Some so-called Masters just give Collars away?

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oceanprincess -> Some so-called Masters just give Collars away? (8/1/2005 8:33:08 PM)
To me, a collar is not just given to anyone. It's earned, I had to earn mine, it wasn't just given to me. I had to stare at it, wondering if I would like the feel of it around my neck, if I would love to wear it, and what exactly it would mean to me. Yes, this is my first post. I am in the collarme chat right now, and some dude, I won't say his name, just asked me if I would wear his collar? He doesn't even know me. If only money was given away this freely, lol... Has anyone came across the same thing?

EmeraldSlave2 -> RE: Some so-called Masters just give Collars away? (8/1/2005 8:42:14 PM)
For each dominant giving collars out like candy necklaces, there is at least once sub dying for some sugar. Figure out what works for you and leave the rest, they won't change, neither will you.

masie -> RE: Some so-called Masters just give Collars away? (8/2/2005 3:40:38 AM)
hi im relatively new to this site but have been with Master for 7 years, i was living with Him for 2 years before He collared me and i remember feeling that i was not doing things right, although i was doing my best to please Him, its a personal thing i guess but Master explained to me that in His opinion a collar needed to be earnt and if given away freely then what signaficance does it hold? however many think of collars as an accessory to a "scene" and i respect that, but i am proud to wear mine as i earnt it respectfully masie

littleone35 -> RE: Some so-called Masters just give Collars away? (8/2/2005 6:37:57 AM)
it took me 6 months to earn my collar from my late Master i was completly new to the lifestyle and had to be trained. I guess i was a quick learned i was in my collar for 4 1/2 years before he passed away. But it meant more because when he gave it to me i knew i was doing things right(pleasing him). littleone

plantlady64 -> RE: Some so-called Masters just give Collars away? (8/2/2005 7:23:04 AM)
Hello There, I agree with your line of thinking. I think some Doms use collars like a worm on a hook to catch fish. They think if you'll agree to wear a collar they will be in charge. Some are not confident enough to give orders without the outward sign you submit to them around your neck. They need it like a crutch to be Dominant. I wear my Masters Training collar as this is my first year in this lifestyle. I will be under the training collar till 2/24/06. Then not only am I going to take a real god locking collar from my Master but I'm also going to be branded with the BDSM symbol on my butt about the size of a quarter. We are doing both the non-removable real collar and sealing the commitment to be my Masters slave with the branding. We take my collaring very seriously. I think collars show ownership in my life, but I see them used in many other capacities too though. Everyone from teenage girls in leather chokers to circle and bone slave catches on everyday unsuspecting folk who have no idea. The lines are pretty murkey these days really. I classify the traditional collars in our BDSM life in many levels also. There's the temporary collar you wear in a Dom's presence when you spend time with him but remove when you leave, there's the service collar for those who are in service to a Master but not traditionally owned, there are training collars that mean someone is instructing you and temporarily owns you during your training period, then there's the real collar which is like getting married as a Master and sub/slave for real. With so many options available of its symbolism it's no wonder people are throwing them around like Frisbees. I say keep the meanings of the ones you accept crystal clear with you and the one who puts his on you, and don't worry what the others view it as. If you’re a Dom or Top I'd ask what the meaning of one on someone would mean before I'd touch someone though. Touching a sub/slave under a real collar may cause trouble if you don't have her/his Masters permission. Sincerely, sub suzanne

imtempting -> RE: Some so-called Masters just give Collars away? (8/2/2005 7:50:59 AM)
aint this in one of the other boards?

perverseangelic -> RE: Some so-called Masters just give Collars away? (8/2/2005 9:01:25 AM)
Personally, I believe that -both- have to earn the collar. The submissive person has to earn the right to wear it and the dominant person has to earn the right to offer it. I don't believe that it is the submissive party's job, alone, to proove him/herself "worthy" of it, as I don't believe submissive people are innately less than dominant ones. I didn't beg or earn my collar. My relationship grew untill that collar made sense--he knew I wanted it, and I knew I could trust him enough to accept it and everything it entailed. Still, though, I figure whatever works for the individaul is ok with me, as long as the individual doesnt' tell me I have to do it that way too.

