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Libido and age - 8/3/2005 11:59:00 AM   
Davesgirl


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Status: offline 		Hey ya'll! This is something that I was thinking about last night, and thought I would see what others experiences/thoughts were on this.

Ladies....as you age, have you noticed if there is a drop in your sex drive? Did it occur as you aged? I ask because I've read (and am praying!) that, for women, their sex drives get higher as they age. I am seriously hoping mine picks up, and doesnt go any further downhill.

Now...if it did decline, how was that handled, for those of you on the sub/slave side of the / . Was your Top(For not wanting to type every word for Top, trying to be non-gender specific), understanding of this change in your body chemistry? Or, was it an attitude of...Do as you're ordered?

Im not trying to be some sort of pervert(No moreso than usual! )....Im jsut trying to see if I am going through something strange, and what I have to look forward to. OH! If there is anything anyone can suggest for increasing libido..Im all ears!

Thanks in advance everyone!
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RE: Libido and age - 8/3/2005 12:04:37 PM   
Lordandmaster


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Status: offline 		I think it varies from person to person. I've known both extremes.

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RE: Libido and age - 8/3/2005 12:06:42 PM   
EmeraldSlave2


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ORIGINAL: Davesgirl

Hey ya'll! This is something that I was thinking about last night, and thought I would see what others experiences/thoughts were on this.

Ladies....as you age, have you noticed if there is a drop in your sex drive? Did it occur as you aged? I ask because I've read (and am praying!) that, for women, their sex drives get higher as they age. I am seriously hoping mine picks up, and doesnt go any further downhill.

The trend that I notice is females tend to deepen and intensify in their sex drive as they age. BUT sexuality is such an individual issue that can be affected by a million and four things that you should discuss things with your doctor and/or sex counselor. It could be stress issues, hormone issues, depression, trauma, physical problems, you name it.

Check out these threads about other people expressing their sexual frustrations:

Lots of threads

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RE: Libido and age - 8/3/2005 12:11:45 PM   
stormsfate


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Status: offline 		I have heard that women don't even hit their sexual peak until their forties. I'm really looking forward to my forties <weg>.

I think having the desire is wonderful, but I can't imagine if it went away that anything would be different as I would still do my duty and be available whenever and however he wanted.


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RE: Libido and age - 8/3/2005 1:13:07 PM   
MstrHellsFury


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Status: offline 		it's as subjective as what shade of the color red is that...just from my observations...(this all pertains to me and mine)...as we get older..and experience more together...everything gets better...everything grows stronger and just one chip won't do..you gotta have at least half a bag so to speak...I think it's all about the enviroment in which we live and the ways we conduct ourselves...the need to please and the satisfaction of knowing what I get from that service to me makes those sexual times...(you fill in any word better that fantastic)...


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RE: Libido and age - 8/3/2005 1:44:55 PM   
perfection20005


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Status: offline 		I know mine picked up when my children finally grew up (at least they were old enough to care for themselves). I also know that I tend to become drier easier as I age, even if I am in the mood. I am told that happens as we age.

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RE: Libido and age - 8/3/2005 1:49:48 PM   
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Status: offline 		I think to some degree (since we all agree that sexuality starts in the mind) that women would tend to be more libidically (oh god; some lexicologist please fix that) free in the main, since the stresses of pregnancy and general worries of day-to-day existance and interaction ease up and the usual poverties of youth are behind them.

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RE: Libido and age - 8/3/2005 4:28:38 PM   
Veav


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Status: offline 		Libidinous. No, really, you can't make that sort of thing up. }:D

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RE: Libido and age - 8/3/2005 5:15:46 PM   
mistoferin


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Status: offline 		My own experience has been that my libido has been steadily increasing with age. Not sure if this is such a good thing or not because it started out quite high and is now at the level some might deem nymphomania...lol. I don't know where it's going to top out but I haven't managed to kill anyone with it yet (although there have been a few that looked like they were going to need first aid), so I guess it's all good.

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RE: Libido and age - 8/3/2005 6:23:34 PM   
Trinity69


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Status: offline 		I have been blessed to have a naturally high sex drive ,due to my genes...As I get older ,it only gets worse.So I think genes and health have alot to do with it.Body chemistry and hormones I think play a role as well ,you need balance between body,and spirit to be healthy.

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RE: Libido and age - 8/3/2005 11:26:07 PM   
MissTy


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Status: offline 		I am 35 now and have had 1 child - and my sex drive is as high as ever... Praying to find the Dom that can match me...

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RE: Libido and age - 8/3/2005 11:36:02 PM   
luvdragonx


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Status: offline 		I'm only 29 and I've had ups and downs. Sometimes I can't get enough and other times.......let's just say crochet was never so much fun. I think it truly depends on the person. I remember liking sex until I had my first orgasm. Then I REALLY liked it. I think a lot of women don't know how enjoyable sex can actually be, so it's hard to say.

