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Maya2001 -> RE: Should a Sub have to give up her loves? (12/25/2007 8:01:50 AM)
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Paradoxically animals tend to trust me and like me because I let them alone until they decide that I am ok. And my Daddy is the one that wants the pets one day. I would prefer to be unencumbered by animals as they tend to put a damper on travel and being spontaneous... even more so than UMs do, at least UMs grow up.
I understand what you are saying Julia and being you feel that way it then makes it responsible of you not to own animals as you see them as inconviences and because of your son , but it is not really the question, you know now that your Daddy likes animals and wants to have one as part of his life some day......are you going to in the future force him to choose between you and the pet he wants or if he decides to get.... tell him to get rid of , because you feel it is inconvenient for you????
I have one dog here that I adopted at 18 months old, normally a dog like her who have been euthanized because she has a extreme phobia of people there most would deem her as unadoptable, I found her in Florida and had her transported to Ontario 5 years ago, it took 2 years before she could trust me to walk up and touch her, she is still not 100% 5 year later, the thing I knew when I got her that adopting her would mean sacrifices on my part and I weighed them heavily before making her part of my life, the 2 big ones was that I may not be able to take a vacation because she was not able to handle sitters or boarding kennels the other was that I may not be able to have a 24/7 relationship with someone unless she could over come her phobias, her behaviour was not close to a wild animal would say avoids people this was dog that if she spotted or heard a person 50 yards away would go into blind terror to the point of putting herself in danger with the overriding need to flee and has experienced stress related malignant hypothermia on a couple of occasions which has mean ice water baths to save her life because she panicked so badly that cored body temperature rose to the point where death can occur.
When I adopted her I accepted whatever responsibilities/sacrifices came along with owing her for her lifetime not for what is convenient for me, I have invested a lot of time into her including medical testing to see if her behaviour was due to medical problems, I already some knowledge on dog to dog communications but studied more into to find ways that I could communicate with her at her level of submissive since she was better to relate to puppies than an adult dog as she is an omega so feels threatened by adult dogs and I knew the only way to try and reach was if she stopped viewing me as human. And from there I was able to start working with her, 5 years later I am able to now take short vacations, with my son coming over and simply letting her in and out and making sure she has food and water available, this is a huge step for a dog that was so terrified when he would come over that I had to spend hours trying to catch her in the yard because she was so terrified just thinking he might still be in the house long after he left, ocassionally now she will warily come out of hiding to warily stare at visitors while hiding around a corner again a huge improvement from the dog that if I turned on a radio and heard voices coming from would have extreme panic attacks, the number of sacrifices I made for her are slowing being chipped away at, if I ever tried giving her away all trust that she has learned would be shattered and she would revert back to the dog she was.
I have seen more than my share of animals that people have decided to get rid of doing animal rescue and know the hell the emotional hell these animals go through and what is does to their ability to trust for them it is much the same as we go thru when a close family member dies. some bounce back fairly quickly but many will spend monthly being listless barely eating and grieving the loss of their former caretakers quite a few them will develop behavioural problems after because they become afraid to trust again , which usually results in them getting bounced from home to home and often that result in then eventually being eusthanized, most people that abandon an animal never follow up to learn to the after effects that the abandonment has caused to the animal.
most of my animal over the years has been secondhand pets but between the years of taking them in and helping in rescue but I found watchiing the confusion and pain they go thru and often the permanment damage that result has become more difficult to take and makes me too angry at the heartlessness, so instead I have been taking in track dogs who have never known what it is like to be a pet or getting my dogs from responsible breeders instead, but will consider adopting animals who come into foster care because owners died or become too ill to care for their animals but no longer will I take on animals from selfish or irresponsible owners just maybe if enough other people refused there would be no place these owners would have to so easily dump their animals and they would have to learn to take responsibility for them instead of expecting others to look after their responsibilities. Over 5 million companion animals are euthanized in shelters yearly in the US, because people never considered that they have a responsibility for the animals they bring into their lives, this does not include the millions sitting in shelters or rescues waiting for a home. Animals have become a disposal commodity much like a toy that can be tossed when one gets bored or when you feel it become inconvenient waste of space without consideration that animals are living breathing mammals and like people have emotions and are capable of love, they deserve better.
Alot of cities in the US have so many unwanted animals they mass eunthanize in gas chambers, there was a video on you tube that showed and it was absolutely horrible to watch. go to youtube type in dog kill box and view the first video from a NC shelter, it may have you in tears, many of the unwanted animals shelter get with be sold for vivisection(believe me you do not want to look at those videos if you care anything for animals) and research labs another horror most people are not aware of, which is how many shelter manage to remain operational, the government does require those numbers sold to be accounted for Most people give their pets to someone and assume that the pet will be taken care of life long but rarely is that the case, most of those animals will find their ways into kill shelters.
It is for this reason this post sickens me, especially when I read the number of responses that say they would willing give away if ordered just to have someone, who potentially may not be in their lives 2 years later .....what happens then? do they go out and get more animals and repeat the same over again for the next person that walks into their lives. I would much rather keep my animals and wait to find the right someone willing to accept them instead and if they value my pets lives and appreciate my responsibility for them, they are far more likely to respect and care for me more as well therefore I am bound to have a far better relationship in the end by refusing to accept someone that would force me to get rid of my animals
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