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Archer6 -> How to keep the fire going (10/29/2007 1:19:01 AM)
Hey all, this is kind of for all the couples out there with kids, or simply with really busy lives. How do you keep things...well, spontaneous when your nrmallyhaving to wait till after hourse when the house is asleep? a bit hard to be "Master of your Domain" if you need a spongebob dvd to drown out the noises from the bedroom

CelticPrince -> RE: How to keep the fire going (10/29/2007 3:46:34 AM)
Archer6, If the fire that you speak of is the D/s dynamic, you need not express it solely with great sec control, the pleasure can come from a look or touch also. CO

Dnomyar -> RE: How to keep the fire going (10/29/2007 5:05:05 AM)
Adding to Celtic Prince. a few words whispered in the ear. Cards or small gifts. Do the dishes with her. Cuddling on the couch while watching tv. ect. ect. ect.

batshalom -> RE: How to keep the fire going (10/29/2007 5:11:32 AM)
Grab her hair once in awhile. Go to the bathroom with her. Bite her shoulder now and then. Make her serve your supper and "wait" on you at the table. Tease her throughout the evening, privately, when no little eyes are watching, and explain to her how you are going to use her when it's lights-out. (I lovvvvvvvvve a slow burn anticipatory scene that starts hours prior.)

Phoenixandnika -> RE: How to keep the fire going (10/29/2007 5:15:13 AM)
Archer, We have UMs in the household so have learned sublte ways to show our dynamicts to each other without showing them -- subtle little things. Examples: He will come up behind me and bite my neck hard He will say something like " I love you mine. " Or just say " I want a kiss." As far as sex goes, well that is part of being a parent. Although I will admit we do find ways to tease each other when the kids are in the other room. There was a point were we got a sitter over night and rented a hotel room so we could wild and loud. If you have family local, perhaps sending them there over night could work. Phoenix is known for taking a vacation day or personal day or half of one and coming home and suprising me. Good luck. Blessed Be, Nika

Dnomyar -> RE: How to keep the fire going (10/29/2007 6:00:45 AM)
Bites batshalom on the neck prior to the months she may have to wait for me. To the op you are getting some good advice here start putting it to good use.

TheChauvinist -> RE: How to keep the fire going (10/29/2007 6:12:09 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Archer6 a bit hard to be "Master of your Domain" if you need a spongebob dvd to drown out the noises from the bedroom Would you rather face the consequences of not putting that DVD in?

Phoenixandnika -> RE: How to keep the fire going (10/29/2007 6:16:34 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TheChauvinist quote: ORIGINAL: Archer6 a bit hard to be "Master of your Domain" if you need a spongebob dvd to drown out the noises from the bedroom Would you rather face the consequences of not putting that DVD in? What ever happened to gags, or a hand or pillow over a mouth to keep a screamer quiet? If you have to have noise to drown out other noise why not use music instead of a movie yet alone a cartoon, personally I couldn't play while spongebob or any other children's cartoon was on it just would feel weird plus if my UMs heard something they liked on t.v in our room you better beleive they would come a wondering. blessed be, Nika

TheChauvinist -> RE: How to keep the fire going (10/29/2007 6:24:38 AM)
Nika, I highly doubt that the DVD is playing in the bedroom. And it is being used for more then just drowning out noises. It's keeping the littles attention so that mommy and daddy don't get disturbed. Though having Sponge Bob play while doing a scene would be considered highly sadistic. As for gagging a screamer, thats all well and good but how do you muffle the sound of a paddle hitting her backside without interfering with the swing? Besides, to some, the screams are music to their ears. [;)]

Daddyskittin -> RE: How to keep the fire going (10/29/2007 7:02:47 AM)
I work, and go to school full time... Daddy works on average 16 to 18 hours a day... and we have 4 children between us... some of the things we do are... * He comes and visits me at school during lunch for Hot Nilla Make-Out Sessions * At home... Hot Nilla Shower Sex... with the radio on to drowned out any noise if needed. * Lots.... LOTS of Hot Truck Fuckin (giggles). I have tons more but... don't want to give you all our secrets LOL.

Celeste43 -> RE: How to keep the fire going (10/29/2007 7:12:47 AM)
If they're old enough for sleepovers then find friends with same age and swap sleepovers. One Saturday night they sleep there, two weeks later you get the crew. That way each family can look forward to a free night out. He's self employed, so he does occasionally take a morning off. Here, we've got 5 teens between us and we go to bed before they do. But they sleep later than we do. Me yelling occasionally is no big deal, they're used to him pinching me and me yelping anyway. Spankings we save for alone time because they're noisy. I keep meaning to buy a white noise machine.

