Kind of/sor of my guidelines. Comments/ideas?

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eyeh8f8 -> Kind of/sor of my guidelines. Comments/ideas? (10/23/2007 5:55:32 AM)
I have really thought about what the guidelines I would hold in a Dom/sub relationship and I came up with the following. Any ideas or help and whatnot? quote: I am in charge: This means that I have control, and power but does not make me dictator. You have a say and I most listen because if it’s a one way street and one is going the wrong way, we are not going anywhere but into a crash. A challenge is good: The main thing I want is a challenge. I don’t want you to agree with everything I say, but I want us to be able to express ourselves. If you challenge me, then I am going to challenge you. I won’t say punish because punishment is basically the challenge to do better for ones misdeeds, and I would rather challenge you one everything. Trust is Key: Probably one of the first things we would do when together would be to both lindfold ourselves and I would stand behind you. Then I would ask you to fall back and try to catch yu. This takes trust from both of us and that is a major thing to consider. I am not god: Since I don’t believe in a god, there is no reason to say I am one. You may have your belies and you may share them but I won’t consider myself any idol! This is a Democracy: You are an individual with rights. I am like the business owner, and you are the person who works for me. I control you but I do not control you mind for the most part. I only want to challenge it, and help you think more, and not more like me. I may not use much for tools or objects: I would rather be creative and use what I have. If we need something; I may just put it together. I would consider the safety and research it. If there is something I don’t believe to be safe, we won’t do it. Trust me there. Try changing roles/Points of View: this isn’t something to do much but try thinking on my end and I will think on yours. Let’s understand each other better. Make us make more informed decisions. salso I don't know why I ask. Probaly just because I do think that what others think is semi-important.

mnottertail -> RE: Kind of/sor of my guidelines. Comments/ideas? (10/23/2007 5:59:14 AM)
The concept is common, I guess the concrete you use is one way of putting it, but you need to get you some heftige spell check and contemplate a little organization, theme, paragraph, I see you are 18 but, in short, Tony, grab an english 101 class, 'cause damn-------------- Ron I see you fixed it up a little but still.......

eyeh8f8 -> RE: Kind of/sor of my guidelines. Comments/ideas? (10/23/2007 6:04:51 AM)
I should have said that's a rough draft. Heh, usually outside of the internet I am known for good grammar/spelling. Anyways I will probably edit that one hundred times or more. Also it's funny because I spell checked it and it didn't come up right. I hate spell checkers because if you mess up, it doesn't always fix it and I sometimes rely too much on them. edit: just noticed that I forgot to upgrade my age. I am 19.

Sabella -> RE: Kind of/sor of my guidelines. Comments/ideas? (10/23/2007 9:20:30 AM)
I think it would be interesting to get a new dog and read him the list. See what he says. He says nothing, just grins at you. You sigh and ruffle his ears, his eyes narrow - suspicious. You don't follow the ruffle with a cuff upside the head, he grins again and wags his tail slowly. You decide to take a walk and whistle for him to follow. He grins and sits there. You sigh again and keep walking. A few minutes later a cold nose hits your palm and he takes off in loping circles around you, sometimes gone for long minutes but always returning. Later you're both tired and sit by the stream for a little while, drinking companionably together. You from cupped palms, he from diving his long furry snout into the water. You reach over to pet him, startled - he growls then shakes it off as you both respectfully eye each other. On the way back home you try some basic commands. Sit. Stay. Roll over. Beg. He'll sit but not stay, he'd much rather chase a stick and does that happily returning again and again. Ok so some training is needed for the other stuff. He'll roll over (with your gentle push) with a wary eye and tense flanks until the belly scratching starts. Ok a little nervous but belly scratches are good, you might can be trusted. Later that evening you both pile up to watch some tv. At some point he yawns and drops his head on his paws and closes his eyes. Close, but not touching. Not yet. Maybe tomorrow you'll have that big fuzzy head on your thigh. Who knows? it was a good day.

PryderiLoup -> RE: Kind of/sor of my guidelines. Comments/ideas? (10/23/2007 2:01:10 PM)
quote: I think it would be interesting to get a new dog and read him the list. See what he says. He says nothing, just grins at you. You sigh and ruffle his ears, his eyes narrow - suspicious. You don't follow the ruffle with a cuff upside the head, he grins again and wags his tail slowly. Not really sure how this relates to the OP, but it is a very cool story for a new D/s relationship...

Sabella -> RE: Kind of/sor of my guidelines. Comments/ideas? (10/23/2007 2:15:09 PM)
HA! it was the topic headings that got me to thinking I am in charge (no, but you'd like to be based on what you think you want which may or may not be what you really want) A challenge is good (otherwise you'd both be bored to tears, yes?) Trust is Key (trust is the treasure, finding ways to earn trust is the keys) I am not god (damn skippy, his job is taken! Pass the milkbones) This is a Democracy (which means you're open for teamwork, this is good!) I may not use much for tools or objects (they have their place but using your mind is best solution to most situations) Try changing roles/Points of View (zing! here's our winner) And reading over all of those for some reason a grinning golden retriever popped into my head. Grown, has had good times as well as hard knocks but willing to make friends and looking for adventure.

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