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RE: Stay at home Domme - 10/25/2007 11:01:31 AM

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I believe he has the mistaken impression that would mean the dom/me would be penniless and would look to the sub for all of their needs. I personally stay at home most of the time(am just now foraying into the outside work world) and since 2001 have been the sole breadwinner at home due to illness of my husband. Even though I am here all the time at present and have been since then, I do not do any chores or the like, and my needs are met by him, not because he is dependent but because he wants to devote himself to me.

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RE: Stay at home Domme - 10/25/2007 11:47:24 AM

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Anyone with offspring, male, female, top, bottom, switch who thinks it is beneath them to raise those offspring gets my vote for bad parent of the year.

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RE: Stay at home Domme - 10/25/2007 11:53:20 AM

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RE: Stay at home Domme - 10/25/2007 3:48:25 PM

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I have a few physical issues that prevent me from working. As such, I am the stay at home person here. While I do not take on the role of dad to her children, I do dishes, take out trash and do laundry. I also take care of bills, and make sure everything that needs to get done actually gets done. Tonight I have to go grocery shopping for the house. They are all part of my role as a dom as I see it.

I have a slightly different view on being a dom then some others. My job is not to just get my way and be served. I define my role as the head of the home, and responsible for all activities that occur within it. I have to make sure anyone serving me is also having their needs cared for. I have to make sure they are physically and emotionally fit for service. That means after Phoenix just spent 10 hours working a very hard and physical job, then for her own health she needs to rest. Dinner needs to be made, we can't order out every night and the kids are to young to cook, so that means I cook dinner. I could delegate this task to Phoenix, but that would not be in her best interest. As a dom I always have her best interest in mind.

I don't think there are any tasks that are beneath me, however there are some I just wont do. I don't change the cats litter box. Before we got the cats I made it clear I don't like playing with cats crap, and that it would be her job. Not beneath me, just something that disgusts me, and a semi hard limit. There are a couple other things, mostly dealing with her children.

I never wanted kids, and don't make a great dad in my opinion, so I stay out of the daddy business. I let her care for her children, but I back up her decisions regarding them. She is the one who has to get up and take care of the screaming and fighting when I am not left alone with them (I baby-sit sometimes when she is at work and has no one else). She does all the maintenance for the kids when she is here.

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RE: Stay at home Domme - 10/25/2007 3:58:13 PM

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ORIGINAL: twistedwillow

This question is inspired by a thread on the alt lifestyles in the news forum.
In it, it was said that a lot of people could use a housewife to do all those little housey things that needed doing to keep a place running smoothly.

Now my question is .. are there many Dom\mes who are house wives\hubbys and\or stay at home mum\dads, or is this the sole (I hesitate to use generalities) domain of your subs?
Is it 'beneath' you as a Dom\me to be a stay at home?

~curiosity called and its name is twisted willow~

That would be Great! lol, I haven't read anything past this yet but Ill try anything once. I bet it would really get boring though, but maybe not

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RE: Stay at home Domme - 10/25/2007 4:07:01 PM

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ORIGINAL: Celeste43

Anyone with offspring, male, female, top, bottom, switch who thinks it is beneath them to raise those offspring gets my vote for bad parent of the year.

I agree totally

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RE: Stay at home Domme - 10/25/2007 4:41:40 PM

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Thanks for all the replies, I went off to bed just after posting the initial question.
I guess I'm just spoilt, I'd love to be a stay at home mum but I hate housework, so I'd rather be a worker, though of course for me its a moot point atm, as I'm a single mum so I do everything on my own.. oh well

I will find a masochistic lil slave one day... or at the very least a rich man so i can have that maid.

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RE: Stay at home Domme - 10/25/2007 8:15:39 PM

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Having one person as the sole income earner for the family (which is what I consider SAH because I don't think working from home is the same at all, that's just more convenient work) is not really omnipresent anywhere in the US anymore, but more common in some places than others.

A slave is there to be used as necessary- if that means as an income earner for the relationship, then so be it. I've LOVE to be a SAH person and take care of the house and do volunteer work and all that fun stuff, but right now it's just not feasible for the lifestyle that we want.

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RE: Stay at home Domme - 10/26/2007 5:10:39 AM

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i would so appreciate a "stay-at-home" wife~

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RE: Stay at home Domme - 10/26/2007 5:37:47 AM

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ORIGINAL: YourNextProperty

I believe it really depends on the individual. If you are a Domme who has a solid self-worth and strong sense of identity then staying at home (or not) won't affect your happiness and your Dominance. Doing housework does not become a submissive act for a stay at home Domme unless She preceives it that way due to Her frail psyche.

i want to ditto this. i know a stay a few stay at home Dom/mes. Some of them hate it (medical reasons) and some of them love it. i think it all depends on the person.

bratty sarah jane

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