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RE: Libido and age - 8/4/2005 12:27:40 AM   
BlkTallFullfig


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ORIGINAL: Davesgirl
Ladies....as you age, have you noticed if there is a drop in your sex drive? Did it occur as you aged? I ask because I've read (and am praying!) that, for women, their sex drives get higher as they age. I am seriously hoping mine picks up, and doesnt go any further downhill.
My openness and desire for sex has steadily increased from the age of 28 on (so the peaking in one's 30's was definitely true for me); however, how much I am into sex really depends on how into my partner I am (if I'm not attracted it could me weeks at a time), and than there are certain times of the month that it almost doesn't matter who the partner is, lol. M

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RE: Libido and age - 8/6/2005 9:27:45 PM   
magiqnapa


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Status: offline 		Well.... I am (cough) 40 now and have four teenagers. My Sex drive has never ever been as great as it is now. I am a very passionate and multi-orgasmic woman. I have the greatest orgasms during pain and if I am lucky enough to receive pain during sex it's all the better for me! If anything, I always make sure I have some really good lube on hand for I have found that at times I am dryer than I thought I would be, but you should do that anyway.

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RE: Libido and age - 8/7/2005 12:09:14 AM   
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Ladies....as you age, have you noticed if there is a drop in your sex drive?


My sex drive dropped from about 35 to 54 mainly because i was bored with the same ole, same ole. I was 54 when i learned about BDSM and realized that that is what was missing. The more i learned the more my sex drive revived and surged. I'm not sure it's peaked yet even at 59.

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RE: Libido and age - 8/7/2005 1:27:42 AM   
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Status: offline 		Interesting question, read your answers and yes am qualified to say hell yes.....my sex drive far out weight my sub...collared and 24/7....and yes I have proudly reached the magic 50.......proud of who and what I am...and just love making love or being made love to...a good session for me is nothing under 2 hours and even then thats short...

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RE: Libido and age - 8/7/2005 5:23:45 PM   
Davesgirl


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Status: offline 		Thanks everyone for your replies. I had just been wondering about it because...Well....I think I've gotten to the point where sex is jsut a task for me anymore. I do it semi-happily, knowing Master is satisfied. But, and perhaps a bit selfishly, I'd really like to get something from it too. Im terribly atrracted to him in everyway, I love to just cuddle with him, wrapped in his arms. But it seems that whenever it comes time for sex, I could care less, just so long as its over and done with fast as possible. Dont get me wrong, there are times when Im all over him and wanting more. Its simply that those times are very few and far between.

Im working on getting a doctors appointment set up, make sure theres nothing wrong with me, physically or mentally. Maybe that can shed some light on it. If not...GOD Please bring my 40's on fast!

Thanks everyone

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RE: Libido and age - 8/7/2005 7:01:32 PM   
brightspot


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Status: offline 		I'm in my 40's and for me it depends
on who I am with and the trust and intimacy
factor.
The more of those 2, the more highly sexually
I am, aroused I am, and how sexually expressive....Also....
With the right person, I am highly sexually charged and multi-orgasmic,
it for me is how well the energy mixes and of course how "Good" She is.

*Brightspot

Edited because I messed up Orgasmic...could that be a sign?

< Message edited by brightspot -- 8/7/2005 7:03:42 PM >

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RE: Libido and age - 8/7/2005 7:12:27 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Davesgirl

Thanks everyone for your replies. I had just been wondering about it because...Well....I think I've gotten to the point where sex is jsut a task for me anymore. I do it semi-happily, knowing Master is satisfied. But, and perhaps a bit selfishly, I'd really like to get something from it too. Im terribly atrracted to him in everyway, I love to just cuddle with him, wrapped in his arms. But it seems that whenever it comes time for sex, I could care less, just so long as its over and done with fast as possible. Dont get me wrong, there are times when Im all over him and wanting more. Its simply that those times are very few and far between.

Im working on getting a doctors appointment set up, make sure theres nothing wrong with me, physically or mentally. Maybe that can shed some light on it. If not...GOD Please bring my 40's on fast!

Thanks everyone

Assuming that your dom is aware of this?

I'm quite lucky in that I am encouraged to be sexual with others and find fulfillment in such ways. For me, the Owner has trained me to be non sexually responsive to him. Sometimes I would like it to be there and to be reciprocated, but I accept it and enjoy what I can. For me I know exactly why I'm not sexually stimulated with him.

For you, look around, get a physical, check your intake- drugs, food, alcohol, etc, get more exercise, do fun things and check your stress levels. Figuring out the source might be the best step in changing things around.

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RE: Libido and age - 8/7/2005 8:03:19 PM   
edana


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Status: offline 		a good "manhandling" or a thwack with a switch and his thumb pressed against the welt, while he pushes you to your belly on the floor and laying heavily on top you, ...growles in your ear

"who owns this slut?!"

yea... umm.. wet!

heh ... *looks around for her master*

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