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ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster

I don't do this and frankly find it a little manipulative.

I don't like false questions, at least not between adults--in other words, questions to which the speaker already knows the answer, or questions that express something else in a phoney question form. They're a great way not to communicate, and can be used in passive-aggressive and otherwise deceptive ways.

I suppose you could say that "Will you go get my cell phone from the car?" is a true question, because, not possessing a crystal ball, you can't say you really know the answer to the question. But I don't think that's a legitimate response, since you certainly expect her to do your bidding. You've admitted that you say it INSTEAD of just ordering her to do it, so what you're really doing is ordering her to do it.

So just order her to do it.

Lam

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ORIGINAL: anopheles

If I want my sub to go out to the car and get my cell phone that I forgot, as opposed to saying, "Go get my cell phone from the car," I say, "Will you go get your cell phone from the car?"

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ORIGINAL: domtimothy46176

Which brings to mind a question (sorry to hijack), anyone else find that the harshest rebuke is sometimes a calm, unemotional, "No thank you, I'll do it myself."? On those rare occasions when toy has displays a less than pleasing attitude, I find that removing the privelage of serving me has a profound and lasting impact. It is one of the more efficient negative reinforcements in my arsenal of corrections.
Timothy