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mistoferin -> RE: Increasing my hits. (8/1/2005 3:09:58 PM)

I would not normally be so blunt but you have asked so I will tell you what my observation has been. It is only my opinion and is not meant to be anything other than constructive criticism. Your posts here on the boards have been at about the same level of mentality as that of an adolescent who has just stumbled upon his father's collection of girlie magazines. You seem to think that this is all about fetishes and kink. It is very difficult to take you very seriously when you project the image of being nothing more than the average HNG, albeit more persistent than most. You have not taken the advice of those here on the boards who have suggested cutting back. One of the most highly attractive qualities of a Dominant is his degree of self control....yours seems to be seriously deficient. If you truly are seeking actual knowledge here I have one point of advice.....it is hard to listen with your mouth moving. Also, I might point out to you that the submissives who contribute here on these boards are real people and their purpose in life is not to assist you with your morning wood issues. As for finding a submissive to call your own, I believe that you have clearly demonstrated that you are not yet at that level.



fourpeas -> RE: Increasing my hits. (8/1/2005 3:12:53 PM)

Well Superman, most of us who are answering all your questions are collared and claimed already.

Also, speaking from my little experience and my position as a pretty new person to the boards and to the lifestyle, I think that those of us who are responding and answering your questions are slaves/subs who have been collared before or are currently collared and we are not here to look around for Doms/Masters. I think the majority of people on the boards, their primary purpose is to educate themselves and learn from others.

I met my Dom in a different way that was a little less of a "meat market" type situation. I just can't stand that. And I also couldn't stand when I first joined Collarme, that there were so many Doms who just sent me an anonymous response, even though my profile clearly states that I am collared and claimed.

I would also encourage you to get involved in the local scene, even if you're a big chicken like I am and all you can manage to do is go to a BDSM-friendly bar and hang out for a bit. Meeting people in r/l has helped me immensely, it has helped me figure out more of who I am. Anyways.

Oh the last and most important thing...

BE PATIENT! Good things don't sprout overnight.



fourpeas -> RE: Increasing my hits. (8/1/2005 3:18:37 PM)

Basically what she said too. Very well worded erin.

I am not into flaming you, because I don't know you. But from your questions, I think it might be wise for you to get some r/t experience with a more experienced Dom and get start slowly. As a new sub myself, I don't want to be giving all my control to a Master who might (INADVERTENTLY) hurt me because he didn't know what he was doing.

Having a sub is a serious thing. If you want someone to run around your house in stockings, that is one thing. But most, if not all, of us subs/slaves want to completely give ourselves to another. And we want to give ourselves to another and be able to trust that he/she is going to be experienced and confident enough to

a) accept our submission
and
b) use our talents for good, care for us, protect us, and love us.

We are real people... Not here just for fetishes... Here to belong to our Masters/Doms and we take this very seriously. This isn't just a Q&A for me, nor for many of us. I really do belong to someone. It is not just a game. Maybe you can start with r/l training and then go from there. It is a long path and it is an interesting and challenging one.

Maybe you should be asking mostly Masters and Dommes, too. Ask them for advice.



tinkJH -> RE: Increasing my hits. (8/1/2005 4:08:53 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: mistoferin

I would not normally be so blunt but you have asked so I will tell you what my observation has been. It is only my opinion and is not meant to be anything other than constructive criticism. Your posts here on the boards have been at about the same level of mentality as that of an adolescent who has just stumbled upon his father's collection of girlie magazines. You seem to think that this is all about fetishes and kink. It is very difficult to take you very seriously when you project the image of being nothing more than the average HNG, albeit more persistent than most. You have not taken the advice of those here on the boards who have suggested cutting back. One of the most highly attractive qualities of a Dominant is his degree of self control....yours seems to be seriously deficient. If you truly are seeking actual knowledge here I have one point of advice.....it is hard to listen with your mouth moving. Also, I might point out to you that the submissives who contribute here on these boards are real people and their purpose in life is not to assist you with your morning wood issues. As for finding a submissive to call your own, I believe that you have clearly demonstrated that you are not yet at that level.


I just felt this needed to be repeated.



Kinkypupper -> RE: Increasing my hits. (8/1/2005 5:08:12 PM)

I agree be patient.
All you need is one..
But a comment on your profile tho You are listed as a "dom" but it reads like a sub.



Lordandmaster -> RE: Increasing my hits. (8/1/2005 5:10:03 PM)

I'm not sure I agree that "be patient" is the answer. If you're looking for a leopard in Antarctica, patience is not the solution to your problem.



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