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LuckyAlbatross -> RE: autitioning or interviewing? (10/31/2007 4:21:04 PM)

I'm glad you understand that you are both choosing who you will be in a relationship with, there's no one sidedness there.

However, you need to realize that dumbasses WILL say anything they can to get your attention- and shaming/criticizing you is one of the most common and effective ways to get a sub to respond to them.  It's also one of the stupidest, but hey, it works.




LonDom61 -> RE: autitioning or interviewing? (11/1/2007 8:15:58 AM)

Yes, it's a mutual getting acquainted, gauging the spark, seeing if you're on the same page in The Big Blue Book of BDSM.

But based on human nature (men are horny pigs), the not-unrelated supply & demand on sites like this and the fact that others have mentioned: that it's the sub giving up her power (hence needing to feel the trust, respect, safety & all that good stuff)...the important say is yours.

And...I'm sure this guy would be reeeeeely selective & careful in his assessment of whether he'd allow you to serve His Bad Self.  (Not)

Don't take guys like this seriously.  Stuff like this is only worth a thread and our time because it happens all the time, so needs to be addressed.

LD61




RRafe -> RE: autitioning or interviewing? (11/1/2007 8:22:42 AM)

People use insidious forms of manipulation to try and stack the decks in ther favor-just don't reply.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gaslighting




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