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Superman42280 -> RE: any such thing as a kind dom? (8/3/2005 9:25:00 AM)
I am a kind and loving Master. I am strict and firm with what I want, sub any sub of mine feels loved.

nella -> RE: any such thing as a kind dom? (8/3/2005 9:45:06 AM)
quote: kindness to me is a sign of strength. A person is in a position to choose to be cruel; to do nothing; or to be kind; and they choose to be kind. i value this quality highly; not because i want/need kindness directed at me...which of course i do...but because a Man who is kind of heart is a pleasure to live with in the world..He makes me so proud..and i am belitted by a cruel man. i so totaly agree, this is what i feel to.

nenakajira -> RE: any such thing as a kind dom? (8/3/2005 10:18:20 AM)
Hrmm.. yes.. and yes? It varies on the submissive. Some women prefer a kind men and some prefer a more demanding one. Varies depending on girl.. past experience.. and a million other factors. ciao

luv2bspanked -> RE: any such thing as a kind dom? (8/3/2005 11:40:42 AM)
Absolutely, we respect a loving Dom! Kindness is always appreciated outside of a scene. During a scene, however, it's a different story...that's when we WANT a strong Dom.

DiabloLuna -> RE: any such thing as a kind dom? (8/3/2005 3:20:24 PM)
Thank you for the many replies I recieved on my posting, It is good to know that a person who does there best to be good and respectful of others is still valued, I began exploring the BDSM lifestyle because I felt in the vanilla world that the qualities I tried to aspire too were being overlooked in a very " self absorbed " society, I see submission as a great gift and as a potential master I believe that gift should be rewarded with kindness and love. the search begins, wish me luck.

darkinshadows -> RE: any such thing as a kind dom? (8/3/2005 3:35:16 PM)
Many blessings on your journey, and I pray your path is fullfilling and clear of obstacles. I hope you consider contributing more to the forum. Peace and Love

sultryvoice -> RE: any such thing as a kind dom? (8/3/2005 4:33:14 PM)
In my eyes, a kind and loving Dom is what that man should be. It is not in any way weak or against the grain. In fact, it makes them a much better and prepared Dom. Being cruel and unkind will chase many sub/slaves away. As the saying somewhat goes..you attract more with sugar than with vinegar! Respectfully, sultry

mossy -> RE: any such thing as a kind dom? (8/3/2005 6:04:20 PM)
Thank You sultryvoice, for what you said. ~~~~ Diabloluna best wishes to You on You awesome Journey, with You're attitude? You are far ahead of so many, it's beautiful to see. Thank You and please keep sharing in the forum[:)] ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ quote: luv2bspanked: Absolutely, we respect a loving Dom! Kindness is always appreciated outside of a scene. During a scene, however, it's a different story...that's when we WANT a strong Dom. luv2bspanked: i am so glad you said this this,,,because it captured the point i was trying to make but kept forgetting the words[8D] Thanks!!! the point i was trying to think of was,,,, that kindness and strength....as you describe?...in and out of play/scening? have no trouble at all co-exisiting in the same person!!! A dominant does not need to be of a cold stern nature all the time,,,,to be believable in scene/play.even one where fear and intensity may exsist..that is why i seem so frustrated....because i have been aquainted with so many Dominants who were very kind and loving!! Yet when called for, in times of scening, could make hearts pound with stern discipline, or fear, or strict commands along with the best of them. Kindness and strength, can and do definately co-exsist!!![;)]

domm4subf1970 -> RE: any such thing as a kind dom? (8/3/2005 10:56:51 PM)
yes there is

sunny4961 -> RE: any such thing as a kind dom? (8/3/2005 11:43:11 PM)
i think when a dom is loving and kind then that is a bonus to the relationship not weakness.[:)]

Rayne58 -> RE: any such thing as a kind dom? (8/4/2005 2:41:17 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sunny4961 i think when a dom is loving and kind then that is a bonus to the relationship not weakness.[:)] My Master is a loving and kind Dom.....I am able to put my trust in Him knowing that He would never do anything to harm me. He is also firm in His love and kindness......I am in no doubt as to who is in charge[:)]

nenakajira -> RE: any such thing as a kind dom? (8/4/2005 11:13:12 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sultryvoice As the saying somewhat goes..you attract more with sugar than with vinegar! Respectfully, sultry That depends on what you want to attract :) Women who want kind doms will be attracted by it. Women who want a harsher life will be squigged by it. For a million people there are a million desires.

