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MsLilac -> RE: help! - I'm nice and cuddly.... apparently (10/17/2007 4:54:53 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TNstepsout "you know X, I've been thinking about what you said last week, you know, about how "cuddly" I look on my profile?" "yes Ma'am" "Well I think you're right, I AM cuddly. I don't know if there's anything to be done about it. You know, some women are just, well... cuddly." "yes Ma'am" "Why don't you come over here and sit close and see for yourself how cuddly I am.....that's it...closer...no, even closer, remember, I'm nice and cuddly, nothing to be afraid of......." In the voice of Hannibal Lecter ........Clooooser. [;)] wicked grin

pixelslave -> RE: help! - I'm nice and cuddly.... apparently (10/17/2007 4:33:27 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyEllen He's due back here Thursday so we'll "go over his opinions". After reading this thread, assuming he's a member of CM, he may be in fear for his life to even show! Good luck Lady E, enjoy being yourself! [;)] - pixel Collared to Majik

iammachine -> RE: help! - I'm nice and cuddly.... apparently (10/17/2007 7:23:50 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ocilla quote: ORIGINAL: iammachine quote: iammachine words I dig your profile and posts a whole lot Ohhh... I get creative interpretations (spelling [;)]) of my screen name and paraphrased! I feel special! sheesh! I am soooo busted. And I do know better than to not verify and proof - what was I thinking.? Sorry bout that and thanks for being nice and cuddly about it. he he It's what I do! [:D] I'm so nice, I even fixed the typo in the quote for you. [8D]

feralcat -> RE: help! - I'm nice and cuddly.... apparently (10/17/2007 7:54:01 PM)
Lady Ellen, your profile is just fine. You are honest about what you want and desire. There is nothing wrong with that. Nice and cuddly is a good thing. I get that "Gee you are so NICE ,are you sure you are a Domme?" often enough too. Can I be cruel? Sure .Demanding and very objective, damn skippy...but a bitch 24/7...nah Why waste all that good energy on being something I am not?! And since when is an internet profile an all encompassing look at who we are? I think that boy has been out here doing too much fantasy stroking.:-)You just be you.

HarryVanWinkle -> RE: help! - I'm nice and cuddly.... apparently (10/17/2007 10:04:19 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyEllen Whether I do come across as being rather nice actually and not at all a nasty, vicious sadist? E Some of the nastiest, most vicious sadists I know are rather nice actually. I don't see a conflict here.

petdave -> RE: help! - I'm nice and cuddly.... apparently (10/18/2007 5:01:42 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TNstepsout You know, the more I read this thread, the more amused I am. I can only imagine what I would do and how I would react if told I looked too cuddly. How can you be a silly goofball and not be cuddly? [:o]

LadyEllen -> RE: help! - I'm nice and cuddly.... apparently (10/18/2007 6:20:50 AM)
Well, he's due back here in 4 hours folks. Update later.... E

LadyEllen -> RE: help! - I'm nice and cuddly.... apparently (10/18/2007 3:21:33 PM)
OK. He's just been and now left, suitably appraised I believe, of the notion that I am in fact more than capable of being Psycho Bitch From Hell (TM). Not that I thrashed him, or anything like that. His angle is, that I should partner up with him, to make videos for sale over the web. For this reason, I need to portray Psycho Bitch From Hell, to further my career prospects. He's also adamant that I have excellent prospects. Whilst a techy pimp is a good thing - sorting out websites and the like, its even better that he acknowledges that I run the money, and he gets whatever I think is right - even nothing, if thats how I feel. And so, we spent the evening making "screen tests" for something I find rather bizarre, but which is quite popular according to the results we got from a couple of video download sites upon searching. Also something rather strange in that it was what I did to my fax machine the other day. I would never have guessed such an activity would be something that others might want to see, but obviously they do. OK, yes, I see the "aggressive nasty bitch" appeal, but the objects of attention? No. An old laptop computer, a calculator, a mobile phone, a disk drive, a TV remote and a singing teddy bear. All fell foul of the 5'' heels of Psycho Bitch From Hell(TM), who proved herself more than apt at something called "Crush" (or was it "Stomp"?) due to her capability to conjure genuine rage from nowhere. Now this is never going to be a real earner - a few quid here and there maybe. But, my new partner in crime is also very experienced in visiting pro-dommes, knows what they charge for what they do and what I could charge for what I will do. Of course, my friend and I wanted to do something similar for ourselves, but to be fair, its never got off the ground; in this guy though I sense the know how to get it going - and I shall be sharing the know how with my friend, because after all, I am still nice and cuddly too. So, thats his story. Sounds good to me - but maybe too good? Still, we'll see E

