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sparrow69 -> dress code for subs (8/3/2005 12:59:54 PM)
I bet this has been asked before, but here go's.....what do the Mistress's like their subs/slaves to wear when they meet them..i was in a long distance arrangement and got the worst thrashing for not wearing any under-garments... She said it was for not using my imagination and no thought. Is this a common thought with you Mistress's

MstrssPassion -> RE: dress code for subs (8/3/2005 2:50:00 PM)
sparrow, I would think that by this point in life you would have already been able to access that you will not please two women the same way. Every female dominant is different. We all enjoy different forms of attire. Where you meet & what your plans are will also determine what should or should not be worn. As to your thrashing... no way to comment on that. No one reading this was part of that conversation. No one reading this was around to hear any suggestions or hints or requests she may have made. When all else fails... ASK! "What would you like me to wear?" Simple MstrssPassion

andreasubmissive -> RE: dress code for subs (6/12/2009 7:18:39 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MstrssPassion sparrow, I would think that by this point in life you would have already been able to access that you will not please two women the same way. Every female dominant is different. We all enjoy different forms of attire. Where you meet & what your plans are will also determine what should or should not be worn. As to your thrashing... no way to comment on that. No one reading this was part of that conversation. No one reading this was around to hear any suggestions or hints or requests she may have made. When all else fails... ASK! "What would you like me to wear?" Simple MstrssPassion i agree, i prefer to look at my best for a Dom/me, to look pretty and desirable yet respectable

sweetsub1957 -> RE: dress code for subs (6/12/2009 7:22:25 AM)
What andrea said.

VampiresLair -> RE: dress code for subs (6/12/2009 7:23:38 AM)
I would likely have thrashed you as well for assuming that you kne what I wanted rather than asking me. Yes, going without undergarments is unoriginal. If you are trying to impress someone, you need to either ask, or put a lot of thought into an original surprise. I personally dislike it when someone goes without underwear because of the aftereffects of having genitals against harsher fabrics. Sweating, mainly. I tell Fox what to wear when I have a preference. I usually do not, since he has been with me long enough to know what I like. However in the beginning he would ask me every time we were going out if there was something I would like to see him in. Assuming will always get you in more trouble than asking, especially in a newer relationship. DV

Toppingfrmbottom -> RE: dress code for subs (6/12/2009 7:28:06 AM)
Speaking from personal experince, with both the male and female part of this, Daddy and I will always sweat weather we wear undies or not. Now sometimes the undies absorb a little bit of that sweat, but we'll still sweat undies or not. All though I notice I am sweatier W/O undies, than with. quote: ORIGINAL: VampiresLair I would likely have thrashed you as well for assuming that you kne what I wanted rather than asking me. Yes, going without undergarments is unoriginal. If you are trying to impress someone, you need to either ask, or put a lot of thought into an original surprise. I personally dislike it when someone goes without underwear because of the aftereffects of having genitals against harsher fabrics. Sweating, mainly. I tell Fox what to wear when I have a preference. I usually do not, since he has been with me long enough to know what I like. However in the beginning he would ask me every time we were going out if there was something I would like to see him in. Assuming will always get you in more trouble than asking, especially in a newer relationship. DV

thishereboi -> RE: dress code for subs (6/12/2009 12:10:24 PM)
The first time I met my Mistress I wore the same thing she did. Jeans and a T-Shirt. The subject of undergarments never came up.

MistressTaboo -> RE: dress code for subs (6/12/2009 12:22:24 PM)
Since I meet everyone the first time in a vanilla setting I wear jeans and a nice shirt....that's normally what my boys wear when I meet them too. I never play anyone on the first meeting so I have no idea what they wear underneath. Now once we are playing...I'm all for nothing underneath...my current boy shows up in shorts, t-shirt and flipflops...all easy access...the clothing isn't on long enough for me to care what he's wearing...hell half the time I've showered and I'm still in a robe or a towel when he gets here... Now if I were to take him out...I know he'd dress up and dress nice like he did the night I met him. But I have been asked before...What would you like me to wear? And normally I'm good with what ever is comfortable and appropriate for the situation.

Lockit -> RE: dress code for subs (6/12/2009 12:27:07 PM)
If it matters to me, I tell them what I expect them to wear. We have typically discussed most everything that could come up in a first meeting. I really don't care what they do or don't have on under their clothing as long as their clothing covers sensitive area's and cannot be seen through clothing.

