

I think I am having this problem right now, mainly, because we are both new to our new relationship style. Just going to take some work.

I follow the same struggle.. every day, but with three children. Its hard, at the end of the day of running, yelling, disciplining and being the one in control.. to turn and fall into submission. However, sometimes there is nothing I want more then to be "just slave" especially after a hard day. It is a bit easier for me, however as Master works 2am - 1130am. So he is home during the afternoon and able to take charge, but that doesnt mean I am in any less control when it comes to the kids. One of my favorite parts of the day, is after bedtime - I simply get to kneel beside Master.. until he says otherwise. It is part of our routine, and it allows me to fall back into my "center"

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RE: Could you obey better? - 8/1/2005 12:14:50 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Davesgirl

Oh yes....Master is always telling me things I need to work on. Its mostly my attitude and the shift from Mommy/Running the house mode to humble, quiet, submissive slave mode. Hard to do in our house, but its something I know I need to work on.

There are a myriad of things that could always need improvement, my slavery is a process of learning, loving and self discovery. So I know there wont be an end in sight any time soon

That is exactly what I was going to say. I have to manage and control everything else that goes on around our house, and it's a difficult thing when I'm on a schedule - I have a plan so everything gets done - and I have to stop for whatever reason. My initial response is to get fiesty, but I have to take a moment and refocus. Hopefully that will get better with time.

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RE: Could you obey better? - 8/1/2005 1:27:41 PM

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No Matter how goos a slave/sub is no one is ever perfect. I was in Gor and they have a saying "prefection is the goal mere excellence will be tolarated" i think that say it all.

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