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Walk Away? - 10/30/2007 4:57:14 AM   
silentfire


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Status: offline 		Is it easier to just walk away and cut all ties and communications and start over ....... or to try to keep communications open until things just disappear?  I chose to just walk away............
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RE: Walk Away? - 10/30/2007 5:10:14 AM   
Rule


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Status: offline 		It is best to make a clean break, I suspect.

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RE: Walk Away? - 10/30/2007 5:21:21 AM   
wintersbreath


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ORIGINAL: silentfire

Is it easier to just walk away and cut all ties and communications and start over ....... or to try to keep communications open until things just disappear?  I chose to just walk away............

If you have tried all avenues open to you and the relationship still is not moving forward; the best idea is to usually end the relationship.

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RE: Walk Away? - 10/30/2007 5:22:44 AM   
RRafe


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Status: offline 		Depends on how bad things got-it the baggage was yours or thiers. I think that if someone has issues too bad for them to really be in a relationship-they need time alone to sort them out-rather than try and spread the suffering around.

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RE: Walk Away? - 10/30/2007 6:17:52 AM   
meticulousgirl


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Status: offline 		it really depends on the individual situation.  Only you know what's best for yours.  Our lifestyle isn't always easy, and the deeper you get into it the harder it gets to understand why certain things happen the way that they do, i'm sure many understand what i'm saying here.  My best advice would be to give yourself time to heal, to figure out what you want, and to find a way understand yourself before you re-enter this with someone else.

~meticulous~

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RE: Walk Away? - 10/30/2007 6:22:16 AM   
Rover


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RE: Walk Away? - 10/30/2007 6:22:52 AM   
Dnomyar


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Status: offline 		At least let the peron know that you are cutting the ties.

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RE: Walk Away? - 10/30/2007 7:10:42 AM   
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Status: offline 		Depends on the reasons if it's a true deal breaker like lying then yes. 

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RE: Walk Away? - 10/30/2007 7:28:25 AM   
Celeste43


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Status: offline 		It's more polite to tell the other person that the relationship is not sufficiently fulfilling you and that you wish them well in their future relationships. Not to just walk away without saying a word.

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RE: Walk Away? - 10/30/2007 7:30:03 AM   
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Status: offline 		As far as ending the relationship, only you know if it's something you can work out or a dealbreaker.  I generally tend to wait some time until I'm not upset about whatever the incident/argument was before making such a decision.

As far as "cutting all ties", short of a serious issue of abuse, I try never to cut all ties with someone I've had a relationship with.  The fact that two people can't accomodate each other for a serious intimate relationship does not mean that they cannot remain friendly and continue to support each other.  I am very disappointed when someone I've been with lacks the maturity to see it through and even attempt to be on a friendly basis.

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RE: Walk Away? - 10/30/2007 8:19:05 AM   
batshalom


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Status: offline 		Judging from the other threads you've started, it looks like you've just had a breakup. This doesn't have to be all or nothing, does it? A breakup is a change, a move in the opposite direction. It could be positive.

Sit back, talk when you need to, shut up when you don't, think about your own well-being, and don't sweat the rest. It will work out like it's supposed to, even though it can feel like the world is at an end. Be well. Take care of yourself.

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RE: Walk Away? - 10/30/2007 12:11:34 PM   
slavemaia


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quote:

ORIGINAL: silentfire

Is it easier to just walk away and cut all ties and communications and start over ....... or to try to keep communications open until things just disappear?  I chose to just walk away............


Depends on why you want to walk away. i'm usually one for staying and trying to work things through. i've learned a great deal by doing this.

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RE: Walk Away? - 10/30/2007 2:08:38 PM   
MDTopCouple


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Status: offline 		I'm a walk away/ break away kind of girl.  I agree with others though- depends on the situation.
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RE: Walk Away? - 10/30/2007 2:11:16 PM   
grlneedstolearn


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Status: offline 		i would think it depends on the situation involved

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RE: Walk Away? - 10/30/2007 5:30:03 PM   
breatheasone


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quote:

ORIGINAL: silentfire

Is it easier to just walk away and cut all ties and communications and start over ....... or to try to keep communications open until things just disappear?  I chose to just walk away............

Definitely the cut all ties....imho...just disappear.....for me it would be easier to move on that way.


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RE: Walk Away? - 10/30/2007 6:32:01 PM   
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RE: Walk Away? - 10/30/2007 8:15:32 PM   
TemptingNviceSub


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quote:

ORIGINAL: silentfire

Is it easier to just walk away and cut all ties and communications and start over ....... or to try to keep communications open until things just disappear?  I chose to just walk away............
Both....I communicate all reasonings,make sure no questions left behind then would walk away and disappear..In other words I would attempt closure for both..but not drag it out if possible..and lessen contact until poof....Tempting

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RE: Walk Away? - 10/30/2007 8:18:53 PM   
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Is it easier to just walk away and cut all ties and communications and start over ....... or to try to keep communications open until things just disappear?


Yes


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RE: Walk Away? - 10/31/2007 6:45:09 PM   
jadedserendipity


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Status: offline 		I must agree with most others and say it all depends upon the situation.... For me there has only been one partner I have not just made a clean break from and for us the friendship we share did not vanish..... Most of the time it is just easier to go through those hard days alone and get through everything and not have to continue a facade..... Just my thoughts

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RE: Walk Away? - 11/1/2007 6:44:20 PM   
julietsierra


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Status: offline 		Door #1: Walk away, cut all ties, disappear, start over
Door #2: Keep communications open till things just disappear


Well, aside from the idea that when communication is happening, things don't just "disappear," could I have Door #3 please?

(Tell our contestant WHAT'S BEHIND DOOR #3, JACK!!!)

Well, Bob, behind Door #3 is our SURPRISE HOLIDAY PACKAGE!!! Our SURPRISE HOLIDAY PACKAGE includes the opportunity to keep communication open while not waiting for things to merely disappear. Door #3 holds the ability to make our needs open in such a way as to reach resolution with the people we care about. It involves work and a dedication to listening along with a willingness to address the issues that make us uncomfortable with an allowance that has room for growth

juliet, you have won "NIGHTS FILLED WITH CONVERSATION, FOOD FOR THOUGHT AND A FULL RANGE OF EMOTIONS!
(ooooh)
And in ADDITION to this juliet, you have won "A LIFETIME OF LESSONS IN HOW TO COMMUNICATE WITHOUT ALIENATING!!"
(ahhhhh)
And juliet, that's not all!!!

You have won our GRAND PRIZE today!! You have won an opportunity to last beyond infatuation, pleasure in overcoming something with this person you care about, and contentment that comes from the longevity of a relationship. And to help you with all THIS, YOU'VE won .....

NEW INSIGHT!!! Yes! Today, you've won new insight into your relationship, your significant other and most of all...!!!

YOURSELF!!!
(audience stands and cheers)

OK... Let's Make a Deal aside, while it is easy to walk away, it just seems that unless the person you're walking away from is a complete jerk, it's worth doing what's not easy to find and keep what's worth everything in the world.

juliet


< Message edited by julietsierra -- 11/1/2007 6:54:50 PM >

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