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daisymae03 -> would you ? (10/17/2007 8:15:21 PM)
would you meet someone, even in a public place, if they wouldnt first show you a picture of them and if you hadnt talked to them on the phone? would you play with this person? just asking as a hypothetical . . . personally i wouldnt play on a first meeting unless i was EXTREMELY comfortable. although im not sure i would even meet this person since they wouldnt be able to prove they were who i had been talking too.

DarkDaddyZ -> RE: would you ? (10/17/2007 8:18:04 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: daisymae03 would you meet someone, even in a public place, if they wouldnt first show you a picture of them and if you hadnt talked to them on the phone? would you play with this person? just asking as a hypothetical . . . personally i wouldnt play on a first meeting unless i was EXTREMELY comfortable. although im not sure i would even meet this person since they wouldnt be able to prove they were who i had been talking too. Meet? if they've peaked my interest. Play? I wouldn' t meet to play but I have met people without seeing their picture that lead to play.

Missokyst -> RE: would you ? (10/17/2007 8:18:31 PM)
I find if they dont show you a pic before a meeting (I mean how are you supposed to know them!?), that they really want to check you out first to see if you are worth doing. As for phone chat, then see above, or they have no cell number and a wife at home. And play with them? LMAO, someone I don't know from squat, expects play? I dont think so! Kyst

TemptingNviceSub -> RE: would you ? (10/17/2007 8:19:40 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: daisymae03 would you meet someone, even in a public place, if they wouldnt first show you a picture of them and if you hadnt talked to them on the phone? would you play with this person? just asking as a hypothetical . . . personally i wouldnt play on a first meeting unless i was EXTREMELY comfortable. although im not sure i would even meet this person since they wouldnt be able to prove they were who i had been talking too. I would meet if talked on phone and felt comfortable with them and would meet in public place..As far as a picture..well..I have done without..play first time?..NOOOOOO!!!....play takes trust, knowledge,comfort with their abilities..that you cannot know on first meet...Tempting

DiurnalVampire -> RE: would you ? (10/17/2007 8:20:09 PM)
I do not play on a first meet unless it is someone I have ben tlaking to for a very long time before that. If its a random meet, and and someone I havent talked to long enough for them to have exchanced pictures, then no, it wont go anywhere. We might meet in public, but thats about it. DV

laurell3 -> RE: would you ? (10/17/2007 8:20:50 PM)
nope, pic, cam or some equivalent before meeting. While I try very hard to not be superficial, what they look like is to some extent important and how do you meet someone not knowing what they look like? Someone not wanting to give any type of pics would raise some serious safety issues with me. l

RRafe -> RE: would you ? (10/17/2007 8:22:49 PM)
Yes, I have. Got her all wound up online, met her over coffee-took her home. We were both more than willing-no pictures either way. Lasted for quite a while-very fun girl.

SirStephan55 -> RE: would you ? (10/17/2007 8:23:05 PM)
We have met without seeing a face pic in a very public place and did play with him as we felt very comfortable. It was great. By the way, we never ask for or give a face picture.

daisymae03 -> RE: would you ? (10/17/2007 8:25:16 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Missokyst I find if they dont show you a pic before a meeting (I mean how are you supposed to know them!?), that they really want to check you out first to see if you are worth doing. As for phone chat, then see above, or they have no cell number and a wife at home. And play with them? LMAO, someone I don't know from squat, expects play? I dont think so! Kyst well liek i said a hypothetical, although i do have a friend going through it, i pointed out the whole how are you suppose to know which is him if you dont know what he looks like but she just sorta shrugged it off. i tell her she shouldnt play ( this is in the vanilla world too) edited for grammer

slaverosebeauty -> RE: would you ? (10/17/2007 8:27:52 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: daisymae03 would you meet someone, even in a public place, if they wouldnt first show you a picture of them and if you hadnt talked to them on the phone? would you play with this person? No. No. No. No picture, no meet. No phone calls, no meet. That makes the 3rd, 'no' a DEFINATE no brainer. I have played with people I just met in person, that was after multiple phone calls, emails and IM conversations plus over precautions taken.

