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Good behaviour - 10/29/2007 5:13:03 AM

Domunorthants

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Hi, I'm relatively new to this site and just wanted to get a subs opinion on how much its to much and what do you see as suitable rewards for good/pleasing behaviour?

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RE: Good behaviour - 10/29/2007 5:15:01 AM

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How much is too much what? Pain? Humiliation? There's no answer, that's individual. The same is true of rewards although I think many will say that attention, praise, nuturing, time spent together are probably up there with the best rewards.
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RE: Good behaviour - 10/29/2007 5:31:46 AM

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Thanks for the quick reply

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RE: Good behaviour - 10/29/2007 6:36:42 AM

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quote:

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How much is too much what? Pain? Humiliation? There's no answer, that's individual. The same is true of rewards although I think many will say that attention, praise, nuturing, time spent together are probably up there with the best rewards.
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I agree. Nothing is more rewarding than His attention and praise when I've done something well.

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RE: Good behaviour - 10/29/2007 6:47:10 AM

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I don't need rewards for things that I have done for Master. Knowing I have given him my best and he didn't correct me for something is good enough. When Master does praise or reward me its usually for something Ive done that he wasnt expecting or it was done by pushing my physical challenges..

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RE: Good behaviour - 10/29/2007 7:12:17 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: laurell3

How much is too much what? Pain? Humiliation? There's no answer, that's individual. The same is true of rewards although I think many will say that attention, praise, nuturing, time spent together are probably up there with the best rewards.
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What laurell3 said... it's individual... and many will say that attention, praise, nuturing, time spent together are rewards to to them... I would be one of the exceptions to that in which I get all that on a daily basis... my behavior doesn't give me more or less of it... but then my behavior isn't gauged in Good and Bad... it's more so gauged in... Happy, Playful... versus... Grouchy, Irritable.

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RE: Good behaviour - 10/29/2007 7:46:05 AM

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Rewards? Same as any other relationship, sincere thanks. Anything from a sigh of relief and "You're a lifesaver" when I wake him with the news his tea is in the kitchen at his seat waiting for him, to a kiss when I drove 45 minutes to bring him the spare keys as he had locked his in his car, and then turned around and drove 45 minutes back to pick up an um from a school dance.

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RE: Good behaviour - 10/29/2007 8:56:01 AM

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Anything that sparkles is a good enough reward for this little gurl.

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RE: Good behaviour - 10/29/2007 9:13:33 AM

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the opportunity to continue to serve or serve again has always been this slave's favorite reward!

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RE: Good behaviour - 10/29/2007 9:29:04 AM

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pain is a good reward for me...an extra beating....

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RE: Good behaviour - 10/29/2007 10:20:21 AM

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When Master is pleased with His little girl and tells her so, the sun shines brighter, the birds sing louder and her heart swells with the pride of knowing she has pleased Him. It is a heady drug.

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RE: Good behaviour - 10/29/2007 10:50:54 AM

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Rewards? OMG no where in my subbie manual did it say anything about rewards... ok who forgot to pass me the memo??? Ok Ok seriously I agree with most here, in truth if i do what i am suppose to the way i am suppose to just like any other part of my life, the reward is given to me by me of accomplishment

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RE: Good behaviour - 10/29/2007 12:55:06 PM

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quote:

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Hi, I'm relatively new to this site and just wanted to get a subs opinion on how much its to much and what do you see as suitable rewards for good/pleasing behaviour?

Rewards for pleasing behavior??? The words, "you please Me very much, maia.", like a warm bed on a chilly night, soothing, deep. His smile and even His moan of pleasure when He uses me sexually. These are all rewards. If He chooses to grant me things He knows i enjoy - that's the icing on the cake.

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RE: Good behaviour - 10/29/2007 1:43:52 PM

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For me? A hug, a kiss on the cheek, a quick peck, or a cuddle.

However, you should really ask your sub, not us. We can give ideas, but it's her reward, not ours.

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RE: Good behaviour - 10/29/2007 2:04:34 PM

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Just a simple acknowledgement or the look in her eye to know I pleased her.

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RE: Good behaviour - 10/29/2007 2:38:07 PM

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My eyes rolling back in my head or the look of awe I get when she goes above and beyond is often reward enough.

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RE: Good behaviour - 10/29/2007 11:07:20 PM

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Hmm, rewards. I get to keep serving him. I have a growingly fantastic experience with him in this relationship. I have his love. I get to be true to myself. Life is good. :)

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RE: Good behaviour - 10/29/2007 11:08:54 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Domunorthants

Hi, I'm relatively new to this site and just wanted to get a subs opinion on how much its to much and what do you see as suitable rewards for good/pleasing behaviour?

Cars, diamonds, big screen tv's .. oh, oh.. land - as in real estate - is always good and, of course, cash works, too. You know, the usual stuff for doing exactly what she's supposed to be doing. Seriously.. don't be listening to all those who are saying that service is it's own reward. That's just plain silly, don't ya think?

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RE: Good behaviour - 10/29/2007 11:31:52 PM

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Reward... The best reward is his smile and seeing how pleased he is in his eyes, hearing him say good girl i'm proud of you is great. If i was only serving to be rewarded then I would feel like i was being bought.

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RE: Good behaviour - 10/30/2007 1:37:15 AM

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You'll have to ask a more specific question about 'what's too much'. As for what makes a good reward, it differs from person to person. Make a list of things you love to do that you really wouldn't need to do if put into a bind...like having your nails done or a certain sex position or having a maid for a day.

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