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Being Sweet - 8/2/2005 10:46:14 AM

Superman42280

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A lot of slaves seem to like aggressive, controlling Doms. While I would absolutely demand certain things and want to be pleased, I'd be very sweet and loving to my slave and take care of them.

Do subs/slaves tend overall to want more sweet, nice Doms or aggressive "grab-by-the-hair" caveman like?

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RE: Being Sweet - 8/2/2005 10:56:35 AM

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The true answer? Most subs want the men you read about in romance novels- the rugged protective almost-out-of-control uber-male, who knows exactly how to touch their minds and bodies to make them feel like the most special thing on earth.

It can confuse many newbies, they want their dom to take aggressive control, but they are afraid to be out of control AND aren't sure what to do when a dom acts nice, or sweet, they find it paradoxical.

However, your question again smack of "trying to set the right trap" rather than simply being who you are.

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RE: Being Sweet - 8/2/2005 11:14:20 AM

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hi

i can only speak from my own personal experience and i have only had the one Master whom i have been with 7 years. The way i see it is i am Masters property and therfore bring Him value, and although He is sadistic, i know He would never cause me permenant harm as to do so would devalue said property. He takes care and nurtures me as it is in His best intrests to look after what belongs to Him, and is very loving and supportive. and reassuring when i express any concerns

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RE: Being Sweet - 8/2/2005 11:31:00 AM

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Hello There,
I have a Master that is very sweet to me. He tells me how happy I make him, he massages me, he cares for my mental and physical health, and he shows he appreciates me and thinks of me often. Overall I'm a very spoiled slave.
There are also times when he's more dominant and has the ability to be very strict and tough as nails. Even when he's being sweet all he has to do is tell me he wants me to do something and I immediately do anything as fast as I can do it. I know my Master is in charge and he commands that respect by all his actions gentle and firm.
His immediate wish is my immediate concern and desire.
So I feel I have the best of both worlds. I have a strong, fierce, sweet, sensitive Master all rolled up into one.

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RE: Being Sweet - 8/2/2005 12:52:03 PM

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I like both sides. And I prefer a mix between this sides. That's what thrills me the most.

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RE: Being Sweet - 8/2/2005 1:24:11 PM

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You're going to get a different answer for each person you ask.

I -like- that youask questions, but you seem to be looking for generalizations that really dont exist. All these questions do is sollicite one answer from each person.

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RE: Being Sweet - 8/2/2005 3:33:20 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Superman42280
Do subs/slaves tend overall to want

This phrase right here is the root of the problem. Subs and slaves do not tend overall to want ANYTHING. We are individuals, just as any other group of people with a common title would be. Picture this phrase with "caucasians" or "Cubs fans" inserted where "subs/slaves" is. It's meaningless. We can tell you what each of us looks for, but not what the class of people in general look for.

As for myself (now that i've gotten that off my chest, lol) i have a Master who is sweet, or controlling, as He needs to be. I fail to see any conflict between the two. I serve Him and we both know this, so there's hardly a need for the whole chest-thumping caveman type behaviour you seem to be thinking of in connection with control.

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RE: Being Sweet - 8/2/2005 9:29:38 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: EmeraldSlave2

The true answer? Most subs want the men you read about in romance novels- the rugged protective almost-out-of-control uber-male, who knows exactly how to touch their minds and bodies to make them feel like the most special thing on earth.

It can confuse many newbies, they want their dom to take aggressive control, but they are afraid to be out of control AND aren't sure what to do when a dom acts nice, or sweet, they find it paradoxical.

However, your question again smack of "trying to set the right trap" rather than simply being who you are.

Whoa boy!!! LMAO !!! You're right! I do want the men I read about in romance novels... the rugged, protective uber-lame who also knows exactly how to touch my clitoris, bring me to the most amazing orgasms twenty-seven times a day, AND also understands, knows, and dare I say, even FEELS all my deepest emotions.

Or is that just most women... LOL

Uhhhhh... anyways... Yeah. I like what I have so far. My Dom can be really gentle at turns and strict at the next. But I think that's human nature, don't you? I think most of it's just finding the right fit.

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