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Bruising - 10/18/2007 9:36:52 PM   
probablyknowme


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Status: offline 		On another thread, there was a topic about scene related bruising, and it got me to thinking. I know for me bruises are something that I revel in, a reminder, a happy place every time I see them. However, I have known some Dominants who are squicked by them. I have to wonder why, especially if they put them there?


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RE: Bruising - 10/18/2007 9:56:56 PM   
DarkDaddyZ


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Status: offline 		A Dom that puts bruises there and is squicked by them?  That's a bit weird even for a perv like me.
I like putting bruises on a sub/slave/bottom. If I didn't, I'd go through great lengths not to put them there.

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RE: Bruising - 10/18/2007 10:21:06 PM   
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Status: offline 		The same reason a lot of subs freak out the morning after a scene.  Scene headspace is not rational, you get caught up in the emotions and energy of the moment and just go with it.  The next day, your head catches up to it all and has to reconcile those parts together- not something most people know how to deal with very well, certainly when it's unexpected.

Most doms have a hard time reconciling being a "good person" because they've been taught that "good people" don't do those sorts of things.  They have to either unlearn those conditions of life, or (what most people do) only hurt those who will really enjoy it and get into it directly and immediately.

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RE: Bruising - 10/18/2007 10:24:55 PM   
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The same reason a lot of subs freak out the morning after a scene.  Scene headspace is not rational, you get caught up in the emotions and energy of the moment and just go with it.  The next day, your head catches up to it all and has to reconcile those parts together- not something most people know how to deal with very well, certainly when it's unexpected.

Most doms have a hard time reconciling being a "good person" because they've been taught that "good people" don't do those sorts of things.  They have to either unlearn those conditions of life, or (what most people do) only hurt those who will really enjoy it and get into it directly and immediately.

Makes sense to a degree.  Still I like being a good person and leaving bruises

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RE: Bruising - 10/18/2007 10:30:29 PM   
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Status: offline 		Hmm. I never had a problem with bruises I put on my slave. Maybe for someone who hits in anger that might be a cause for remorse, but I never do that.

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RE: Bruising - 10/18/2007 10:49:38 PM   
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Status: offline 		Never been a problem for me...'course, I love making pretty patterns and building on bruises over time.

But I'm mean like that...


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RE: Bruising - 10/19/2007 12:01:32 AM   
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Status: offline 		The Master that I just left  would beat me while playing until I had large welts that would be purple bruises the next day. If he thought I needed punishment he would cane me until I bled. He refused to acknowledge the bruises or the wounds. He said I was whinning and complaining when I mentioned them at all and I would get punished again. I fainted twice from these harsh punishments. I left him soon after the second fainting. 
What I want to know is this: When you leave bruises on your property, is it ok for that person(property) to mention it ? If the bruises are shocking and severe is it ok to mention them once or more than once on separate days?


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RE: Bruising - 10/19/2007 12:17:41 AM   
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Status: offline 		I don't know much about this lifestyle yet. But if anyone did that to me,  they'd be explaining themselves to the cops. Thats unacceptable. And it sounds like abuse.

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RE: Bruising - 10/19/2007 12:34:28 AM   
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ORIGINAL: presencedark12

I don't know much about this lifestyle yet. But if anyone did that to me,  they'd be explaining themselves to the cops. Thats unacceptable. And it sounds like abuse.


Believe me , if he had not threatened to tell my boss and my family his ass would be in jail. 
 What I really wanted to know is , when is mentioning the bruises and welts considered complaining?

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RE: Bruising - 10/19/2007 7:00:33 AM   
IamJustMe2C


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Status: offline 		Usemeintexas,
    Its not complaining it consern and if he couldnt see that then he is just another of people out there that use BDSM so he can abuse women. Didnt you tell him your safe word? did he listen to you when you said no dont beat me blody. Isnt he the one that didnt take care of the open wounds? That is ABUSE. I dont care how you put it or how you sugar cote it slave or sub or what. Nothing gets me more pissed off then someone that Abuses a person and then covers it up by saying Im the Dom I can do what I want. If there is a open cut it needs to be taken care of accident or not it needs attention. mutipal cuts are not accidents they are done deliberatley. when you cane a welt what happens come on it dosent take a rocket scientist to digure that one out. The skin is going to break and the person is going to bleed. That is ABUSE when the other person is saying that they dont want it done.
     And for those of you out there that are thinking that well she didnt say she said that YES she did. We might not have been there when she said it but she said it when she left.

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RE: Bruising - 10/19/2007 8:22:32 AM   
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ORIGINAL: IamJustMe2C

Usemeintexas,
   Its not complaining it consern and if he couldnt see that then he is just another of people out there that use BDSM so he can abuse women. Didnt you tell him your safe word? did he listen to you when you said no dont beat me blody. Isnt he the one that didnt take care of the open wounds? That is ABUSE. I dont care how you put it or how you sugar cote it slave or sub or what. Nothing gets me more pissed off then someone that Abuses a person and then covers it up by saying Im the Dom I can do what I want. If there is a open cut it needs to be taken care of accident or not it needs attention. mutipal cuts are not accidents they are done deliberatley. when you cane a welt what happens come on it dosent take a rocket scientist to digure that one out. The skin is going to break and the person is going to bleed. That is ABUSE when the other person is saying that they dont want it done.
    And for those of you out there that are thinking that well she didnt say she said that YES she did. We might not have been there when she said it but she said it when she left.


You are correct Sir, I did use the safe word. He did not stop until I fainted. (I am not certain he stopped then, I only know that I was not aware if he continued)

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RE: Bruising - 10/19/2007 8:51:15 AM   
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ORIGINAL: UsemeinTexas

Believe me , if he had not threatened to tell my boss and my family his ass would be in jail. 



threatened to tell them what? that he abused you? that he beat you until you passed out? how is this going to make you look bad?


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RE: Bruising - 10/19/2007 8:00:52 PM   
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ORIGINAL: chellekitty

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ORIGINAL: UsemeinTexas

Believe me , if he had not threatened to tell my boss and my family his ass would be in jail. 



threatened to tell them what? that he abused you? that he beat you until you passed out? how is this going to make you look bad?


I believe she meant he would reveal that she is involved in BDSM, a lot of people would not want their employers or parents knowing.

The fact that he held this over her heading is another form of abuse , it is mental abuse to keep her trapped into the physical abuse he was dishing out, it is a good thing she walked away in time it would likely have got worse, unfortunately because of her fear of others finding out, this ass gets away with and will find another victim


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