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shynovicebot -> Bottoming for first time (10/19/2007 9:28:25 AM)
I'm a total novice bottom and was curious of any advice for "the first time." I've never been penetrated by anything more than a finger tip, which brings me to my question. Is it unreasonable to think that I should be able to accomodate 6 or 7 inches without any prior experience?

toservez -> RE: Bottoming for first time (10/19/2007 9:38:49 AM)
First time anal or with a new person involved the top should go slow and be patient to accommodate the bottom. There is a learning/comfort factor that does not get discounted because the scene might be power exchanged based. If you are relaxed enough and craving it there should be no reason why you could not handle the size you mention. It also though does not mean if you cannot handle it you failed or not to try again. The first time I was taken anally I had never had more then a finger in me as well. Remember a lot of lube and to try to relax. I wish you well and a lot of enjoyment.

bipolarber -> RE: Bottoming for first time (10/19/2007 11:08:17 AM)
You're going to be rather nervous, and tense. With luck and expereince, you Domme will know that, and will take you slowly... Generally, they want to work you up, bit by bit. First starting with a finger, then two... then moving onto a small dildo or plug. Give that plenty of time to become familliar to your muscular sphincter ring, then maybe move up to something a bit more life-like, say in the 5" to 6" range... Once you get used to that, there's really no problem. In time, you should be able to take some rather respectable girths... but the key is to give yourself time to relax and enjoy the sensations. And, just to support what toservz is saying... lube, lube, LUBE!

meticulousgirl -> RE: Bottoming for first time (10/19/2007 12:48:11 PM)
are we talking anal, or complete virgin....? nothing about anal was even mentioned here? ~meticulous~

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Bottoming for first time (10/19/2007 3:14:53 PM)
That was my question as well- which hole are we discussing? Either way- YOU choose what YOU are comfortable with. YOU express what you are NOT comfortable with. YOU are responsible for upholding YOUR boundaries and using the best judgement you have to make sure the person you are with will respect you and your boundaries.

peterK50 -> RE: Bottoming for first time (10/19/2007 4:30:39 PM)
If it's anal the key is to relax, as pressure is applied to penetrate then pushing back as if to expel it. That will relax you & allow easier entry. Use plenty of lube.

bipolarber -> RE: Bottoming for first time (10/20/2007 9:21:49 AM)
meticulous and LA, a quick check of his profile clears it up pretty well. He's a male, first time being penetrated. I just hope he posts back, letting us all know how things went for him.

slaveelle -> RE: Bottoming for first time (10/20/2007 9:28:40 AM)
First time is always an anxious and nervous one. Like the responding posts have suggested the key is to relax as much as you can. and yup, lube, lube, lube. I wish you luck and much enjoyment in your new experience. elle

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Bottoming for first time (10/20/2007 6:19:25 PM)
Ha thanks, goes to show how often I look at profiles.

laurell3 -> RE: Bottoming for first time (10/20/2007 7:06:32 PM)
Yes it is quite plausible that you will be able to have complete anal intercourse the first time, however, that would require the Dom/me to be going slow and giving your body time to adjust. I would recommend an enema the night before as it can make a difference. good luck, l

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