BitaTruble
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Himself and I 'play' pretty much every day that we're both feeling well. (I'm allowed to jump his bones, so none of that 'slaves can't initiate activities stuff for us).We 'scene', (that fairly heavy, intense and serious stuff) about once a week (actually, probably more accurate to say 3 - 4 times a month) usually on the weekend.
Every 4 or 6 weeks we engage in a focus or high protocol weekend in which all the formal rules are trotted out (and they're written down so I don't forget what they are!) and a couple of times a year we do a week to ten days in a row of high protocol. The thing is, we make such a priority because we both love it and are really in to each other.
We both come up with things which are unusual and fun to help keep that honeymoon feel. Right now we are doing a criminal/mock trial role play that has a 30 day specific time limit (which ends on Nov 15) and depending on whether or not I get caught, things will progress from there. So far, I haven't been caught. 
We want things to be fresh, so we put that as a priority in our lives. There are also enough activities in the arsenal, that nothing gets stale because there's always something different to do or something which hasn't been done in a long time. We allow ourselves to be inspired by.. well, damn near anything. Television shows, video games, news, emails, road trips, the forums, even a crisis ... you name it, we pretty much kink it up and have fun with it.
If I had wanted to go without sex and play, I'd have stayed married to my first husband. ::laughs:: Bottom line, I can't keep my hands off him and he can't keep his hands off me. We love talking to each other about everything under the sun, but BDSM is one of our favorite subjects so we talk alot about it and that usually leads to doing something about it because talking about it gets us both hot for it. 
Now, all that said, we are still honeymooners .. it's only been 12 years, so in another 30 or 40, things may slow down a bit. I'll have to get back to you on that one.
As far as playing once a month.. I mean, holy shit. Steel, that's just .. I don't know, not nearly enough! If engaging in your kink is getting stale because of familiarity, change what you're doing! Think outside the box and go places that you don't normally go! We play strip me, beat me Monopoly. When I win, it get to pick the toy that he'll use on me and I get a stroke (for example) for every dollar I win by. If he wins, he picks the toy and sometimes doubles what he wins by. Rat Bastard. ::grins:: We do Doom Kills on the Playstation2 (he ALWAYS wins that one  ) and for every monster defeated, something will happen to equate to the number. Cards are great.. I mean we are talking plaaaaay.. entertainment here! How often to you watch televison together or go for a drive in the car? That's entertainment as well, but you can incorporate even the mundane into your kinky life. Just twist things up! If you're not in the 'mood' that's because you've chosen not to be in the mood and you can certainly make a different choice! We adjust the environment to suit our lives .. we don't adjust our lives to suit the environment. This weekend, Himself cut 4 inches off the legs of our bondage table because we're getting older and it's harder for him to play with me since it was so high and it was getting harder for me to climb up on it .. so he cut those suckers off and is putting it back together. That's an example of adjusting things to suit us rather than just stopping things because they were getting difficult. Once a month. ::shakes head:: Keep that up and you'll be doing something fresh and exciting with a new girl, because the old one won't be staying around for 'nothing'.
Celeste
P.S. Oh, and it's only fair to add that all our children are grown and out of the house so that's not a concern and the dog doesn't mind us playing in front of him. Well, he did at first, but he got used to it. Also, Himself has a home office and not everyone has such ready access to their partner, so I do think that makes a difference as well.
Double PS: I just read Opal's post and your response to her. And I'm going to leave my own post in place because maybe it will help someone else who actually wants to motivate themselves to play. As long as your own the same page as your woman (and that's something you should take into serious consideration if she's asking you for play) then it's all good. You don't have to be okay with how things are if you don't want to be okay with them, though. Change it if you don't like it .. and be prepared for the consequences of doing nothing if the compatibility with your partner falls to the wayside from not playing and especially if it's something she is requesting and that she was used to getting in the beginning (even if it was sporadic). Sometimes, as relationships evolve, the two people involved start walking in different directions. Just something to consider.
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