Mercnbeth -> RE: How to keep the fire going (10/29/2007 8:01:02 AM)
The term 'UM' has come into standard usage here on CM. However seeing all the posts regarding their influence and impact on adult relationships perhaps we should consider another acronym; 'LM' or 'Little Masters'. It seems that many here are here to serve them and worship at the alter of child worship. Its a dramatic turn around from my formative years. Leaving the better or worse comparison to the wannabe social engineers, I only point to the differnence. The LM's were required to respect those who brought them into the world and who provide the ecconomic and emotional support to live in it. There was no reciprocity expected unless or until it was earned. Respect was a requirement for all people and property enforced stricter than any relationship rule. 'Disrespect' was a 'mortal sin' punished by damnation to a room not outfitted with HD-TV, video games, the internet, or even a pet 'rock'. Yeah, I know, anecdotal stories of the 'good old days' coming from an old fart and look how he turned out. There was no need for my parents to make sure I was entertained for them to have alone time. "Go out and play" was an order as much as it was a suggestion and neither I nor my parents believed sending me out was putting me at risk or sentencing me to a life as a kidnapped white slave boy of a cruel psychotic serial pedophile. They didn't have to concern themselves that I'd get in "trouble" because they knew I knew their punishment was much worse than what could be handed out from any other civil or educational authority. They were my Master - I sure as hell never thought for a moment they were mine. Today's LM's have an expectation to be served. They got it from us. When they fail in school they aren't kept behind, they 'master' their class and teacher making sure all the planets and stars revolve around them slowing them down to the slowest speed that can be maintained by the weakest LM. How disappointed they are when they are removed from the socially engineered protective environment and face the reality of the business community. All of a sudden English IS the predominant language and you are required to read, speak, and write it; and math has a specific answer. An overstatement in response to the question of finding adult time to sustain a relationship? Not in my opinion. It is consistent with my believe that no person, Master or slave and labels in between, can serve 2 Masters. Make your relationship with your partner a priority and make the LM a switch to submission when it comes to you and time for each other will be there. Your other option is to continue to serve your LM and serve your 18 year self imposed sentence.

Daddyskittin -> RE: How to keep the fire going (10/29/2007 8:49:20 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth The term 'UM' has come into standard usage here on CM. However seeing all the posts regarding their influence and impact on adult relationships perhaps we should consider another acronym; 'LM' or 'Little Masters'. It seems that many here are here to serve them and worship at the alter of child worship. Its a dramatic turn around from my formative years. Leaving the better or worse comparison to the wannabe social engineers, I only point to the differnence. The LM's were required to respect those who brought them into the world and who provide the ecconomic and emotional support to live in it. There was no reciprocity expected unless or until it was earned. Respect was a requirement for all people and property enforced stricter than any relationship rule. 'Disrespect' was a 'mortal sin' punished by damnation to a room not outfitted with HD-TV, video games, the internet, or even a pet 'rock'. Yeah, I know, anecdotal stories of the 'good old days' coming from an old fart and look how he turned out. There was no need for my parents to make sure I was entertained for them to have alone time. "Go out and play" was an order as much as it was a suggestion and neither I nor my parents believed sending me out was putting me at risk or sentencing me to a life as a kidnapped white slave boy of a cruel psychotic serial pedophile. They didn't have to concern themselves that I'd get in "trouble" because they knew I knew their punishment was much worse than what could be handed out from any other civil or educational authority. They were my Master - I sure as hell never thought for a moment they were mine. Today's LM's have an expectation to be served. They got it from us. When they fail in school they aren't kept behind, they 'master' their class and teacher making sure all the planets and stars revolve around them slowing them down to the slowest speed that can be maintained by the weakest LM. How disappointed they are when they are removed from the socially engineered protective environment and face the reality of the business community. All of a sudden English IS the predominant language and you are required to read, speak, and write it; and math has a specific answer. An overstatement in response to the question of finding adult time to sustain a relationship? Not in my opinion. It is consistent with my believe that no person, Master or slave and labels in between, can serve 2 Masters. Make your relationship with your partner a priority and make the LM a switch to submission when it comes to you and time for each other will be there. Your other option is to continue to serve your LM and serve your 18 year self imposed sentence. Well thats a great suggestion unless it's a family like mine in which Daddy, and I feel..... the... UM's as they are called here .... come first.

