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RosesHaveThorns -> RE: How's my profile? (10/26/2007 10:45:11 PM)
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I'm looking for submissive females that I can train in a Dom/sub fashion into living happier I'm looking for straight or bisexual submissive females. (If you're willing to accept a male Master, you could even be lesbian, that's fine with me; not all the submissives I take on include sexual acts.) Does anyone else see ALLOWING lesbians to contact them, a male a wee bit conceited? I certainly do. And, I am pretty sure that lesbians understand that if they want a straight male’s attention, they generally don’t find problems getting it
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You need to be able to submit to me, so my age or less would generally be preferred, although slightly older is acceptable. (My birth year is 1982.) Why can’t older women submit to you? Are you incapable of dominating anyone older then you? Screams insecurity, and that is not a good trait in a dom. Now, if you perfered younger women, that’s different.
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The relationship would begin online and grow from there as we get to know each other. First online, then on the phone, then a couple meetings, and only then would we worry about living arrangements, perhaps simply moving to live near each other instead of actually living together, but of course that is an option too, should we get along that well. "Safe, sane and consensual" is the rule that governs all. This applies to both submissives and 'pleasure slaves'. …Of course? I’d toss this out. Let relationships grow along an indidvual path. Don’t set out goals or anything. Also, this is really long, so consider shortening this paragraph to just a sentence about how you would like to progress to a real time relationship.
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Another note: 'pleasure slaves', believe it or not, are not about sex. A pleasure slave, to me, is more someone who makes me smile, someone I can flirt with, who flirts with me, someone I can date, hang out with, and be with, someone who is intellectually stimulating, and is fascinated by me. Keep in mind that all aspects of this relationship will be negotiated and agreed upon before I start demanding anything of you, and that includes any possibility for intimacy. And the 'contract' can be renegotiated at any time, as well. Keep this paragraph.
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In short, I think of a 'pleasure slave' as a submissive for love and intimacy, not a slave for sex and bondage. Nymphomaniacs, be forewarned: I am not intimate with anyone I don't genuinely care for on a deep, emotional level. …How many people actually encounter nymphomaniacs on the web who are not guys pretending to be girls? Again, sounding conceited. 'quote:
A) I will allow you to quit at any time you choose. This will always be a safe, sane, and consensual relationship, at all times. You don’t allow this, the slave/submissive has this right. Get rid of this, this is meaningless.
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To Apply: To apply? Are you a Jenny Craig center or a person? quote:
2) Send me a message.
-Present yourself intelligently, showing off your ability to type correctly, and giving some information about yourself and why you want to be my submissive. The more information, the better. Simply saying 'check out my profile' will not be enough.
-Display your wit and charm. If you don't have wit and charm, you can still be my submissive, but you will be a much better one if you have wit and charm, especially if you seek to be a 'pleasure slave'. I can't really train wit and charm into you, it's best to have it to begin with…etc. …Is it just me, or is this sounding a bit arrogant and longwinded? I’m starting to feel like these subs are jumping through hoops to prove themselves to you, but you don’t feel like you need to do the same. It could also be condensed, I think. You could mention a contract after the initial greeting, or put it into a journal to use the profile to talk more about yourself.
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Disqualifiers:
There are certain things that will automatically end (or prevent) our relationship, since I'm just not willing to put up with it, so if you are any of the following, please remove them from your personality as best you are able, or simply don't try to be my submissive. I am pretty picky, and there are plenty of other Dominants on this site (they're just not quite like me). Again, tipping off Arrogant Sensors. You sound like a driver's license with the formality, and it's a bit contradictory given your anti-formal stance. quote:
For some of these disqualifiers, as long as you're willing to work at removing them, you don't have to remove them instantly to begin talking to me. However, if you stop working towards removing them, you'll become disqualified.
- Not female. I only take female submissives (and obviously only female pleasure slaves). If you're a guy, you may as well stop reading. I don't talk to guys. I don't even have many male friends. So if a guy was working on becoming female, would that work out for you?(Couldn't resist) quote:
- No Instant Messenger. I prefer MSN Messenger, but if you absolutely can't use that one, I may let you use another. The messaging system on this site is fine for meeting each other, but after that, we'll need a faster form of communication. You are talking of let pretty early. This is a warning sign to some, but not others, but it can and will piss people off.
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- Slow responder. Hopefully you won't be overly distracted by other things when we are together. Online, a quickly typed response. On the phone or in real life, few unnecessary distractions.
I think that’s just common sense. Try to eliminate things like this to make the profile more concise. It is getting really wordy, and needs some work to be cut down.
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- No profanity, drinking, smoking, or drugs. Ever. (Social drinking is allowed on a case-by-case exception.) I do none of these myself and I expect the same from you. Again, if you make an effort to quit these habits (beginning by not doing so in my presence), it's acceptable, as long as your effort to quit is constantly and vigilantly maintained. The allowing social drinking so early is again, a bit problematic for me. Very arrogant and controlling right off the bat.
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- Not intelligent enough, or creative enough. I don't want someone who is confused all the time, or can't think of anything to do or say. If you can read and understand everything I say, and be able to hold up your end of the conversation, you're probably fine. If you bore me too much I can't do my job. Optimally, we should interest each other. Otherwise, it'd probably be better if you sought a different Dominant.
- Too formal. I want you to relax and be natural, friendly, flirty, quirky, your normal self. Don't brood so hard over what to do next or how to do it properly that you forget a rule you normally have no problem with. We should be able to maintain a casual relationship most of the time, with what I consider as the bare minimum of submissiveness. There are, however, times when you are expected to be formal and pure submissive, especially when it comes to your goals; they just typically aren't the majority. Just write that you want compatibility and be done with it.
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Already in a relationship with a male. Sorry, but I won't accept this. If you have a boyfriend or some male significant other, I'll simply be unable to open up to you much (even if you're just a submissive and not a pleasure slave, even if you're just a friend). Female significant others are not as big a problem, however, at least on my end. Please do not lie and say you don't have one if you really do, that never works out in the long run. Ever. Trust me. You never mentioned having only one slave…Are you able to have multiple ones? Either way, the avoidance of males seems to be a big insecurity thing, and a big turn off.
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