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Cyntilating -> RE: Out of the woodwork! (10/27/2007 4:16:38 AM)
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ORIGINAL: MasterShibari
The last two years has been a remarkable period for me in terms of my growth and understanding of the lifestyle. This year I have hit the books and sites, studying hard to learn all I could of BDSM and the scene. I have taken my first steps towards becoming active in my local community, befriending many local life stylists, sharing with them, and most importantly learning from them. I have become active on the forums here, and have established regular correspondence with many interesting people here. Finally, and perhaps most importantly, I have had ample opportunities to experiment and play within the last year, both within established vanilla relationships and through play partners and submissives.
What the last two years have taught me is simply this; I am only now beginning to truly grasp how much I do not know.
That said, I am proud of the hard work (and fun play) that I have committed myself to in the last two years. This has led to more confidence, both in myself, and in my ability to tell others about my experiences and lack of experiences in BDSM. Not just other life stylists, but vanillas as well.
Which leads me to the actual point of this post. I am absolutely shocked about how many of my female friends are interested in experimenting with BDSM. I knew the ones who had experience, but I cannot tell you how many times even in this last month a girl who I knew or have just met turns out to be kink friendly.
I’m one of those guys whose friends are primarily female. I move into a town, and make one male friend, who is my best friend. All my other friends tend to be women. I’m not doing it intentionally, but somehow most of these women are more than open to the idea of experimenting with BDSM, have fantasized about it, and are merely looking for someone with a little experience to play those fantasies out. I almost feel at this point that these girls are jumping out of the woodwork.
So now finally to the actual question: Was anyone else surprised by the number of people they encountered who were kink friendly, though inexperienced, once they started to become more active and more confident in their lifestyle? Or is it just the fact that I live so close to San Francisco, and its bleeding over?
M. Shibari
..it doesn't surprise me actually lol
having just watched the new movie " across the universe" , I am reminded of how many "showed up" to woodstock, communes, love-ins...and this was coming out of a repressed society everyone accepted as "normal".
It has been 40 years ( Gawd im old) and it would only make sense that even more have evolved past their repressions.
Many of "those people" went back to living and dealing with life> but their spirit is still there and they have passed that on to the next generation, in a kind of libertarian kind of way ( well imo anyway) .
If we are just talking about Kinky> then, society as a whole is much more sexually liberated and accepting ( comparitively speaking to a couple decades ago). Sexually explicit is the new accepted "norm" on tv and movies. People sexually experimenting is more readily embraced vs shunned ( ie bi-sexual comments and innuendo).
Use to be the term "leather" on tv was only something you would only see Ricardo Maltabon(sp) sitting in a Chrysler, talking about ... Now, gay bars, leather bars, comments about "spank me big boy" " tie me up daddy" " slap and tickle time" " give it to me hard" > can be heard in primetime sit-coms and applauded! ( thankfully!!!) ( oohhhh I do miss Will & Grace loved that show)..
....is there still ample room for growth and tolerance? of course.
The more "out" people are about their secret feelings and desires> the more people you will find that are secretly waiting for someone ELSE to "build that ball-park" so they can join the team and play ball.
..." if you build it, they will cum" ....
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