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Morsigil -> Control (10/19/2007 9:17:46 PM)

Petty mistresses or masters turn me off. Overly-sadistic masters and mistresses turn me off. Do I have a place? Can I find happineses? Will I find a woman who wants a submissive man with opinions and a desire to cross dress, or do I simply have to accept my role as a male and lead, completely ignoring my desires to submit?

My experiences lead me to believe that I will never find a classy, intelligent woman who isn't so absorbed in her own prowess as to ignore my needs.



Shawn1066 -> RE: Control (10/19/2007 9:21:33 PM)

Of course you can find somebody who likes things the way you do.  You just have to be patient.  Who knows, one day you may wake up and it will all fall into place.  It happens.



DiurnalVampire -> RE: Control (10/19/2007 9:25:08 PM)

Id be disappointed if my boys didnt have their own opinions, and interests, and personalities.
Some of us like the ones with crossdressing tendancies, some dont.  But you have to go about it with a positive attitude, or else you wont find anything.
There is someone out there looking for what your are looking for. You just need the patience to find it.

DV



dragonslave77 -> RE: Control (10/19/2007 11:47:38 PM)

Give it time, lots of time. And keep your eyes open, sometimes the person you meet and casually talk to may turn out to be the ideal person for you.

Turns out the person I talked to for quite sometime online as a friend is the Mistress I had been searching for for so many years. And now, I've moved to spend more time with her and I am completely content. The point being, sometimes the one you really want is right in front of you.

Be patient and best of luck. Happiness is obtainable.



TNstepsout -> RE: Control (10/20/2007 7:24:55 AM)

Instead of thinking in terms of some Dom/mes being petty and others being overly sadistic, try to think in terms of what the positive quality is that you are looking for. Instead of saying you don't want someone petty, say instead that you are looking for someone who is fair and balanced.  Instead of saying you don't want someone "overly sadistic" say instead that you are seeking moderate pain play only. Perhaps say you are looking for someone who is nurturing and caring rather than a harsh strict Mistress. By stating your needs instead of presenting it in a way that might offend some people, you will have a better chance of finding the right person.

There are a lot of Dommes who fit your description. Much of what you see in CM are over the top profiles based on fantasy and wishful thinking.



slaveelle -> RE: Control (10/20/2007 9:12:51 AM)

Its no different in the world of D/s than it is in the vanllia world. Finding the right person may take a while, kinda like weeding the wheat from the chaff. It takes patience. Like TNstepsout has already said, state clearly what you seek.You dont have to settle for anything less than what you seek.
I wish you luck in your search and much happiness
 
 
Cheers
elle



littleone35 -> RE: Control (10/20/2007 1:46:07 PM)

I stated clearly in my profile that i was not into severe pain but that spankings were ok.  Maybe you could state in your profile that you are not into pain play.  It always takes time to find the right one.

Matt's littleone



MistressDoMe -> RE: Control (10/21/2007 11:09:36 AM)

I am passing you some cheese to go with your whine.



mnottertail -> RE: Control (10/21/2007 11:18:29 AM)

I feel petty;
Oh so petty;
I feel petty and wetty and gay----





windchymes -> RE: Control (10/21/2007 2:09:29 PM)

Pretty masters turn me off, too.  That's why I could never submit to Brad Pitt.

The elephant man, now.....there's a man I could submit to.



mnottertail -> RE: Control (10/21/2007 2:16:50 PM)

Lam's already done you?  I have lost interest, now.

Ron



windchymes -> RE: Control (10/21/2007 2:21:48 PM)

LOL, wrong elephant man, silly. 



nephandi -> RE: Control (10/21/2007 2:24:11 PM)

Hi

Finding the right one for you take time, however complaining on the ones that do not fit you do not help any. That is like you want a red head and you ask why are there only ugly girls around when all you find are blonds and brunettes. A Dom is not overly sadistic if she is to sadistic for you, nor is a Dom petty if she want more control than you want to give. We all want different things, but that do not mean that what we do want is wrong or bad.

i wish you good luck whit your search.



slavekal -> RE: Control (10/21/2007 2:34:12 PM)

I have WAY too many opinions (of course, that's just my opinion).  Milady puts up with my constant editorializing of the world.  She sometimes even enjoys my humorous take on many things.



meticulousgirl -> RE: Control (10/22/2007 9:10:54 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Shawn1066

Of course you can find somebody who likes things the way you do.  You just have to be patient.  Who knows, one day you may wake up and it will all fall into place.  It happens.


yeah he might be 80 but it could happen...i'm only kidding!  best of luck in your search and yes i'm sure One will turn up someday.

~meticulous~



Lashra -> RE: Control (10/22/2007 10:31:06 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Morsigil

Petty mistresses or masters turn me off. Overly-sadistic masters and mistresses turn me off. Do I have a place? Can I find happineses? Will I find a woman who wants a submissive man with opinions and a desire to cross dress, or do I simply have to accept my role as a male and lead, completely ignoring my desires to submit?

My experiences lead me to believe that I will never find a classy, intelligent woman who isn't so absorbed in her own prowess as to ignore my needs.


First of all being male has nothing to do with leading, if you have a submissive nature PRETENDING to be dominant isn't going to help your situation one bit. Also realize that the number of dominant women is less than that of men and cut that by the amount of Domme's who aren't into crossdressing males. The you would see why it takes awhile to find the right Domme for you.

I have a cross dressing male and I love to listen to his opinions and desires. I think any Dominant who doesn't is really missing out on a big part of their relationship and thats called communication. I know you don't want to hear that you have to be patient but guess what? You do, your only other choices are: pay a pro, do without or go out to munches and start meeting people.

Any relationship takes time and it takes patience. Good luck!

~Lashra



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