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ukus10 -> Discrete Feminization? (7/2/2004 1:25:37 AM)

hi everyone,

im really desperate for ideas here, and hoping to get some good ones - i know you lot are very experienced...

im a submissive crossdresser , married to a vnilla wife which doesnt know about my fetishes. i dont want to hurt her and prefer to keep it this way.
but in a few weeks i'll be away in the states for a month on my own. i think its the perfect opportunity for me to explore my submissive-feminine side. but it has to be discrete and very safe (dont want to set off alarms in the airport...).

any ideas how i could feminize and humiliatre myself in such a painful, degrading way that whatever i do i will be reminded of my 'situation'? i was thinking about cockolding for example, but don't really know how to go on about it.



MistressDREAD -> RE: Discrete Feminization? (7/2/2004 5:02:29 AM)

hmmmmm
a port of entry
would help to
know for Us
Dominants
out here whom
might step up
to the plateukus10.



ukus10 -> RE: Discrete Feminization? (7/2/2004 5:36:18 AM)

Dear Mistress Dread,

thank You for Your reply - although i am not really sure how to take it... i am open to suggesitons



MistressDREAD -> RE: Discrete Feminization? (7/2/2004 5:56:37 AM)

quote:

but in a few weeks i'll be away in the states for a month on my own.

you mentioned being in the Good Ol US of A dearie and if you mentioned
where maybe those of Us whom are Dommes in that area can invite ya
to sum real life forced feminization.
Port a call is where you will be landing in the Country when you come.
is that a bit clearer now for ya??
LOL



ukus10 -> RE: Discrete Feminization? (7/2/2004 6:28:56 AM)

Thank You for making it clearer for me, Mistress Dread - i do apologize, i am not very experienced when it comes to this. but at least i made You laugh, so something good did come out of it :)

i will be visiting the DC area for 3 and half weeks this August (5th, to be precise), as well as Virginia and Maryland. i would be very grateful indeed if one of You would like to take me up on this offer and perhaps transform my life for the good (or the bad?)

thank You all again for this opportunity, and thank You Mistress Dread for guiding me through this.. :)



iwillserveu -> RE: Discrete Feminization? (7/2/2004 12:44:09 PM)

Slightly off base from what you want, but I'm curious. Did you decide for your wife what will upset her?

I don't reccomend showing up at dinner in just panties and a bra, but have you talked to her about cross dressers in general? "You know, dear, I read that most cross dressers only do it in private with their wives and are terribly heterosexual..." You may be surprised at how she feels.

If you have not broached it yet, broach it carefully. If you have broached it carefully, well, back to your question.[:)]



MistressDREAD -> RE: Discrete Feminization? (7/2/2004 1:15:31 PM)

well I am in Florida so
I cannot help you but
if you were I would be
happy to teach you how
to dress for feminiation
success and notta sole
would know who you
were. Im sure sum
Dominant in those areas
will step up to the plate.
Good luck



proudsub -> RE: Discrete Feminization? (7/2/2004 2:32:52 PM)

My suggeston would be to go to the personals side of Collarme and search the areas that you will be visiting and contact the Dommes that look like possibilities to you. Good luck with it and enjoy your trip.

I agree with iwillserveu that you should find a way to approach the subject with your wife. Who knows, maybe she has latent dommie fantasies. I have posted this before but will repeat it for you. I was afraid to tell my hubby about my submissive nature when i learned about bdsm. When i finally had to explain it all to him he offered to learn to be my Master and it is working out very well.



ukus10 -> RE: Discrete Feminization? (7/3/2004 6:39:57 AM)

thank you for your concern...yes, i have mentioned it once or twice - even dressed up as a woman for a fancy dress party. she completely freaked out. when i did it the second time she didnt want to touch me or kiss me. she told me i was "turning gay" on her. after years of living together i am more than 100% that there is not a bone in her body that will accept this side of me.



ukus10 -> RE: Discrete Feminization? (7/3/2004 6:41:51 AM)

thank Yuo again for help, Misrtess Dread - it's a shame about the distance but i'm still crossing my fingers. i'm not expecting for too much too happen to be honest, but it would be more than amazing if a DOmme in that area would be willing to help. i will be more than grateful...



ukus10 -> RE: Discrete Feminization? (7/3/2004 6:44:47 AM)

that's great proudsub i'm really happy for you! unfortunatelly this is not the case with me and my wife. and yes, i have contacted the DOmmes on the personals here, but did not get a single reply....have you got any other ideas? i am open to any suggestions...



Sundew02 -> RE: Discrete Feminization? (7/4/2004 10:17:33 AM)

The DC area has quite a bit of D/s activity. A possible, would be to check with one of the local groups and see if they are having any type of event, meeting, etc OR if they could suggest a safe place where you could CD. That is also true for Virginia, of course that too would depend on which cities in VA you are visiting. Another thought might be to check the other side of the slash and see if any submissives in the area would respond to an email with some help for you. Good luck, smile, and I am in Missouri, so besides suggestions I am of no physical touch either. Sundew



MistressZanthia -> RE: Discrete Feminization? (7/4/2004 2:09:12 PM)

He posted this same exact worded question on Bondage.com forums twice... baiting. My suggestion there is the same as I'll post here: Don't expect a lifestyle domme to "assist" you in this quest, odds are good she won't like being "used" for temporary thing she'll be to you as you are married.

Get a copy of DDI (Domination Directory International) and find a professional to guide you on this journey... most of us don't have a problem with doing business with married men.

Personally I feel sorry for the wife... who truly doesn't know her husband... seems an intimacy problem to me.

~Mistress Zanthia~



iwillserveu -> RE: Discrete Feminization? (7/5/2004 4:28:47 AM)

Showing up dressed in women's clothes might have been a tad over the top. Did you consider dressing "normally" and just talking about it. (Even daytime talk shows will tell her that most cross dressers are not gay. Heck, rent Woody Allen's Everything You Wanted to Know About Sex but Was Afraid to Ask and at least get her laughing. But what ever you do, do not force her mis conceptions to the fore by being "caught" wearing women's clothes.)



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