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EclipseAbove -> RE: look at that smiley lolol sorry RE: Beyond the limits/experience survey (10/24/2007 9:34:38 AM)
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The questionaires out there are just tools to help with the discussion. The key word being "help". They aren't the actual negotiation but merely a place to start. Keep in mind that they might only cover about 95% of the topics you will want to discuss. So, after you've talked about all the items on the questionaire, you'll have to ask yourselves if there is anything that wasn't covered.
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ORIGINAL: tryingtobeclear
Does it turn you on for your slut to occasionally break minor rules, and then admit having done so to you thereby giving you an opportunity for punishment or does rule breaking of small or large significance displease you...
Most of the questionaires have a least one item that covers punishment. If there isn't a "hell no, not ever" answer next to it, I think a proper discussion about punishment would result in an answer to this. After all one person's idea of punishment is another person's idea of torture. And just saying "I like punishment" and hearing "yea, me too" does not constitute a proper discussion.
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if you tell your slut not to cum would you rather she beg...not complain...or fail because your just that good!!
Ditto - orgasm control or orgasm denial.
Personally, I like using the questionaires as they tend to force a discussion of what might seem obvious, but quite often I get very surprising results and learn things that I wouldn't otherwise learn. But they are simply a checklist of discussion items, like an agenda at a meeting - nothing more.
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