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New Dom to the site. - 10/21/2007 10:58:01 PM   
ferninja


Posts: 8
Joined: 9/21/2007
Status: offline 		Hey everyone. Pretty new to the site, just wondering, is it normal to send out like 50 messages and only get one response. It doesnt seem that anyone ever responds on this site. Anyone else have this problem?
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RE: New Dom to the site. - 10/21/2007 11:01:11 PM   
Aceton


Posts: 97
Joined: 9/2/2007
Status: offline 		Yeah, for one, not many take 20 ish Doms seriously, because they tend to be all about horny sex and not much else.  For two, that's all your profile is about, you and sex. You need to be seriously hot to pull off the "I want a chick to fuck" and nothing else line, and even then you can expect to be a one nighter. 

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RE: New Dom to the site. - 10/21/2007 11:08:09 PM   
ferninja


Posts: 8
Joined: 9/21/2007
Status: offline 		Alright, cool. Thanks for the response.

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RE: New Dom to the site. - 10/21/2007 11:12:45 PM   
MissMagnolia


Posts: 3636
Status: offline 		Hi. Yes, your profile does seem to show more of a kink thing than a Dom thing, well to me anyway.

But good luck!!

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RE: New Dom to the site. - 10/21/2007 11:16:01 PM   
DiurnalVampire


Posts: 8125
Joined: 1/19/2006
From: Nashville, TN
Status: offline 		Depending on what you say in your letters out, and what those you are sending to are actualy looking for, you might not get much of a response.  You are not looking for much past a sex sub, and there are a lot of other guys looking for the same. If you dont have something phenomenal to offer to set yourself apart, then you might not get a reply from a poor swamped submissive girl.  Might want to rethink what you are looking for, if your current approach isnt quite getting the response you want.

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RE: New Dom to the site. - 10/21/2007 11:18:33 PM   
ferninja


Posts: 8
Joined: 9/21/2007
Status: offline 		Thanks for the advice everyone. I think he was right though. I read my profile for the first time in a month and I sounded like a tool. I fixed it up a little more to reflect my personality. Tell me what you think?

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RE: New Dom to the site. - 10/21/2007 11:18:36 PM   
PassionateTulip


Posts: 40
Joined: 5/15/2007
Status: offline 		I vaguely recall a thread like this a few months back... it was silly. You sent out 50 emails? Well, if you copy and pasted, and it was obvious you did so of course you wouldn't get a reply. In fact I was speaking with one of my friends about this earlier tonight. Girls don't reply to basic or creepy crappy emails. If you come off being sexual and creepy they won't reply, and if you send a couple liner saying "hi, how are you?" they assume the next email will be sexual and creepy, and again not reply. It's usually easy to tell if you sent out a copy and paste history of yourself as well. Be personal if you want interaction, otherwise you are merely pushing yourself off into the hands of people who more than likely don't care how you like to have sex.

PT

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RE: New Dom to the site. - 10/21/2007 11:19:39 PM   
ferninja


Posts: 8
Joined: 9/21/2007
Status: offline 		alright, thanks for the advice.

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RE: New Dom to the site. - 10/22/2007 12:34:45 AM   
Shawn1066


Posts: 987
Joined: 10/7/2007
Status: offline 		The one thing I hate most, as a submissive, is getting random poorly written offers to serve random Dominants.  Calling me "boy" "slut" "slave" ect right off the bad will generally get me rather angry.  It only makes it worse when it's -quite- obvious I'm taken.

BDSM Rule #347: Submissives are people too

I don't know if you do that...but if you do...don't. :-p

< Message edited by Shawn1066 -- 10/22/2007 12:36:03 AM >

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RE: New Dom to the site. - 10/22/2007 12:55:19 AM   
Aceton


Posts: 97
Joined: 9/2/2007
Status: offline 		She, not he.... and nice rewrite... it's now pretty damn hot!

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RE: New Dom to the site. - 10/22/2007 7:25:01 PM   
darkcatnip


Posts: 11
Joined: 6/22/2007
Status: offline 		I would say that the best way to get a response, is to prove originality and intellect. Talk about something in that girls profile that you are interested in. It shows that you are interested in the person and not just the sex. Also, dont mention sex in the first message.. simply try to chat with the girl. Those are the types of people that I respond to. Good luck :)

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RE: New Dom to the site. - 10/22/2007 10:18:36 PM   
Jonc101


Posts: 122
Joined: 1/11/2005
From: Australia
Status: offline 		Well, I'm hardly new here but I have only ever met 1 woman from the site in 4 years...and she was a nutter!
I'm sure that there are many genuine women who have the mirror urge to what I'm seeking but they may just be too cautious.  I think that many of them are 'wannabes' who get their rocks off by just the written communication as their main point of contact.
I'm certainly not offering sex to random women so I can't be accused of being a 'sex predator' as someone implied that many men are in this thread.

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RE: New Dom to the site. - 10/22/2007 10:25:37 PM   
Jonc101


Posts: 122
Joined: 1/11/2005
From: Australia
Status: offline 		<<<..is it normal to send out like 50 messages and only get one response.>>>
Get used to that, Ferninja. I've posted to well over 100 women here and only ever had a handful of replies, most of them rude and dismissive. Websites like this mean different things to different people and for some it's merely an exhibitionistic, self-indulgent exercise rather than a sincere attempt for r/l meetings.

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RE: New Dom to the site. - 10/23/2007 10:54:01 AM   
bluestockman


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Joined: 10/16/2007
Status: offline 		I write unfailingly polite notes to selected subs--always mentioning something specific in their profile that caught my eye. What is surprising is that not only do they not write back--they never even open the e-mail.

A real head scratcher to me.

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RE: New Dom to the site. - 10/23/2007 4:09:57 PM   
Jonc101


Posts: 122
Joined: 1/11/2005
From: Australia
Status: offline 		I also am 'unfailingly polite' when I approach a woman for the first time and have similar disappointments to yourself, bluestockman.
What gets my goat are the women who complain about 'rude and pushy' emails from 'aggro' men. Nothing ruder than not replying, or even opening emails from us.

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RE: New Dom to the site. - 10/23/2007 5:48:57 PM   
ferninja


Posts: 8
Joined: 9/21/2007
Status: offline 		bluestockman, I know exactly how you feel. Ive been the exact same way with them as well, and to no avail. 

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RE: New Dom to the site. - 10/23/2007 6:22:13 PM   
SweetSarijane


Posts: 3788
Joined: 10/7/2005
From: KC area Missouri
Status: offline 		If they have search parameters set and you don't fall within them, your email goes to their bulk folder and they only see it if they actually check their bulk folder. There's no notification sent for bulk mail. Just something else to think on for the ones that go unread.

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