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Argentopal -> RE: Help.... (10/23/2007 8:44:19 AM)
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Hello,
In 2003 Sir and i went through the same thing. He felt like he was having a heart attack but the ekg and other tests showed he was not. In 3 weeks time we had 2 emergency runs to a hospital(oh and we live in the middle of nowhere - even with EMS it's an hour to a hospital!). He had every machine imaginable hooked up to him. He had test after test. Finally, after his sister who is an MD called and told us to be sure and tell his doctor about their mom's angina, they did the cath and actually saw his heart go into a spasm and confirmed he has the same genetic angina.
i relied on friends and family for support. While our grown UMs were wonderful, they were scared too and they 'know' about our relationship. but since thay are not part of this lifestyle it's still hard for them to relate. Another married, Ds couple who was our age was the greatest support. Being our age was good, we shared some life experiences that our kids did not. Being Ds was good because they really did understand how i was feeling and i didn't have to worry about being careful what i said or called him. Being friends and not family was good because they were not as emotionally involved.
i also had to set aside my more natural feelings of submission and put on a more "domly" hat. i had to listen closly to the doctors and be sure i understood everything they said. i had to make sure i understoof his diet and medications. i had to take charge at times and tell him certain things. Even after the diagnosis things a bit unsettled. They were tweaking the medications and while they were doing that he had a Saturday here at home when i really thought he was seriously having a heart attack. It was not the same as the angina made him feel at all. i hapen to keep my cpr card current and he was presenting with every sign of a heart attack. As the day progressed and he would come inside and sit down and complain about this pain, some dizzyness, a different pain, numbness in his hands, nausea, and on and on. He refused to allow me to call EMS because he didn't want to bother them! He became more and more disoriented and confused and he steadfastly refused to allow me to get help. I finally managed to get him to agree to me driving him for help. The EMS station out here is literally 6 miles from our place, so I got him inot the truck and off we went and finally between myself and the EMT guys he agreed to go to the hospital. Turned out to be a bad drug combination, but he did need medical attention. I just had to be the boss of him for a while.
Sometimes taking good care of them means taking control for awhile. Any good friends or family that can offer support, do accept it. You are a strong lady or you would not be able to submit to him, so draw on that strength now. Draw on your love for him and his trust in you. Take a few minutes for you - relax, use deep breathing or meditation, yoga if you know it, do something to help YOU relax. Sometimes a quick walk can help relieve stress. Whatever your personal spiritual beliefs are - lighting a candle, saying a prayer, just sitting and quietly thinking about him, we can take in power and comfort from the community around us. i hope for a positive outcome for your Master and comfort for you while you need it.
opal
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