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luvdragonx -> RE: tempted (7/30/2005 4:31:19 PM)
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I'll start from the top.
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Do subs/slaves ever get tempted to disobey their Masters? When they get in trouble or have to do something they don't want to do, say "I'm an adult, I'm not required to do this, do it your self" or "you cant make me stay in this room if I don't want to" -- anything like that...?
I know I have fits of pique from time to time, and my general outgoing and assertive nature battles with my submissive one. This is where the importance of self control comes in. Many Dominants will tell you it's tiring to have to micromanage another human being. If you're constantly having to correct for lack of self control, or attempting the impossible - controlling that person instead - I doubt you'll feel fulfilled for very long, if at all. I must control myself and put aside the battle of internal wills and do what I promised to do, which is obey. Plain and simple. On the flip side of that, a sub/slave left too much to her own devices may get bored, if her primary focus is to be her Dominant. At that point, she may test limits, in an attempt to provoke a response. See the Bratty subs/slaves topic in the Ask a Master section.
http://www.collarchat.com/bratty_subs_and_slaves/m_134324/tm.htm
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And submission is something born inside you, right? Early in life, you all were eager to please and obey and don't remmeber feeling any way else?
While I can say that I was born a sub, I can't honestly say that I was eager to please just anyone. I respond best to positive reinforcement. Those who treated me thusly, were the ones I tried to please. Everyone else got what I was dishing out that day. The problem inherent in the idea of obeying to the letter as the single and only objective is that the sub/slave may not seek or find opportunities to grow, apart for how her Dominant is growing. Does that make sense? As a children who are expected to obey, little room is left for learning through experience and mistakes.
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has anyone met their sig other without the use of the Internet or munches or anything who doesnt participate *at all* in any group BDSM activities except for this website?
I'm not sure I understand this question. I met my husband in college; he wasn't interested in BDSM and I didn't bring it up. Only over the last few years have we opened a dialogue and recently started exploring together. I hope that answers your question, if not I can try again.
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