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RE: Can FemDommes be vanilla and just love? - 8/1/2005 5:02:03 AM   
LadyAngelika


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I actually have a very tender and caring relationship with my boy and with all of my subs. None of it is vanilla in my opinion. Just because I don't walk around all day with a crop whip in my hand and a snarly upper lip doesn't mean I'm less dominant.

I'm seriously wondering how much you understand WIITWD if you have to ask such questions.

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RE: Can FemDommes be vanilla and just love? - 8/1/2005 12:23:33 PM   
fastlane


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Status: offline 		I thought this was wear you asked the questions to grasp better understandings...ooops?

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RE: Can FemDommes be vanilla and just love? - 8/1/2005 2:35:36 PM   
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Status: offline 		I have to side with LA on this one, and wonder if you are just trying to stir up shit with your lines of questioning.

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RE: Can FemDommes be vanilla and just love? - 8/1/2005 3:41:17 PM   
fastlane


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Status: offline 		How do you stir up shiat by asking the questions? You don't know me, nor I you..right?
I ask the question for a valid reason and resent the fact that you think I'm playing games here. Sure, I tease and play and joke, but every question I pose is out of curiosity for a reason...not to wank your chain or mine and every reply I respond to, may make some chuckle, but is in sincerity. I love to make people smile and hope I do often!
I should not have to validate my position here either! I thought this was a forum for the curious as well as the experienced and you don't see me posting more than a few threads a week. One's I want to learn about.

So....take that icecream cone out of my Ass and I'll tell you where it belongs.

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RE: Can FemDommes be vanilla and just love? - 8/1/2005 4:07:05 PM   
GoddessDustyGold


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Status: offline 		I always say the the D/s does not have anything to do with the BDSM. One can stand independant from the other. It is when they are mixed that We get the lifestyle most of Us want. Many boys just want the BDSM and have a picture in their mind of a Domina who is always dressed to the nines, carrying the whip or the crop.
The D/s (domination and submission) can exist just fine 24/7, and that dynamic does not change just because you are taking a walk along the beach.
Yes, if you want to describe that as being vanilla, then that can happen, and it causes Me no problem. If it is what I want, then it wil happen. That's the key. It's what I want, when I want it. And I admit freely that this is an important part of a relationship that I want.

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RE: Can FemDommes be vanilla and just love? - 8/1/2005 4:31:46 PM   
fastlane


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Status: offline 		Thank you Dusty....that is what I was asking...I appreciate your candor and beginning to understand the distinction.

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RE: Can FemDommes be vanilla and just love? - 8/1/2005 8:47:13 PM   
femdom4u2besub


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Status: offline 		This is a forum and by definition and title it is where one would go to ask a Mistress a question. I believe that I would like to ask those of you who disagreed with fastlane's definition of what was "vanilla" (TO HIM) just what is it that you all would consider "vanilla". My guess is that it may be a matter of semantics and that we as Dominate Females should try and show some of that gentle kinder side of our dominate personalities(that we all said that we had) to those who take the time to ask a question, because so many people dont ask and just judge us as hard assess, who hate men and go around 24/7 being mean. (that is ignorance and predjudice in my opinion, asking is not)

We are all different and all have different levels of understanding and experience...so to end this "cant we all just get along" post...let me say that I appreciate it when someone wants to know about my lifestyle it can only help to dispel the stupid ass myths out there about us.


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RE: Can FemDommes be vanilla and just love? - 8/1/2005 9:36:42 PM   
Euryanx


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Very well said. In your "can't we all just get along" post you also answered Fastlane's original question very neatly. You've shown that a Dominant woman can be kind, gentle, understanding, and compassionate.

Just because a woman presents as a Domme, doesn't make her a complete and utter 24/7 bitch. That is certainly a myth that needs bashing. The 3 Domme women i've known in my life all were quite loving and most definitely romantic. Just because a person might express their affections with a bit of an edge, doesn't mean they are without compassion. I've yet to meet the woman who didn't feel deeply or wasn't able to express her emotions... that's one of the reasons why i love them and would chose a woman as a partner to a man - any day.

S.

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RE: Can FemDommes be vanilla and just love? - 8/2/2005 4:41:49 AM   
LadyAngelika


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quote:

ORIGINAL: fastlane

I thought this was wear you asked the questions to grasp better understandings...ooops?


To be honest, I think that if you took the time to read some of the posts made here over the last month, you could have come to this same conclusions yourself.

You asked a question, I answered. I hope it helped you grasp a better understanding.

- LA

< Message edited by LadyAngelika -- 8/2/2005 4:44:40 AM >

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RE: Can FemDommes be vanilla and just love? - 8/2/2005 7:25:09 AM   
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I've been biting my lip for too long on this topic. So. Down to brass tacks...

This image that most people have of female dominants. The sneering, cynical, bitch on heels. *sighs* You've been watching too much porn. These unflattering images garnered from websites and the like make us all out to be souless, vapid, life supports for a whip. Myself? I'm a human first, a lady second, and a dominant last. This means that I don't live this lifestyle. It's a pleasant aspect of what I enjoy in my life. The ice cream analogy was rather apt. Somedays I like vanilla, sometimes I want shakes, yet other times, I want a wafer cone with butter pecan and let's not even get into what a sundae would be. *WEG*

Let's try to think outside the box shall we? I've always thought people should be approached as people and not as a label. Maybe if more folks did this, the world would be a better place...

Just a thought.



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RE: Can FemDommes be vanilla and just love? - 8/2/2005 8:38:32 AM   
Oumae


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quote:

ORIGINAL: GddssBella


Let's try to think outside the box shall we? I've always thought people should be approached as people and not as a label. Maybe if more folks did this, the world would be a better place...

Just a thought.







Bella


So nicely put!

The boxes some try to fit people into can be so constricting at times.

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