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RE: Pleasing a dom non sexually.. - 10/19/2007 8:57:42 PM

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A great way to solve that problem if you do not like that music and he has politely informed you that you cannot say it is a hard limit is next time after every track on the CD you can put in a very subtly and softly spoken "message" where after every song you whisper, "You will not have me do this again!" I am sure if he listens to the CD enough it will be a form of mind control and you will not have to do it again! If that fails just use the Jedi mind trick and wave your hand like Obi Wan.
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RE: Pleasing a dom non sexually.. - 10/19/2007 9:13:20 PM

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I have to agree with the comment of everything i do for Master is sexual in some aspect, at least i find myself excited because i know i am doing these things for Him... if someone would have told me 6 years ago that making a man a cup of tea would serve to excite me in a sexual manner... i would have laughed.. who knew?!
I am well skilled in swedish massage as well as treatment and sports therapy... Master not only needs work done.. but i think He enjoys it ... i know i enjoy the oportunities to touch Him so freely.. i kick myself because the clinic part of my brain takes over and well... it is later that i realize WOW....

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RE: Pleasing a dom non sexually.. - 10/20/2007 10:12:50 AM

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i just wanted to point out that you can be a femminist and stay at home and do all the typically "wifey" things, do chores, raise kids, that kind of things...being a femminist is not about doing a "man's" job...it is about having the freedom to do what *you* as a woman, want to do...not what your partner or society says you should do....

oh and when i am in a M/s relationship...i try to be pleasing to my Master in everything i do....how can i seperate out each and every thing?

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RE: Pleasing a dom non sexually.. - 10/20/2007 4:27:21 PM

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It's funny but true, the biggest nonsexual pleasure I get from a girl I'm with is having her scratch my back (really my whole body) pretty often. I love being scratched

. And I loved the intimacy of being preened and groomed by my sub who had OCD, she'd basically go over me head to toe in bed and pick at any skin imperfections.

Aside form that, cleaning things -- particularly keeping my clothes clean, pressed, hung, are ways of supporting me that I just appreciate every day because i don't do it as often myself as I should.

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RE: Pleasing a dom non sexually.. - 10/20/2007 4:37:48 PM

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Anything you do for your dom has some sexual aspect to it, even if it's not an overt sexual act. Why? Because you're doing it for your dom, not for your brother.

I couldn't agree with you more, Sir.

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RE: Pleasing a dom non sexually.. - 10/20/2007 6:29:47 PM

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RE: Pleasing a dom non sexually.. - 11/2/2007 7:09:24 PM

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Everything i do for my Master i do with love. So i love everything i do for him and all that he asks of me. i attend to his every need, i make sure that i am always available to him, i listen and i obey him at all times. i love the cooking and the cleaning and the laundry and the full body massages and just plain worshipping him every moment of every day. He gives me everything i need so nothing he can ask of me would be off limits to me.

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RE: Pleasing a dom non sexually.. - 11/3/2007 4:49:26 AM

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A long time ago i learned the difference between doing something to please and being pleasing. It's a shift in one's focus. As strange as it may sound (this lifestyle is just full of paradox) when i think about "what can i do to please?" my focus is on me. When my focus changes to "what does He want? what does He need?" then the focus is on Him and service becomes a part of everything, not just sex.

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RE: Pleasing a dom non sexually.. - 11/3/2007 8:51:19 AM

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Hi,

So again, here I am, with my over active thought processes. I was just thinking today,I personally believe pleasing a dominant in a non sexually way to be just as important as the sexual side of a d/s relationship, what else do you do for your partner/dominant that is non sexual?

I didn't enter my relationship to be pleasing on any front, sexually or otherwise.

What does your dominant expect from you? Is there anything you love to do for your partner? and is there anything you don't particularly enjoy doing for your dominant, but you do it anyway?

Overall, he expects me to allow him to do what I asked him to; have authority in my life. Beyond that, it's all based in circumstances. Sometimes it's a fabulous pleasure to make him a coffee and other times it's an irritating chore.

I do realise its a very individual response and that its related to everyones personal choice and relationship. I was just curious because I would like to do other things to please rather than it just all being sexual.

Why would it be all sexual, unless that's what the job-outline is?

I'm thinking taking care of a dominant by doing household chores; cooking, washing, ironing, cleaning. (Although this must comes from deep inside me, because sometimes I can be a bit of a femminist too!) but what other ways are there? There's the odd surprise, finding a cd, book, dvd that you know your dom desperately wants.

Not for him specifically as a dominant. I don't take care of him, he doesn't NEED or want me to take care of him...He takes care of himself and he takes care of me. I take care of the people that rely on me and that I'm responsible for. He isn't one of those people.

Are you free to do these things for your dominant?

I'm free to do what he wants.

Anyone got any thoughts?

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RE: Pleasing a dom non sexually.. - 11/3/2007 9:40:34 AM

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Thanks for replying. Yeah I don't know any man, let alone dom who does toilet cleaning. I have to admit that is the most yukky job in the world. lol

My owner has been so independent so long (he is divorced), he told me he doesnt need a chef, maid or laundrymat.
This morning he turned down a masseur.