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ORIGINAL: Niran

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Here's my take on it: I don't begrudge people the right to use such practices.

Me either. I just reserve the right not to read it. ;)

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If I do accept someone's submission, then I get to determine the rules, whys and wherefores. I always allow input, but I get to make the final decision.

*blinks* Isn't that the idea? Don't go changing the rules on me now, I just started understanding the game....

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ORIGINAL: TiNeedsHouseboy

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ORIGINAL: HiTop
You could have covered all of those topics w/o the hystrionics of a polysylabbic writing style.

I repeat my original question: Did you bother to take the time to read the original thread that spurred this one? If not, you have not done your research. Laziness is not an attribute that benefits either dominants or submissives.

Regarding my polysylabbic style, I write the same way I speak. All of my friends, lovers, and acquaintances have similar writing and speaking styles. If you have difficulty with my style, then a dictionary is always useful and educational.

Clearly, you didn't bother to check my profile. You'd have noticed that the same style exists there. I don't dumb down my posts. Questions are always welcomed if someone has difficulty with a delineated concept.

Had you bothered to research the original thread, you would know that Bob is an astrophysicist. I have no doubt that he can grasp every word I've written. That's part of why it's important that his text reflects his abilities. As I just posted, the devil is in the details if one is to create a "marketable" image that prospective Dommes will find engaging and filled with believable text.

The next time I have a social gathering, I'll be sure to not send you an invitation. Wouldn't want you to die of boredom due to inability to grasp our dialogue. Besides, we only allow friends, not interlopers!

~ Ti ~

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ORIGINAL: Storm69u

I have to confess... After reading a few of Ti's replies I would like nothing more than to bend her over and pull a train on her... She seriously needs to lighten up...

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ORIGINAL: onceburned
That's a rather odd introduction

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ORIGINAL: subimale49
I had to read Ti's response to my profile at least 4 times before everything sunk in. In all honesty, when I wrote my Thesis for my Doctorate, I had less comments from the Professor than what Ti gave my profile.

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ORIGINAL: TiNeedsHouseboy

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ORIGINAL: subimale49
I had to read Ti's response to my profile at least 4 times before everything sunk in. In all honesty, when I wrote my Thesis for my Doctorate, I had less comments from the Professor than what Ti gave my profile.

I doubt it has sunk in. You're too busy being defensive.

I donated a great deal of time to giving you constructive feedback to further your efforts. Rather than be flattered by the attention, rather than consider how my suggestions might facilitate your Domme search, you're busy viewing my ideas as a personal attack. You have much soul searching to do.

Oh, as for your Doctoral Thesis, shall we do a headcount on how many indifferent dissertation advisors exist? Perhaps if you had one who gave a hoot, instead of simply collecting a paycheck, you would have been granted thoughtful feedback as part of your learning experience. After all, one doesn't just do a dissertation for the writing exercise. It's supposed to be a higher learning experience.

One aspect of the way you're reacting, at least based on my experiences, reflects the critical distinction between people into the LIFE-style, vs. people into the SEX-style (want scenes, not fully realized D/s relationships). People into the SEX-style tell me that I pose questions that no one else has ever asked them, and which they've never before considered.

My questions are designed to make people look inside themselves. Some people can't handle that. In fact, I regularly hear remarks like, "If I have to think about issues like that, I'll never be able to get into submissive mode. I don't care about the whys and wherefores." It allows for a great way to weed out "players" from potentially devoted submissives.

Generally, I've noticed it's not that they don't care. Something about their libidinal desires is too threatening to their emotional well being to let them get in touch with it. (We're not talking about pathological deviance. It could be something as simple as cross-dressing or guilt over requiring an extramarital BDSM partner.) Meanwhile, these guys can't fathom why they're unable to spark a relationship, launching instead into "woe is me" mode.

In short, you're the one who posted not once -- but twice -- in two separate threads -- with the same request to help you. I offered cogent advice that would facilitate your search. It's unfortunate that you find it hostile. Under the circumstances, the next time you come running for advice, I'll leave the answers to indifferent people, like your dissertation advisor.

Have a good life, wherever it leads you.

~ Ti ~

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ORIGINAL: Niran

That's ok, Ti. I like your high horse. He's good friends with mine *smiles*


Just know that while your "style" may not be for everyone, I enjoy it.


N

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ORIGINAL: indygirl2

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ORIGINAL: Niran

That's ok, Ti. I like your high horse. He's good friends with mine *smiles*


Just know that while your "style" may not be for everyone, I enjoy it.


N

One more vote. I've often found that people who endlessly gripe about being "talked down to" are listening from the floor anyway.

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BTW, don't for one second try to rationalize that you're not "cheating" simply because you don't have intercourse with a Domme. You're handing over control of the secret/dark/taboo side of your libido. It doesn't get more intimate than that!