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RE: do you feel a split? - 10/17/2007 5:55:32 AM

boytoy4female

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Yes, I do feel like I have developed a split personality. Some would say it is because I am a gemini. But, I believe it's a self protection mechanism. I have to suppress the sub within, in order to function and maintain my real-world image, as a self assured man. It is the extreme difference between the 2 personalities that makes is so damn intense.

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RE: do you feel a split? - 10/17/2007 6:02:44 AM

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< Message edited by boytoy4female -- 10/17/2007 6:05:30 AM >

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RE: do you feel a split? - 10/17/2007 7:33:52 AM

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No, I think my personality, quirky, bent, fun loving, up beat, humorous, remains
the same throughout my interactions with others, no matter their personality type.

"Oh please, you know you become a quivering mass of surrender and silence
when under the requirements of a Dominant personality".

Do not.

"Do too".

No I don't.

"Yes you do".

Idiot.

"Moron".

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RE: do you feel a split? - 10/17/2007 7:39:57 AM

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I don't handle transitions all that well. Many people don't. If so, possibly take the first half hour at home to decompress and get yourself back into headspace. Some people have rituals to help them transition such as kneeling at his feet for a few minutes quietly, or changing out of work clothes into a simple dress, putting on a leather collar or having him put it on you.

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RE: do you feel a split? - 10/17/2007 7:41:22 AM

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all of you have been very helpful. and i figured out why the split. was having a convo with someone(wish it was Him) and we were talking of past relationships. it was then that i realized a past relationship was influencing some of my thoughts in a way. i'll elaborate in a minute.

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RE: do you feel a split? - 10/17/2007 8:11:29 AM

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ok here goes. it was with this person i started realizing my submissive nature, it was a vanilla relationship. i was however to be submissive to him in all things. could not think for myself, no decisions could be made with out him, including what i wore. i was to be in dresses at all times(frumpy floor dragging ones) was not allowed to talk to any male unless it was my family or his. could not talk to my female friends unless he aproved of them, or he listened in on the convo. he would call me at all hours of the night tell me his dog pissed on the floor and tell me to come clean it up,(he lived less than 100 yards away from me) had i not had a 3 yr old child in the house i probably would have but why wake said child up, or leave him alone in the house, just to go clean up his dogs piss? there was no play in play time either, he was missionary position only. so it has been this wacked sense of Dom/sub that has been poking in on what is going on now. it was great to finally realize that, it was like a weight had been lifted. now with my currant Dom i would do any of those things with pleasure. does any of this make sense, i know it does to me.

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RE: do you feel a split? - 10/17/2007 4:03:30 PM

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That's not being submissive, that's being micro managed.

And yes, the connection you have together will make all the difference. I'm glad you've found a piece of the puzzle.

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