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Appropriate Age? - 10/23/2007 10:04:14 AM   
mtl146687


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Status: offline 		Hello to all,

I can't help but notice, that the bdsm community seems to be made up of people well into their "adult" hood. I myself am only 20 years old (sub) and find it hard to find any dom within my own age (luckily I did find one). Regadless of that though, I wish to merely start my journey and learn from various people, but I cant help but think that maybe I am too young to start? So I was wondering what age everyone else was when they truly got their feet wet in the bdsm world? Do you think I am too young?

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RE: Appropriate Age? - 10/23/2007 10:07:05 AM   
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ORIGINAL: mtl146687

Hello to all,

I can't help but notice, that the bdsm community seems to be made up of people well into their "adult" hood. I myself am only 20 years old (sub) and find it hard to find any dom within my own age (luckily I did find one). Regadless of that though, I wish to merely start my journey and learn from various people, but I cant help but think that maybe I am too young to start? So I was wondering what age everyone else was when they truly got their feet wet in the bdsm world? Do you think I am too young?

Best regards
mark


you're never too young to know what you want.  i knew by the age of 12 that i liked boys and girls.  i knew by 14 that the thought of being tied up and having no control turned me on something fierce.

i've always behaved in a submissive manner.  i've only actively been involved in BDSM for....7 years now.

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RE: Appropriate Age? - 10/23/2007 10:08:32 AM   
akisha


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Status: offline 		There is no such thing as an appropriate age. Other then the age of legal consent.  I started my journey in this lifestyle at the age of 16. One of  reasons there are so many people that are over 30 on here is that alot of people did not discouver themselves or admit to themselves who and what they are until later in life.

When I was in my 20's i was mostly in nilla relationships because I had no idea how to find others. The fact that i lived in a northern rual area didn't help either. It wasn't until I was 28 that I dicouvered online sites like this one.

You are not too young, its just rare that young people know what they want.

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RE: Appropriate Age? - 10/23/2007 10:10:31 AM   
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Status: offline 		You're never too young. Hehe, well ok, sometimes you can be too young. PLEASE - to all of you young and new people check out the site www.goleather.org for information on this wonderful group.  I will be starting a DC area chapter soon and there is currently a South Florida one. I know those are 2 pretty specific areas but we have a forum on the web as well and it would be cool for people to be active on it. 

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RE: Appropriate Age? - 10/23/2007 10:14:21 AM   
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Status: offline 		You also might want to check into whether there's a local TNG (The Next Generation) group in your area (or starting one if there's not).
 
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RE: Appropriate Age? - 10/23/2007 10:17:49 AM   
mtl146687


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Status: offline 		haha Im going to universtiy for political science, who knew Id be a leader of that party. But thanks for the quick replies, Im still apprehensive about going to munches, I cant help but think people will be like "whos that kid?" But luckily Im pretty social regardless haha. cheers

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RE: Appropriate Age? - 10/23/2007 10:24:09 AM   
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Status: offline 		I don't believe there is an age limit- other than being of legal age of consent.

I was 14 years old and would make boys wear pretty panties for me, among other lovely things.  By the time I was 18, I was spanking them and tying them up with nylons and scarves.

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RE: Appropriate Age? - 10/23/2007 10:26:28 AM   
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Status: offline 		Younger than you.

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RE: Appropriate Age? - 10/23/2007 10:26:34 AM   
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Status: offline 		i think Toronto would be your closest established TNG group (specifically for 18 to 35 year olds)....feel like going for a drive to check things out? maybe you can set up a group in your home town...

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RE: Appropriate Age? - 10/23/2007 10:27:42 AM   
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haha Im going to universtiy for political science, who knew Id be a leader of that party. But thanks for the quick replies, Im still apprehensive about going to munches, I cant help but think people will be like "whos that kid?" But luckily Im pretty social regardless haha. cheers


I have found that as long as you are polite and respectful, nobody really cares about your age. Be honest about what you know and what you don't know, as well as willing to learn.

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RE: Appropriate Age? - 10/23/2007 10:30:19 AM   
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Status: offline 		I think many foget that when most of us "older" types were enjoying sm there were NO computers and very little information...we had to wing it,count yourself lucky that you have so much information at your disposal never mind groups and outlets like this to hook up and meet...

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RE: Appropriate Age? - 10/23/2007 10:33:35 AM   
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You are of legal age, you are not to young.

i wish you well


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RE: Appropriate Age? - 10/23/2007 10:36:58 AM   
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Status: offline 		actually there are infantile 45 year olds (NOT talking about kink here) that are too young for the lifestyle

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RE: Appropriate Age? - 10/23/2007 10:50:25 AM   
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Status: offline 		I figure its better to start now, and be a real "expert" by 50, you know something to tell the grandkids about eventually of the good ol days

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RE: Appropriate Age? - 10/23/2007 10:58:16 AM   
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Status: offline 		Too young? There are legal issues but I'd say if you are old enough to get married or join the army you should be able to consent to learn about any sexual subject.

Look for TNG and university/college groups and stay away from organizations that meet in bars and you'll find groups more open to younger people.

Try to remember though that what you feel at 20 is very similar to what people 50+ report feeling too in clubs, groups, and organizations as well as the search for partners. It isn't right or wrong similar how things are right now in many areas.

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RE: Appropriate Age? - 10/23/2007 11:01:12 AM   
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ORIGINAL: mtl146687

I figure its better to start now, and be a real "expert" by 50, you know something to tell the grandkids about eventually of the good ol days


lol, let's see I knew about this since high school can't say I was really that out and about in public with it. But my few relationships all had the element there somewhere. (I'm 25 right now).

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RE: Appropriate Age? - 10/23/2007 11:03:38 AM   
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ORIGINAL: LadyRope

I think many foget that when most of us "older" types were enjoying sm there were NO computers and very little information...we had to wing it,count yourself lucky that you have so much information at your disposal never mind groups and outlets like this to hook up and meet...



Which may be a contributing factor to the ages of people, i expect younger people are discovering BDSM far easier because there is a whole community already formed.

To OP there are plenty around you age i know a fair few (though they are from the UK) I find that its helpful having a vast array of ages in learning. I have never found that being 21 is a hinderance to me personally and i willingly admit that im new and dont know everything but ill fight anyone who says im too young (it happened once until we met at a club) If you know who you are and what you like then you are old enough. I do sometimes worry about young people involved who seem not to know who they are and put themselves in some silly positions because of it. But you seem to have your head screwed on right :D

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RE: Appropriate Age? - 10/23/2007 11:04:20 AM   
mtl146687


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Status: offline 		haha well even when I was 6 Id always voulenteer to be the robber and let my sisters friends catch me;) even though I was clearly faster but yes I knew about bdsm since I was about 13 thanks to the power of the internet.

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RE: Appropriate Age? - 10/23/2007 1:57:40 PM   
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Status: offline 		If they can draft you ass to fight for your country then your of age!!

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RE: Appropriate Age? - 10/23/2007 2:08:21 PM   
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Status: offline 		i was about 21 when i had my first Dom who introduced me to it. And then i developed further a couple years later when i met my now present Dom. i've seen personals for people who are 18 looking for a Dom/Domme. Naw i don't think your to young to get into it. Just have fun and grow and learn

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