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liltxsubby -> profile changed??? (7/30/2005 1:25:59 PM)
Admittedly, I haven't been on the site much lately. I;ve been busy with other stuff..namely new job, apartment hunting, and buying stuff for said apartment. So, I log on today and find that SOMEONE has rewritten my profile. [:@] Obvioulsy I know who it is, and wouldn't care if ther had been some advance warning. Not to mention, it was written to look like I wrote it. I feel it's kind of like erasing writing someone ele's diary for them. Maybe I'm blowing this out of proportion, but I feel..invaded. Maybe it was just a shock and I'll adjust to it.

brightspot -> RE: profile changed??? (7/30/2005 1:35:28 PM)
I don't think you are blowing this out of proportion, or that you should get used to it. If it is not to your liking, re-write it and change your password. I think you have a right to your own words in your profile, even if you know who disagrees. Especially when you did not consent to the changing. *Brightspot

liltxsubby -> RE: profile changed??? (7/30/2005 1:47:22 PM)
I just found out that someone has also been writing posts under my name, pretending to be me. Now I am REALLY mad. I hope he isn't enjoying his nap much because it's about to be over. There are obviously some issues that need dicussing.

stormsfate -> RE: profile changed??? (7/30/2005 1:54:32 PM)
I'm trying to think of how to word this, but I'm curious as to why you would post this on a public forum before even discussing it with him, particularly since he is also an active poster here. I hope he's into public humiliation and that you guys can work this out. I'm sorry you are so upset over this. best regards, fate

quietkitten -> RE: profile changed??? (7/30/2005 2:04:39 PM)
I have to agree, although I understand why you are upset litxtsubby, it might have been a better idea to talk to him about it before posting here...

RiotGirl -> RE: profile changed??? (7/30/2005 2:14:16 PM)
LOLOL whose the culprit?

BlkTallFullfig -> RE: profile changed??? (7/30/2005 3:42:25 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: stormsfate I'm curious as to why you would post this on a public forum before even discussing it with him, particularly since he is also an active poster here. I hope he's into public humiliation and that you guys can work this out. I'm sorry you are so upset over this. fate I too am curious, this is not where private relationship matters should be aired, at least not before talking with him first LilTxSubby (IMO), because it is kind of embarrassing.. M

darkinshadows -> RE: profile changed??? (7/30/2005 4:56:10 PM)
It is possible, that this has sent up a red flag for tx - and although I also concur with M'Lady M that she should go to the person in question first, it could be she is looking for reassurance that her thoughts are in some respect, jutstified. She feels invaded and misrepresented. Maybe she feels unsure if this is wrong? Tx obviosly believes this is something she is supposed to accept - hence her statement. However, it maybe there is a feeling at odds with what is 'supposed to happen'... This is only my opinion. Not saying this as a statement of fact. Now, from a personal point of view - communicate that this has effected you obviously quite upsettingly (which you are doing, although, maybe in a more private form if theres a next time) - but if it is really something you have not given permission to - and don't feel is right or in anyway a valuble teaching tool - then it really might be best to explain this. I know that Demon has full access to my account - and He would never dream of using it because this is a misrepresentation of my thoughts. And my thoughts are indeed what Demon thinks because they are His, always. But to use my account would be wrong because it would be a lie. Anyone using my account and my name, claiming or making out it is me is without doubt, lying. This makes this person untrustworthy. And no amount of consensuality - even if it was consensual, can remove the fact that someone is lying to others. Peace and Love

proudsub -> RE: profile changed??? (7/30/2005 8:46:09 PM)
Internet101--never give your pass word to anyone without very good reason.

perverseangelic -> RE: profile changed??? (7/30/2005 11:40:29 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: proudsub Internet101--never give your pass word to anyone without very good reason. One thinks that one should be able to give one's passwords to one's owner. ~shrug~ Again, to each their own, but my partner has my passwords for everything, except my bank account. That he'll have when we're married w/ joint accounts.

proudsub -> RE: profile changed??? (7/30/2005 11:54:40 PM)
quote: One thinks that one should be able to give one's passwords to one's owner. In most cases that is probably fine, but maybe not in an online relationship, and if the relationship dissoved i would change my pws.

onceburned -> RE: profile changed??? (7/31/2005 1:55:17 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: dark~angel It is possible, that this has sent up a red flag for tx - and although I also concur with M'Lady M that she should go to the person in question first, it could be she is looking for reassurance that her thoughts are in some respect, jutstified. I think it is reasonable to seek reassurance. Perhaps it would have been better to reach out to others in private emails rather than in an open forum, but that doesn't matter at this point. I know I would be distressed if someone I had entrusted with my password decided to impersonate me. Definitely, for me, it would be something to talk about (after I had calmed down).

RiotGirl -> RE: profile changed??? (7/31/2005 8:04:31 AM)
Maybe its just a misunderstanding and you havent all the facts? i learned with Master, dont jump until i talk to him first, as usually i havent all the facts and end up jumping wrong and getting introuble. Personally i believe we only get.. are given.. see or hear.. pieces of the overall puzzle. All you have is what you see, you dont have his why, or his reason, or anything about it. Just a limited perspective.

sanita -> RE: profile changed??? (7/31/2005 1:56:43 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: proudsub quote: One thinks that one should be able to give one's passwords to one's owner. In most cases that is probably fine, but maybe not in an online relationship, and if the relationship dissoved i would change my pws. this is an r/t relationship, they met in CM, and the rest is theirs to tell. liltxsubby... knowing a little of FnF's slightly warped sense of humor, i hope Riot is right, and He has some sort of explanation. are you sure it was Him? ohhhh, it would be really upsetting to me, too. i hope everything is cleared up with what is best for you.

liltxsubby -> RE: profile changed??? (7/31/2005 3:42:36 PM)
Upon reflections, I agree I should have talked to him first. As has been mentioned I was seeking reassurance for my feelings more than airing frustations publicly. It was one of those reactions wher I thought before I acted. I'm not embarrassed by what happened. Never was and never will be. Just mad and shocked. Even after the discussion we had, I would have posted just to see if anyone would have had the same reations. Possibly worded a little differently, but still there. quote: but maybe not in an online relationship Just to clear any confusion, we are not online. We met here but have long since become r/t, although it's a 2 hour drive. We're living together in 2 weeks (YAY) and maybe that was anouther reason for my original quandry.

Gem -> RE: profile changed??? (8/1/2005 3:28:23 AM)
Brightest Blessings Isn't it his right as a Owner to change your profile if he sees fit? Although I will admit that it is a bit rude to post responses under your name without telling folks they are not your words. Blessed Be Gem

imtempting -> RE: profile changed??? (8/1/2005 3:49:01 AM)
I dont think it is right he posted under your log on. I think you had every right to be pissed off.

sub4hire -> RE: profile changed??? (8/9/2005 8:03:54 PM)
quote: It is possible, that this has sent up a red flag for tx - and although I also concur with M'Lady M that she should go to the person in question first, it could be she is looking for reassurance that her thoughts are in some respect, jutstified. It definately is a serious red flag. It is also along the lines of Slavemaster and what he did. However, myself I'd go straight to the source first. Though it does get old having to dominate the dom.

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