SunNMoon -> RE: would you ? (10/17/2007 8:38:02 PM)
I need the picture before I’m willing to meet. Most everyone I know has some kind of digital camera or has access to one. I’m actually willing to do no phone, through I prefer having talked at least once on the phone before hand. And having a cell number since I normally am a) late, or b) lost, or c) both. Which is really just to let them know about my inability to actually get somewhere. No playing on the first meet, considering I’m most likely meeting them at a mall or coffee shop it just doesn’t seem right.

LadyPact -> RE: would you ? (10/17/2007 8:40:09 PM)
No, I wouldn't. I've specifically told people that they sound wonderful, but if they can't provide a face shot, I'm not interested.

SmokingGun82 -> RE: would you ? (10/17/2007 8:41:38 PM)
It's situational. I've got no qualms about playing during a first meeting, and I'm more than willing to meet someone I haven't talked to on the phone. It's never come up, but sure, I'd be willing to meet someone I hadn't seen a picture of. I've rarely regretted meeting someone for a cup of coffee in public- at (likely) worst, it's ten minutes of boredom before I make an excuse and disappear.

spanklette -> RE: would you ? (10/17/2007 8:48:33 PM)
Well, it depends on where this public place was... I wouldn't mind meeting someone without a picture. That part doesn't bother me a bit. I go to the mall and it's full of a bunch of strangers who I've never seen before. I realize that the mall is a bit out of context...but really I'd be more likely to be taken off guard by someone I wasn't expecting to meet. If we're meeting at a play space...well, actually, this isn't hypothetical at all. I had a blind date set up during a play party. We had a fabulous time! We talked first and had a few drinks, but really I didn't know him all that well. He was a good Top and a good bottom. I had a very enjoyable evening, although since it was set up through friends...I'm not sure it equates to the same thing. I wouldn't rule it out, though...

LadyHibiscus -> RE: would you ? (10/17/2007 9:14:33 PM)
I could be all "no way", but lets be honest, DangerDomme has absolutely gone from nothing to f2f to play..... So who is more bonkers, me, or the guy who is letting me tie him up in his house, without checking me out? Would I do it now (play), probably not, unless I was totally swept by the person.

thegirlincharge -> RE: would you ? (10/17/2007 9:15:58 PM)
Nope

leakylee -> RE: would you ? (10/17/2007 9:18:28 PM)
no pic? that is ify. i did it once and the results i got were kinda scary..hehe.. as for the phone, no call.. no go.. i dont have the patience to stay in email or im very long. so if it hasnt gone to phone within 30 to 45 minutes. i am off and running elsewhere. edited 'cuz i dont have much in the way of sense today. lee

RumpusParable -> RE: would you ? (10/17/2007 11:28:05 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: daisymae03 would you meet someone, even in a public place, if they wouldnt first show you a picture of them and if you hadnt talked to them on the phone? would you play with this person? Totally depends. Short of someone creeping me out or strongly offending me, I'd certainly meet them in public without seeing a picture online first... That would be just like, you know, meeting someone new in real life. We do that every day. Now, if I'd specifically at some point asked or told them to send me a picture and they kept refusing, THEN I may still agree to meet them or not. If I did, I'd be going with my gut alarms lightly tripped... It would strike me as worrisomely perverse that they refused to show me their face online when I'm about to see it tomorrow in person. As to playing, same as above, but with the added note that whether I play with someone on Any date (first , thirteen, whatever) meeting is based on my having a safe arrangement made and no gut-alarms telling me not to. Seeing them prior isn't going to make me go against any dis-ease that I have on meeting them and not seeing them prior isn't going to, in and of itself, make it less likely.

Estring -> RE: would you ? (10/17/2007 11:49:54 PM)
I met my slave/wife without seeing a picture of her, but I did talk to her on the phone. She had such a sweet southern accent that I just assumed I would like her looks. Normally I would want to see a picture first, but I am glad I made an exception.

FullfigRIMaam -> RE: would you ? (10/18/2007 12:46:11 AM)
Generally I'm not terribly inclined to continue communication with someone who hadn't shown his picture, but I have met, and in subsequent meetings played... I would never a faceless, adressless person, and play the first time. M

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