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ORIGINAL: MtPleasantsubAsh

i'm in a new relationship with my Dom, and i've spent the night three times...
the first night i slept well, but work up shivering uncontrollably
the second, neither he or i could sleep..tossed all night
the third i took tylenol pm, and zonked out...oblivious untill about nine in the morning.

I want to be able to fall asleep in his arms and i'm afraid that he won't want me to come over and sleep beside him if we can't get used to each other.

Also...usually a little after i wake up..he'ss finger me to an orgasm..and I'll suck his cock untill he comes...and we'll cuddle for an hour maybe more...i just wondered if he's doing it for me?Or whats going through his head? I don't know...

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ORIGINAL: MtPleasantsubAsh

No..i don't have any problem laying next to him...being with him...or getting sleepy..it's just tossing all night the second night...

maybe it was just worried b/c of the 1st time....i have no idea why i was shaking....it was my whole body..and i couldn't stop for about a half hour.

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Sub Drop - part 1 (Intro)
by David Williams
Sub Drop is a term used to describe the after effects of a scene, both physical
changes in the submissive's body and mental and emotional results of the scene on
the submissives mind. While the physical effects usually occur shortly after the scene,
the mental and emotional drop may take days to manifest and thus are often not
thought of as a result of the scene.

It is important to note that sub drop is not a sign of a bad scene or lack of enjoyment.
Sub drop actually most often occurs after a very intense scene where the submissive
completely releases and finds sub space and a sense of euphoria. Thus, in fact, the
better the scene, the better the chance for sub drop of either kind.

Aftercare and attention to small signs can help identify sub drop quickly. Simply noticing different behaviour patterns or actions can make dealing with it much easier
when caught in earlier stages. This is another reason why knowing your play partner
is important.

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The first form of physical sub drop is a lowering of body temperature in the
extremities, stiffness, numbness, and an over all tingling sensation. This is caused by
a centralization of the bodies blood supply. The body sees the scene as a form of
trauma and one of the first defence mechanisms for this in the human anatomy is to
suck the blood supply into the main torso to protect the vital organs and brain.

The result of this action by the body is decreased blood flow to the arms and legs.
This often results in very cold limbs after a scene and lack of sensations. When a
submissives limbs are inordinately cold after a scene or when they complain of
tingling, numbness, lack of sensation, stiffness, aches, or muscle cramps, these are
often from lack of blood flow. A vigorous rubbing of the limbs will help to restore
blood flow quickly.

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ORIGINAL: Alexander

this is so interesting. I've been thinking a lot about this too. Sleep and sleep deprivation have really been on my mind lately. I've been sleeping like a baby as usual but I've been monitoring my girls sleep and it is fucked up. Now true, I keep them under some very high levels of emotional stress, and they are still getting used to each other, and a king is not quite large enough for us all, and getting used to peoples sleeping habits is hard ,but even beyond those problems I think their sleep is suffering more then I want it to.

If I wasnt such a lazy bastard I'd write a big essay about using sleep, sleeping habits, sleeping locations (floor couch bed closet) as a tool to create vulnerability and emotional control.