CallaFirestormBW -> RE: dress code for subs (6/12/2009 12:28:09 PM)
Ask me. If you don't ask me, then consider where we're meeting (I usually hold first meetings in public places like coffee shops, etc.) If you can't manage either of those, then you're probably not going to fit well with me anyway, but if you've managed to slip under my radar and we're meeting anyway, then -absolutely- don't screw it up by not reading my profile and realizing that I have -no- interest in your bare wanker and dress with a measure of decorum. In general, you'll rarely go wrong by being polite, dressing as if you care about your appearance (and see yourself as more than a blow-up doll with a -very- long inflation stem), and behaving as if you had some understanding of good manners. I may want you to change things, but that's a pretty safe start, regardless of who you're meeting for the first time, and what purpose you're meeting them for. Dame Calla

DavanKael -> RE: dress code for subs (6/12/2009 3:33:09 PM)
Regardless of side of the kneel or lack there-of, I tend to wear something I believe is flattering while not being too informal. The first person I met on here (And had a relationship with a good chunk of a year) wore jeans, a flanneley type shirt, work boots, as well as a really soft leather jacket to our first meeting. Normally, I would have found that somewhat informal but it suited him well and the energy between us struck me as more important. So, I suppose I'm saying that if someone 'feels' right, I'd look with less scrutiny at what they're wearing. I, to same meeting, wore a thin but very figure-flattering sweater in autumn tones (It was that time of year), black stretch pants, and boots. Davan

PeonForHer -> RE: dress code for subs (6/12/2009 4:23:00 PM)
You think that there should be a note of formality between a meeting of D and s, Davan? Why? That surprises me.

DavanKael -> RE: dress code for subs (6/12/2009 4:34:53 PM)
Hi, Peon---- Actually, I think there should be a note of formality/dressy-ness in attire (Or at least not casualness to the point of jeans and a t-shirt) when meeting anyone who is potential relationship material for the first time (Unless it's a venue in which jeans and a t-shirt are most appropriate and even then, I want garments in good shape, cleanliness, etc.). I think that being willing to attire one's self nicely is a show of respect to self and to the other with whom you are meeting. I am, by no means, suggesting that one wear something that isn't representative of themselves but I am a firm advocate in believing that taking a bit of extra care and effort is a positive thing. Thoughts? Davan

PeonForHer -> RE: dress code for subs (6/12/2009 4:47:57 PM)
Well, I couldn't go with the "ask the dominant what to wear" line because it would feel presumptious. Rather as though I'm trying to get a free subby buzz before she's ready to give it. I'd disguise the question by asking what sort of venue we'll be meeting in then hinting at what I'll wear - leaving it open to her to tell me what to wear if she wants to. I'd be surprised if she did, but I'd probably be happy to oblige. That aside - no, clean but casual and vaguely smart. Proper shoes and not trainers and not blue jeans. Mainly, though, I'd want to get to know her as a friend, first. That would be the main signal I'd want to send with the way I dress. But all this owes a lot to the sort of woman I want to meet and the style of relationship I'm looking for.

DavanKael -> RE: dress code for subs (6/12/2009 4:51:18 PM)
I think we're largely in agreement about expectations and conduct, Peon, just said things a bit differently. Davan

PeonForHer -> RE: dress code for subs (6/12/2009 5:15:53 PM)
I think you're probably right. [;)] I know some dominants who've signalled that they like to see a man in a suit. Hmm. If I ever meet any one of them, I'll brush one down, grit my teeth and see if I can still remember how to use my iron. The way I've worked it out is that my clothes are seen more by others than by me. My partner will be the most important of those 'others', so I'll pretty much go along with what she wants to see me in. Always have done. So long as it's not too uncomfortable.

PeonForHer -> RE: dress code for subs (6/12/2009 5:33:46 PM)
I was just thinking: I could meet up with a Domme dressed in a 'sub' outfit. That is, a submarine, painted grey, complete with turret - maybe made out of cardboard. She'd be well impressed at my sense of style and imagination. However, I probably wouldn't do that because it would be silly.

LookieNoNookie -> RE: dress code for subs (6/12/2009 5:36:09 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: PeonForHer I was just thinking: I could meet up with a Domme dressed in a 'sub' outfit. That is, a submarine, painted grey, complete with turret - maybe made out of cardboard. She'd be well impressed at my sense of style and imagination. However, I probably wouldn't do that because it would be silly. I can be *absolutely* certain....if I met a Domme for the very first time, and she was in a battleship gray outfit, complete with turret....maybe made out of cardboard...... We would never be a couple.

SweetDommes -> RE: dress code for subs (6/12/2009 5:45:30 PM)
Now THAT is a creative, original idea ... although it still might get you in trouble, depending on the venue and the sense of humor of the Dominant in question LOL On topic, I'm with the others - have some common sense, or ask.

PeonForHer -> RE: dress code for subs (6/12/2009 6:27:00 PM)
. . .have some common sense . . . Hell, nothing in life comes easy, does it? 'Subs, despair and give up'. It's always the same message from Dommes. I don't know why any of us bother. [:(]

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