missturbation -> RE: How to keep the fire going (10/29/2007 10:35:51 AM)
Make your relationship with your partner a priority and make the LM a switch to submission when it comes to you and time for each other will be there. Not a chance. My um will always be my first priority whilst she lives in my house and is under my protection. Your other option is to continue to serve your LM and serve your 18 year self imposed sentence. Having children is not a life sentence, its a joy. My um may be a handful but she is wonderful all the same. I do not feel in any way i serve her, but i do prioritise her over anyone else. In my humble opinion its all about finding a healthy balance. You can be a good parent and good sub / slave at the same time. Plenty of advice here on how to to do it.

Mercnbeth -> RE: How to keep the fire going (10/29/2007 11:04:49 AM)
quote: Make your relationship with your partner a priority and make the LM a switch to submission when it comes to you and time for each other will be there. Not a chance. My um will always be my first priority whilst she lives in my house and is under my protection. missturbation, I find that sad. Not judgmentally sad, but sad from the standpoint of a relationship. The goal I desired for my LM's was for them to be able to function on their own. I supported them, but pushed them toward self sufficiency. I wanted them to see and appreciate that there is something greater than themselves in the household so they wouldn't be stunned and unable to function when they discovered that fact about themselves in the world outside the household. I point to your words; "whilst she lives in my house and under my protection". Isn't it also a parents job to prepare for condition outside that "protection"? Is that not also a reflection of love? I think them fortunate that they've had that example for as long as they have, 20 years in the case of the youngest. However, even if they only had 10 or 15, the example was still provided and it didn't take away from the protection I provided nor the love we shared and still share. quote: Your other option is to continue to serve your LM and serve your 18 year self imposed sentence. Having children is not a life sentence, Agreed - "Having" them isn't; serving them is.

slimcontroller -> RE: How to keep the fire going (10/29/2007 11:25:28 AM)
To be charitable, having read your profile, I assume that this an academic enquiry and not merely prurient> S

Mercnbeth -> RE: How to keep the fire going (10/29/2007 11:30:57 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: slimcontroller To be charitable, having read your profile, I assume that this an academic enquiry and not merely prurient> S S, Appreciate you "charity"; your point or question is?

MasterDaveM -> RE: How to keep the fire going (10/29/2007 11:55:46 AM)
personally i couldnt i just cant get involved with a woman with kids beyond good friendship. i never wanted kids and they are not conducive to the lifestyle in my opinion... though some great couples are able to work it out. its just not in my "scope" of ability to deal with, and i know that about myself

missturbation -> RE: How to keep the fire going (10/29/2007 12:40:52 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth quote: Make your relationship with your partner a priority and make the LM a switch to submission when it comes to you and time for each other will be there. Not a chance. My um will always be my first priority whilst she lives in my house and is under my protection. missturbation, I find that sad. Not judgmentally sad, but sad from the standpoint of a relationship. The goal I desired for my LM's was for them to be able to function on their own. I supported them, but pushed them toward self sufficiency. I wanted them to see and appreciate that there is something greater than themselves in the household so they wouldn't be stunned and unable to function when they discovered that fact about themselves in the world outside the household. I point to your words; "whilst she lives in my house and under my protection". Isn't it also a parents job to prepare for condition outside that "protection"? Is that not also a reflection of love? I think them fortunate that they've had that example for as long as they have, 20 years in the case of the youngest. However, even if they only had 10 or 15, the example was still provided and it didn't take away from the protection I provided nor the love we shared and still share. quote: Your other option is to continue to serve your LM and serve your 18 year self imposed sentence. Having children is not a life sentence, Agreed - "Having" them isn't; serving them is. I think we are probably closer in our thoughts than i first figured. Whilst my um is my priority i have also tried to instill in her independence. The thing is though i won't send her out of the house if Sir is coming over. I might request if she can to stay at a friends but not insist. If it comes down to it though my um is my priority, her school play or a date with Sir. The school play is my priority. My um is ill and i have plans to go see Sir, i would cancel my plans to look after her.

RosesHaveThorns -> RE: How to keep the fire going (10/29/2007 2:04:07 PM)
You could make HER set up the scene and have her be responsible to make sure distractions are dealt with while you relax. But yes, I second the idea of encouraging them to be social and bugging someone else for a little bit.

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