petdave -> RE: help! - I'm nice and cuddly.... apparently (10/18/2007 5:59:37 PM)
Hm, i don't know about paying for videos, but i suspect a nice mouse pad or poster of a Woman driving her heel through a Brother fax machine/printer/multifunction would be pretty damned marketable!

LillithWithin -> RE: help! - I'm nice and cuddly.... apparently (11/8/2007 1:35:55 AM)
Being nice and cuddly does not mean that you can't also be sadistic, or any other thing you feel like being whenever you feel like being it. While I understand the internal dilemma since it's something I went through a while back, I'd suggest you consider have some discussion with your fan about his projecting caricatures of what a Domme "should" or "shouldn't" be onto you. It might be helpful to do so in your sweetest, snuggliest voice, while doing some of the most vicious things you enjoy doing. And then perhaps have him write a few hundred times something about how he appreciates the individual and superb dichotomies that make you who you are and that he will no longer try to top from the bottom. I automatically tend to sound my sweetest when I'm causing the most pain. With my favorite masochist I get annoyingly close to babytalk, I'm so sweeted out. Freaked me out the first few times but it comes naturally and feels right, and those are some pretty good tests to see if something "should" or "shouldn't" be.

temptressofsouls -> RE: help! - I'm nice and cuddly.... apparently (11/8/2007 6:15:53 AM)
I think some Dom/mes are just "that way." I know a few Doms who couldnt get subs to take them seriously because they liked to snuggle, but who definately enjoyed darker pleasures. I seem to remember being told about a bag of marbles, a sub in a skirt with no panties, and a trip to a shopping mall.... And there's this 3.5' solid oak paddle sitting on the floor near the computer desk. shivers I think, sometimes, male subs get so caught up in images, and fantasies, and everything being taken for face value....instant gratification sort of thing. "There's a smoking hot woman over there, she's pissed off as all hell, and she's going to play with me!" (Warning: vast generalization)

YesMistressIrish -> RE: help! - I'm nice and cuddly.... apparently (11/8/2007 7:13:08 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LillithWithin Being nice and cuddly does not mean that you can't also be sadistic, or any other thing you feel like being whenever you feel like being it. While I understand the internal dilemma since it's something I went through a while back, I'd suggest you consider have some discussion with your fan about his projecting caricatures of what a Domme "should" or "shouldn't" be onto you. It might be helpful to do so in your sweetest, snuggliest voice, while doing some of the most vicious things you enjoy doing. And then perhaps have him write a few hundred times something about how he appreciates the individual and superb dichotomies that make you who you are and that he will no longer try to top from the bottom. I automatically tend to sound my sweetest when I'm causing the most pain. With my favorite masochist I get annoyingly close to babytalk, I'm so sweeted out. Freaked me out the first few times but it comes naturally and feels right, and those are some pretty good tests to see if something "should" or "shouldn't" be. Lillith: I have been the same way. In a cbt scene I did with a sub-friend recently I had him shibaried to two 7 ft long Bamboo poles, and had the top bamboo pole tied to the legs of a huge couch, and one line going up to the upper level metal railing of the dining room. Then I pulled the top and bottom pole together and tied them together so his privates were all mine. [:D] The fun began and he does adore receiving pain. I found myself Not humiliating, but said so many funny things and asked him questions where his answers were also funny. We were laughing our asses off. It was a great release for both of us, deep from our bellies. I also find myself being super sweet when in the midst of any intense pain scene.

