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RE: a dom that is married to someone else... - 10/28/2007 5:42:42 PM

MissMagnolia

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K, so this is really just role play fucking with someone who is "good in bed"?

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RE: a dom that is married to someone else... - 10/28/2007 6:36:34 PM

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I do not need someone trying to control me. I dont let my own boyfriend do it.. why would I let someone whos married.. it just aint gonna work.. Ive got my walking boots on here with this one.. the only thing holding me back is the fact that hes good in bed

Missy ~ I don't even understand your question at this point.

You say you do not need someone trying to control you ~ but your profile says you are submissive.

He is married and you have a boyfriend, but *he* (the married guy) is good in bed? Hmmm, well ok then. Sounds like a load of BS to me.

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RE: a dom that is married to someone else... - 10/28/2007 7:01:11 PM

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Hey, as long as you're willing to say to him and the boyfriend that your cunt is in control and the one you will surrender all security, standards and long term relationship fulfillment for, then go seek your bliss.

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RE: a dom that is married to someone else... - 10/28/2007 7:02:56 PM

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me and my boyfriend are swingers actually and his wife doesnt know.. he doesnt want her to find out... I was honest he wasent

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RE: a dom that is married to someone else... - 10/28/2007 7:05:10 PM

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You're a swinger and you can't find a non married man having a secret affair to give you a great fuck on a regular basis?

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RE: a dom that is married to someone else... - 10/28/2007 7:07:08 PM

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Me personally only seek out single individual's, because for me it would feel like i'm the third wheel in the party. An uncomfortable situation for me at least

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RE: a dom that is married to someone else... - 10/28/2007 7:10:24 PM

krikket

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One of the very many reasons i won't be with someone who's attached to someone else, or even won't give clear examples that he's not, i.e., he lives down the street, but his room mate is sleeping and we'd wake him up, as an excuse for about a month, or yeah, i have a land line but i don't give the number out cuz i've been stalked, messed up, etc., in the past. Another requested i never wear make up or perfume or lotion and the one time we met for play he scrubbed himself practically raw in the shower before he left. Amazing what tricks i've picked up on over the years..lol.

Another huge reason, besides the loyalty, trust and lying issues is that it's just too damned complicated..or so my ex told me..lol.

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It's about as common as cheating is in vanilla relationships.

If you want an affair with someone who says you are to be the hidden "other woman" then go for it.

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RE: a dom that is married to someone else... - 10/30/2007 8:49:29 PM

arayofsunshine55

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I don't know what's common. Only what I experience and the few around me. Mine is also married. And I am his. Works for us. Took some time to get here, was very cautious about letting him have too much of my life, but now it's now been 3 years.

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RE: a dom that is married to someone else... - 10/31/2007 6:09:22 AM

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having a married dom - been there and done that however i wised up and dumped him. there was no emotional connection or commitment since we could only meet when his "schedule" permitted it ...plus i wasn't the only woman in his stable that his wife didn't know about.

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RE: a dom that is married to someone else... - 10/31/2007 10:28:27 PM

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I recently left my married Dom. He was honest from the beginning that he would never leave his wife. I was at a strange point in my life and really liked him. We lasted a year and I had to end it because I fell desperately in love with him and, as promised, he would never leave his wife. Despite the huge and obvious flaw of being able to cheat on his wife, he is the most amazing person I have ever met (it took 6 months until we made love, and he only just told me that I am the only woman besides his wife that he ever slept with - and I believe him). He helped me through some very difficult times in my life. He helped me become financially independent, heal from an abusive relationship and feel good about myself again. We are trying to find a middle ground now.

He set a really high standard for a future Daddy Dom...if I had a bad nights sleep, we would drive to a park at lunch where he would just hold me in his arms while I napped. He would take me to doctor's appointments, go far out of his way to help me. We started working for the same company about 9 months into the relationship, and every morning he would leave me a little treat...a piece of chocolate, a flower, an apple...

*sigh* he was the best thing that ever happened to me, but the pain now is horrible. He wants me in his life in whatever way I can handle. But I can't handle it and now I lost my best friend and lover.

Don't get involved with a married man, the chances of it ending in a messy, painful way are way too high.

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RE: a dom that is married to someone else... - 10/31/2007 11:19:31 PM

MasterFireMaam

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Im not submissive in real life..

Not to open up the definition can of worms here, but, you might have better luck if you say that you're a bottom. For most people, this implies as physical interaction while saying you're submissive implies that you're interested in service and perhaps 24/7. Just a thought...go with your gut.

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RE: a dom that is married to someone else... - 11/1/2007 10:05:04 AM

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Tell the boyfriend about your lover so he can go beat him up.

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RE: a dom that is married to someone else... - 11/1/2007 10:25:37 AM

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Open up to your respective partners about your interest in BDSM. Guide it toward a 3 or 4 way. Mix your couples and enjoy the show and experience. You don't have too "tell the truth" but you can introduce the truth. You are kinky and want more!

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RE: a dom that is married to someone else... - 11/1/2007 5:11:25 PM

lateralist1

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I've not heard anything about BDSM just sex and not liking control so far.
Sounds as if he's a better fuck than your bf.
Only you can decide what is right for you.
All I know is that cheating has never worked for me.

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RE: a dom that is married to someone else... - 11/1/2007 11:37:56 PM

slave4urneeds

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i have been in a relationship with a vanilla married man and a D/s married man. Both were very controlling and wanted to tell me how, what, where and when. The only thing that i continually kept repeating to both of them was, you are married, i enjoy the relationship that we have and the fun that we share, but until you want to make a commitment to me, i can not make that kind of commitment to you. Enjoy have fun and be safe!!

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