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toservez -> RE: Pleasing another to please your Master. (10/24/2007 11:34:31 AM)
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All kink and power exchange things are not equal. To me this and bisexuality are two things that at their core you either have in you or not. So if something like being shared sexually is something you can either do or learn to do but only if it is in you. For most as you can tell from most replies when this topic comes up this is a hard limit and for most it is also usually an assumed hard limit.
Back to the OP, yes I have done that and in fact very direct where my previous owners were very active in the swinging community so I was shared often in that type of venue. In terms of my reaction to doing this, it is basically pure objectification on a very intense level. It is one thing to give your body and sexual parts to your beloved owner and another for him to exercise those rights by telling you who to have sex with. In the actual event it can be enjoyable, horrible and plain old boring and a nuisance. The first few times this happen to me I did require a lot of aftercare but as time went on not so much. The pleasure for me in doing this has never been about sex but knowing it pleases my Master and the intensity of the whole thing.
I am not dismissing the safety risks as others have mentioned but like usual whenever people discuss safety issues it is more about rationalizing in a moral way why they do not do something instead of just saying they cannot handle an open relationship like that is a negative when it is just different strokes for different folks. Like with all other things the word safety comes up it is discussed in a vacuum state. I can spend ten minutes interviewing everyone on this site and the people who strut out safety as the reason on this thread and find things they do in their life to be every bit as dangerous or even more so when talking about how long they might live as this one. Like all other risks in life, it is about understanding and accepting the ones you are taking and trying to minimalize them by being smart about it.
To defend the swinging community, people in it probably take safety of this nature more serious then nearly every single person out in the real world. So unless you are in a monogamous relationship and were a virgin at the time you met your forever another then most on here have exposed themselves to this risk.
Please do not infer I am dissing safety, I am not. I am just dissing people who use safety after the deciding they are monogamous and work their way backward to justify it. If people were really concerned about safety on the level they preach on things they do not do, cigarette, fast food, motorcycle industries would not exist and that is just off the top of my head. If people were truly concerned about safety we could talk about bondage risks, what electricity and the human body should not mix, how fast you drive, what car you drive, a person’s diet and practically every thing we do.
This topic is like most things in life and has an element of risk to it. There is no right or wrong but for most this is a risk they will not take and I do say good for them. But let’s put it into some perspective and not cast moral judgment on it. We all take risks, it is just which ones we choose and how we go about minimalizing those risks is what makes us different.
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