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The Domly Gift - 8/2/2005 5:17:38 PM

RiotGirl

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Keep hearing about all this Subbie gift stuff.. well what about the Domly gift? What about all the Doms do for us subs/slaves? Personally i do think the scales are slightly tipped in THEIR favor. They sculpt us, they mold us, they show us our wildest dreams, make our fantasies come true, and in some cases, they love us, they protect us, they cherish us, they hold us above all else, they nuture us. They also tend to use a varity of techniques to help us get past our own issues, fears, insecurities. They above all, help us achieve that place in our submission we so want to achieve.

Is this not a gift? Granted i dont even think i have covered half of what i would consider the Domly Gift to be, but just for an idea. Something to think on.

Which of course this doesnt apply to EVERY Dom, but to those who know what i mean.

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RE: The Domly Gift - 8/2/2005 5:25:42 PM

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Sometimes I think it's half sadism that the Owner encourages me to top others, just so I can get SOME taste of everything he has to deal with.

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RE: The Domly Gift - 8/2/2005 6:08:08 PM

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Very well stated RiotGirl. For the most part it is not often mentioned that the Dom / Domme, Master / Mistress offer thier sub / slave a gift in return for the submission that is offered up to them.

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RE: The Domly Gift - 8/2/2005 6:27:19 PM

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If, a slave’s gift to me is her submission, then my gift to her is my acceptance of her submission. If her submission is not a gift, then my gift is what ever I do above and beyond our normal relationship.

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RE: The Domly Gift - 8/2/2005 7:33:36 PM

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I think the idea of a "gift" in any relationship sense is an effort to quickly and easily remind us to not take each other for granted.

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RE: The Domly Gift - 8/2/2005 7:37:31 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressFire70

I think the idea of a "gift" in any relationship sense is an effort to quickly and easily remind us to not take each other for granted.

Fire

A true gift indeed

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RE: The Domly Gift - 8/2/2005 7:58:49 PM

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I think for me my Doms/Master/Daddies gift to me is his acceptance of who I am, his patience for me when I doubt myself, his quiet way of pushing me when I fear to go forth and I think his quiet chuckle when we share time together and I can make him laugh, Oh how I love it when he laughs, I love in general to hear people laugh but his is a gift to me.

Speaking of gifts I get my birthday gift tonight aug3 when he gets home from work I can't wait. LOL

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RE: The Domly Gift - 8/2/2005 8:53:50 PM

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Thank You Riot Girl, that's an excellent point.

Especially when considering that D/s is about two people not One/one. What a beautiful picture that draws in my mind of the circling and twirling of gifting between Two. i seem to be seeing more and more, that even though the Power Exchange is an unequal one? The surge of the Power, in a healthy D/s relationship will be felt by both the D and s. With no fear on the D's part to admit how much the s does contribute to that flow. A good Dominant does work very hard, and sometimes if there has been harm done from past "doms" He will only have to work that much harder. This is a real shame, But that Master, Himself is a True Gift.

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RE: The Domly Gift - 8/3/2005 8:04:42 AM

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Unequal in power and position; equal in worth and responsibility

We are doing very different things - utter converses of the other. At the same time, we are both doing as much work, investing as much, as necessary and enfranchised. I would never say "the scales are tipped" towards one side - it is not 60/40 or 70/30 or even 50/50.

It is 100/100, each in their own way.

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RE: The Domly Gift - 8/3/2005 8:15:33 AM

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This may be the only realm in which lawyers have some relavance to the real world.

When you divorce, the tv is generally not chainsawed down the middle.

There is a fair and equitable (thats the key, equitable) division.

That's what the 50/50 or 100/100 is about, there is a fair and equitable exchange.

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RE: The Domly Gift - 8/3/2005 8:35:08 AM

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I get the feeling that the "gift" thing is one of those topics that swings around in orbit, sooner or later returning inexorably for a fresh set of arguments... still, I'll throw something in. Won't hurt anyone.

A gift is something that involves some form of labor for someone else's behalf. Yes, that's vague, that was on purpose - because it covers things like spending money to get someone a CD, or taking the kids for a drive to give a parent an hour's peace, or offering a scene that maybe does nothing for you but you know will get your partner going.

While gifts can crop up in a d/s relationship (no pun intended), I don't see either side of the equation as offering a gift unless for some reason it doesn't directly benefit them at all... which isn't a healthy relationship in any case. But, really, it's all down to langue and parole again, and one solution I'll offer is this: stop pigeonholing one side or the other, the gift is shared.

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RE: The Domly Gift - 8/3/2005 9:56:42 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Faramir

We are doing very different things - utter converses of the other. At the same time, we are both doing as much work, investing as much, as necessary and enfranchised. I would never say "the scales are tipped" towards one side - it is not 60/40 or 70/30 or even 50/50.

It is 100/100, each in their own way.

*applauds wildly*

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RE: The Domly Gift - 8/3/2005 3:44:39 PM

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If I was given a Domly Gift - I would return to sender - unopened.

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