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applecandy -> Is it really so rare... (10/29/2007 2:14:14 PM)

I'm at a loss as to how I can successfully convey what I'm seeking in my profile.

Is it so uncommon to just want someone to dole out some spankings? I'm not looking for anything complex, no 'casual D/s scenes' as some seem to interpret. I want the sensation of the play, not the dynamic.

Both of my partners are long distance, and it's difficult to get the time to play with them that I would prefer. My emotional plate is full at the moment, though, so I would love to avoid something that could potentially get messy.

Any advice on wording things better?



chellekitty -> RE: Is it really so rare... (10/29/2007 2:20:20 PM)

not rare at all....here in my local community the people who are just in it for the spankings, nothing extreme, no relationship dynamics, maybe a paddle, maybe a belt or a strap...but they really just get of on the spanking, call themselves "spankos"...they have really fun "no protocol" parties...

hope this helps....
chelle



SimplyMichael -> RE: Is it really so rare... (10/29/2007 2:24:35 PM)

Finding someone who service you in the exact way you need is never easy, that is why men pay for sex and or dominantion.

I would suggest attending events and asking the host who is a good attached spanker, approaching their partner and explaining your issues, and if they agree and feel comfortable, approach the dom/top with your request.  That way you should be able to get the spanking you need from someone who has a partner who fullfills their emotional needs and isn't agreeing to spank you with the hope or expectation of something more.



applecandy -> RE: Is it really so rare... (10/29/2007 2:29:03 PM)

Good suggestions! I haven't been to our local group since my ex and I split - afraid of possibly running into pangs of memory, I guess. Maybe I -should- go back and see if I can get it there...bite the bullet, so to speak.



MsBearlee -> RE: Is it really so rare... (10/29/2007 2:39:39 PM)

Google is your friend:

I could go on...but you get the idea...    I hope that helps. 
 
Beverly



slave4urneeds -> RE: Is it really so rare... (10/29/2007 10:41:38 PM)

i know our community has a group just for those who enjoy spanking. It is solely that those that love to spank and those that love to get spanked.  i belong to several local munch groups and if there is someone that is just into spankings, we welcome them just like we would welcome any other kink or exploration.  You are definitely not going to get what you need to fulfill your desires chatting online, get involved in your local community and have a great time.  You will probably make a few friends along the way.



applecandy -> RE: Is it really so rare... (10/30/2007 7:23:08 AM)

Thanks folks. :) I do appreciate the feedback. I'll be looking into those links as I have time, and hope to get out into one of the local groups fairly soon.




MrSpectacular -> RE: Is it really so rare... (10/30/2007 7:28:59 AM)

I think I am at a loss after veiwing your profile to know what you want also. Take the other suggestions go out and meet face to face. If you get a no strings attached spanking out of it then all the better for you.



Dnomyar -> RE: Is it really so rare... (10/30/2007 7:30:15 AM)

Spanking.com



slimcontroller -> RE: Is it really so rare... (10/30/2007 7:42:17 AM)

quote:

I'm at a loss as to how I can successfully convey what I'm seeking in my profile.


This, clearly, is a common problem. No distrepect to applecandy, you sound just sweet and dandy ! How many profiles does one read that at first sight are straight forwardly seeking a Dom or partner and only  lots of words later, near the bottom, is the bit about 'taken', 'not looking' or married.  I for one do not wish to be enmeshed with their confusion.

Slimcontroller







LATEXBABY64 -> RE: Is it really so rare... (10/30/2007 7:54:44 AM)

i never use gaagle  It is over rated lol  lycos and msn live search yeah babie



Kana -> RE: Is it really so rare... (10/30/2007 8:05:36 AM)

Hell, I think your profile is straight up. Its nice to see someone who says what they want and not feel the need to kpwtow to local convention. The world of BDSM has a lot of room for all varieties of kinks from light stuff such as what you seek to heavy duty slavery.Is there a girl out there who doesn't enjoy spankings just a wee little bit, even in vanilla?



lux221 -> RE: Is it really so rare... (10/30/2007 8:15:57 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: LATEXBABY64

i never use gaagle  It is over rated lol  lycos and msn live search yeah babie

I don't use gaagle either. I'd bet the only thing it turns up is cites about geese. That's why I prefer google.



camille65 -> RE: Is it really so rare... (10/30/2007 8:18:15 AM)

lol [:D] now I have visions of geese flying overhead and dropping sites instead of goose poop!

And OP I don't think it is rare, in a way I consider it to be a step forward knowing exactly what you seek.



LadyHibiscus -> RE: Is it really so rare... (10/30/2007 8:34:28 AM)

Those of you who have open spanko groups, be glad!  Ours went from being open to all combinations of genders to being male top/female bottom only---because the male tops were uncomfortable by those female tops.  Get out and have fun, and find out what you like doing best.



applecandy -> RE: Is it really so rare... (10/30/2007 4:08:20 PM)

In response to slimcontroller:

Not once do I state that I'm looking for a Dom in my actual profile. I've shown my interests, yes, and conveyed that I'm open to play with all genders from all orientations. I do not state, however, that I'm looking for a Dom in any way, shape, nor form.

This is the problem I'm facing. I don't know HOW to make it any clearer.



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