Mercnbeth -> RE: Some so-called Masters just give Collars away? (8/2/2005 10:48:25 AM)
quote: Has anyone came across the same thing? sort of. this slave was in a bar once and this stumbling-down drunk looked at her and said "willllll youuuuuu marrry meeeee?"[:D]

plantlady64 -> RE: Some so-called Masters just give Collars away? (8/2/2005 11:11:39 AM)
quote: this slave was in a bar once and this stumbling-down drunk looked at her and said "willllll youuuuuu marrry meeeee?" Hello There, I can beat that. I was going into a 7-11 store and a guy panhandeling out in front saw my collar. I came out with a ham sandwich for him. When I gave it to him he said I see your a collared slave. Can I be your Master? I of course politely just said, no, I'm sorry I already have one and got into my car quickly. A second wierd thing that happened was a 12 or so year old boy was selling boxed candy for some teen group in front of my grocery store. I told him I was not interested in the candy and gave him a dollar. When I was about 25 feet away from him and almost to the door of the store he said Excuse me Miss, you have something on your neck. I grabbed my collar and said this? He said yes. I said honey I know I have this neclace on and went into the store. I have no idea how he could have thought I didn't know it was there so I've often wondered what he was thinking in his head. Sincerely, sub suzanne

Fidelity -> RE: Some so-called Masters just give Collars away? (8/2/2005 1:31:35 PM)
How blithely a thing is given usually shows how much it is valued by the giver. See if he gives you his Mercedes with equal ease.

domm4subf1970 -> RE: Some so-called Masters just give Collars away? (8/2/2005 1:57:28 PM)
I agree I would not jsut give something like this away.

EmeraldSlave2 -> RE: Some so-called Masters just give Collars away? (8/2/2005 2:50:50 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Fidelity How blithely a thing is given usually shows how much it is valued by the giver. See if he gives you his Mercedes with equal ease. Why all the issues with the DOMS? They aren't putting collars on their televisions, these subs are ACCEPTING them and WANTING them, they have just as much responsibility here as the dom. And I don't think it's a matter of time or numbers- if the relationship makes you happy, enjoy it.

Hissweetshiv -> RE: Some so-called Masters just give Collars away? (8/2/2005 3:43:03 PM)
Sadly enough, there are many out there who, through lack of experience or simply through not caring, either toss out velcro collars, or accept them one after another. I can't see this changing. For Master and i, the collar has equal significance with a wedding ring. It is a commitment that can't be tossed away on a whim. For some it might as well be just a necklace (no suzanne i don't mean you - the term just stuck) for all the meaning it has to them. All you can do is worry about you and ignore the trolls.

Dracironsgirl -> RE: Some so-called Masters just give Collars away? (8/4/2005 9:55:52 AM)
i'm new to the lifestyle so i didnt know much of the protocol, i met 2 Masters who right away wanted to collar me. i thought this was strange, now i know it's wierd for a Master to be so fast to collar one before even knowing them, collars i feel should be earned and it's a huge committment. ~kristin

nella -> RE: Some so-called Masters just give Collars away? (8/4/2005 10:45:48 AM)
To me quite honest, for me a collar, even if representing my and my Dom`s intrest in BDSM is more of a butiful jewlery then anything else, and i have several of them, and a few of them i myself picked out. That hovever do not mean that my Dom and me is any less dedicated to one another, we simply do not follow collar protocol.

sultryvoice -> RE: Some so-called Masters just give Collars away? (8/5/2005 3:12:46 PM)
We call those Doms who buy their collars by the gross! I have never been collared but unless I earned it and he felt that I did, I would be happy to have it. Just like an engagement ring, you only want it when it's the right thing for the both of you. It's a serious matter and I would not take it lightly..Those that do, just give the rest a bad name and it's a shame that they seem to think they are a dime a dozen! Respectfully, sultry

dominmd -> RE: Some so-called Masters just give Collars away? (8/5/2005 3:37:52 PM)
A question? Can a switch be collared? And I believe that the collar is a sign of deep commitment between both people. The same as marriage is to vanilla people.

EmeraldSlave2 -> RE: Some so-called Masters just give Collars away? (8/5/2005 3:52:23 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: dominmd A question? Can a switch be collared? Depends on the type of switch and type of relationship. Obviously a slave can be owned and still be allowed to dominate someone else. quote: And I believe that the collar is a sign of deep commitment between both people. The same as marriage is to vanilla people. A collar is a symbol that can be whatever we want it to be, also like a marriage.

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