Fidelity -> RE: any such thing as a kind dom? (8/4/2005 11:59:59 AM)
It' is the perogative of the Master to behave as he sees fit. I usually account most alleged slaves who feel a particular sort of behavior to be the "true way" are simply looking for a match of thier perception of what Dominance is. And I cannot argue with it, if that is what makes them happy. But I would add that by insisting that EVERY Master conform to thier expectations-they really ARE trying to seize control. Controlling the One who controls you? Interesting expectation,is it not? Just who DOES wear the collar?[:D]

plantlady64 -> RE: any such thing as a kind dom? (8/4/2005 12:42:24 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Fidelity It' is the perogative of the Master to behave as he sees fit. I usually account most alleged slaves who feel a particular sort of behavior to be the "true way" are simply looking for a match of thier perception of what Dominance is. And I cannot argue with it, if that is what makes them happy. But I would add that by insisting that EVERY Master conform to thier expectations-they really ARE trying to seize control. Controlling the One who controls you? Interesting expectation,is it not? Just who DOES wear the collar?[:D] Hello There, I agree sub/slaves seek Masters that mirror the approaches and BDSM perceptions they enjoy. I don't think subs insist every Dom conform to their desires, just the ones they intend to have to submit their will to. I know I would not wear my Masters collar if he and I didn't have similar views of protocol, love, kindness, discipline, pleasure, pain and expectations of our relationship. To be in a relationship with someone whom you don't agree with or respect especially when you give your will to him or her would be potentially disastrous to both of you. It's exactly about who wears the collar and who's in control. I think sub/slaves do indeed have the right to pick the style they choose to submit under especially since the control from that point of submitting foreword belongs to the Dom/Master.

Fidelity -> RE: any such thing as a kind dom? (8/4/2005 3:13:45 PM)
I know plantlady. But let's remember that there are "twueists" on both sides of the fence. Differences in styles and expectations don't make people wrong-merely imcompatable.

Alexander -> RE: any such thing as a kind dom? (8/4/2005 3:35:26 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: EmeraldSlave2 Yes. Ok thats it. I think you are great.

girl4you2 -> RE: any such thing as a kind dom? (8/23/2005 2:10:47 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DiabloLuna Do subs/slaves really respect a Dom who is kind and loving or do they see this as a sign of weakness? there are loving and erotic dominants who will show kindness and love and still garner respect and obedience. i have always had the utmost respect for dominants that i have had that were loving.

fastlane -> RE: any such thing as a kind dom? (8/23/2005 5:22:13 AM)
Kind? hmmmmmmmm.......Yes. I'm one of a kind!

OsideGirl -> RE: any such thing as a kind dom? (8/23/2005 8:12:19 AM)
Master is kind, loving and caring. He's also polite and says please and thank you. He will pamper me. Master views this as taking care of his property. He will care for me when I'm sick. He will plop me into a hot bath when my back acts up. He sometimes give me a day at the spa. This does not make him less Dominant. I think it shows responsibility for his property. I do not consider it topping from the bottom. What he does is his choice, not mine. However, there are people that want the stern Dominant that shows nothing to the sub or slave. It's all about what works for you.

whippedattitude -> RE: any such thing as a kind dom? (8/23/2005 8:44:42 AM)
One of the things i look for in a Master is those that demand obedience with a look and a whisper..some may take that as being kind i find those with that kind of control usually have the skills and logic to back up their kind requests and if that doesn't work the single tail usually does ((( oops that was the 49% masochist coming out)) [:)]

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