YesMistressIrish -> RE: help! - I'm nice and cuddly.... apparently (11/8/2007 7:22:54 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MsLilac Sounds like he is just trying to project his own fantasy of what he wants you to be, on to you, and objectifying you. How dare you have multi dimensional personality! [;)]. If this was your fist date, also sounds like his idea of flirting and/or like he was trying to goad you. There is nothing wrong with cuddly. I’m one of those cuddly Domme types. As has been mentioned here already, it can make the mean, so much more meaner. The look on their faces when one switches from angelic to devilish all unexpected like… lmao, priceless. As for your photos, I think they look fine. Not at all cuddly, or bitchy. You just look like you are being natural. Do the most sadistic, meanest, cruellest, non fluffy thing possible to him - kick the cheeky beggar to the curb, and play with someone else. [;)] *MsLilac: I agree with you and highlighted your 'from angelic to Devilish'.* *It's so much fun!* And, maybe this sub will be useful if he walks his talk. Goading Lady Ellen does not seem healthy to me. If he wants to 'change' her from the beginning what's to stop him from wanting to change her forever? *Irish*

YesMistressIrish -> RE: help! - I'm nice and cuddly.... apparently (11/8/2007 7:29:43 AM)
*Lady Ellen,* *I would love to know what the 'bizarre thing' is! I seem to have a passion for the strangest kinks.* I am sending you a private message on the other side. You are natural. I think the real fun is in being who you are and whatever you feel is exciting, or makes you feel all domme and full of life. If you are doing these videos for cash you may step outside your comfort zone and feel some growing pains. [;)] *My best,* *Irish*

MisPandora -> RE: help! - I'm nice and cuddly.... apparently (11/8/2007 8:07:52 AM)
Your words speak who YOU are. Too bad for him that your words don't speak to his individual, selfish little fantasy. Tell the little tosser to bugger off, please.

azropedntied -> RE: help! - I'm nice and cuddly.... apparently (11/8/2007 9:20:56 AM)
You could always add " it puts the lotion on its skin or it gets the hose again " to your profile .It warms the lotion on its hands before giving me a massage " may also work .. I agree be yourself ..

LadyEllen -> RE: help! - I'm nice and cuddly.... apparently (11/8/2007 10:05:23 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: YesMistressIrish *Lady Ellen,* *I would love to know what the 'bizarre thing' is! I seem to have a passion for the strangest kinks.* *My best,* *Irish* Hi I replied on the other side - but for the benefit of the audience - the kink that I find so bizarre is the fetish that some men apparently have for watching videos of high heeled boots smashing various items to pieces - most of all laptop computers, TV remotes, mobile phones, plus the occasional singing teddy bear. I've stomped them all - though I stopped short at the singing mommy bear with baby bear in arms ('cause I'm nice and cuddly of course) E

PhDslave -> RE: help! - I'm nice and cuddly.... apparently (11/8/2007 10:22:00 AM)
Some of us find "nice and cuddly" Dommes, well, nice.

MystressDream -> RE: help! - I'm nice and cuddly.... apparently (11/8/2007 11:34:58 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyEllen you know Aidan? This is exactly my issue with his advice - I mean, yes I can be nasty, vicious, sadistic psycho monster bitch from hell - but not all the time, because much of the time I'm nice (well, some think so anyway), have too much else going on and yes, want a cuddle. E My profile has gotten me responses ranging from, "You need to smile more, you look cold and cruel" to "You are not severe enough. You want love and affection and that makes you sound vanilla". I tell all of them.... You know what? My profile is honest... the pictures are really me... and, if it doesn't fit your idea of the "perfect Mistress", so be it. I won't change it to fit your criteria, and obviously you are NOT what I am looking for either. Have a nice day."

MystressDream -> RE: help! - I'm nice and cuddly.... apparently (11/8/2007 11:45:33 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: YesMistressIrish *Lady Ellen,* *I would love to know what the 'bizarre thing' is! I seem to have a passion for the strangest kinks.* I am sending you a private message on the other side. You are natural. I think the real fun is in being who you are and whatever you feel is exciting, or makes you feel all domme and full of life. If you are doing these videos for cash you may step outside your comfort zone and feel some growing pains. [;)] *My best,* *Irish* I own a BDSM video production company with a partner. The link is in my signature. It's a lot of fun, but, unless you cross over into professional models (pretty people), fake scenes, and porn, don't plan on making money doing it. <grin>

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