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What's Your motivation? - 8/3/2005 5:49:23 PM

saret

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I'm always interested in the psychology inherent in BDSM, but Im sure why has been asked many times, in many forms.

This is purely my observations, but I've noticed the motivation in topping/domming tends to be slightly different between sexes.

Men seem to dom out of the desire for control. Even acts of sex, punishment and pain are done as manefestations of that control.

For women, it seems to be more about sensation, respect and practicality - having a man fufill everyday neccessities or physical desires, and enjoying the thrill of genuine, absolute respect.

What do you think, what is the cause behind your love of being on top?

-S-

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RE: What's Your motivation? - 8/3/2005 7:35:01 PM

SadisticPrincess

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It's ALLLLLL about the power!

I have a lawn service, I have a family, getting the house clean is not a problem.

There is nothing like the joy of having a person under absolute control, even for a little while.

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RE: What's Your motivation? - 8/3/2005 10:04:37 PM

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The power, and the physical relief from exercising the power, is my rush. The actions and antics of my sub evidencing my power are my entertainment. I demand respect in many different arenas. Getting it doesn't particularly "thrill" me. And I also don't see this lifestyle as necessary for a woman to have her "everyday necessities" filled, whether sexual or otherwise.

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RE: What's Your motivation? - 8/4/2005 1:28:19 AM

CalliopePurple

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Taking care of a person who needs my protection as much as I need her to help keep me down to earth.

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hajimete kimi ni atta hoshizora no shita de.
Kimi ni tsutaetai todokanai omoi demo
boku no kokoro wa mada kimi o sagashiteiru.

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RE: What's Your motivation? - 8/4/2005 5:19:31 AM

LadyAngelika

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quote:

What do you think, what is the cause behind your love of being on top?

It's simply a natural place/position for me to be.

I think it is to a certain point about power and control for me, mixed in with caring for the other and wanting to take the other to marvellous places where they never imagined they would go.

It is also about affirming my needs/desires in a relationship as well as ensuring respect and good communication.

- LA

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RE: What's Your motivation? - 8/4/2005 11:19:13 AM

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I'm new here, so don't pounce on me for my simple response. For me, there is nothing so wonderful and fulfilling to know and feel that I have pleased someone. I've always received the most wonderful feelings of joy, after I have done something or completed a task, or just doing something out of pleasure, to surprise someone... and yes, I do enjoy being praised for it, but usually though, I don't need to hear it... just the look of satisfaction on their face is enough....

Pleasing a woman is the greatest pleasure for me, and has always be so. Perhaps, my motivation may be selfish, to feel needed, useful, or worthy, and it is a deep need (to please.) I feel it is always sincere, and my selfishness is balanced or superceded by the joy, happiness and pleasure of another...

aure

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RE: What's Your motivation? - 8/4/2005 12:27:13 PM

Niran

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For me, its that he is listening. Finally. After 8 years, he is hanging on my every word, and being an active partner. No longer is he taking me for granted. He is behaving the way I want him to behave. It's what I need from him, what he needs for him, and its a better feeling than it was before the TPE.

N

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RE: What's Your motivation? - 8/4/2005 1:36:20 PM

BlkTallFullfig

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My love of being a Domme comes from a desire to protect and care for that which is my responsibility, my need to control, yes my nature is that of a dominant, and I enjoy/get off on getting him to bend a little for me, so it is about power too. M

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RE: What's Your motivation? - 8/4/2005 2:42:55 PM

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My motivation is from caring, nurturing, control, power and FUN!

Oumae

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RE: What's Your motivation? - 8/4/2005 4:06:22 PM

RosaB

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The look in his eyes when he's on his knees at my feet. For me it's the power it affords me in the relationship. It's knowing he trust me fully without question, him knowing what I do has both our best interest at heart. It's the pleasure I receive from his geniune devotion to me as his primary partner. There's the freedom to be the complete sexually aggressive woman I love being when in a trusting mutually fulfilling d/s well rounded relationship. But definately I'm mainly motivated by the power exchange.

Rosa

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RE: What's Your motivation? - 8/4/2005 7:29:47 PM

Lordandmaster

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I do it because I was born to do it. I don't really have a motivation.

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RE: What's Your motivation? - 8/4/2005 11:49:22 PM

GoddessDustyGold

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It is absolutely about the power for Me, and the freedom that that power gives to Me. I am absolutely free to be Me, and totally accepted for who and what I am. No games.

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RE: What's Your motivation? - 8/7/2005 5:08:31 PM

saret

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quote:

I do it because I was born to do it.

So when you popped out of the womb, the doctor slapped your mom's ass?

-S-

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RE: What's Your motivation? - 8/7/2005 10:36:10 PM

Euryanx

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Oumae

My motivation is from caring, nurturing, control, power and FUN!

Oumae

Qumae,

I really like what you wrote, particularly the word "nurturing." Interesting that you chose to use such a word.
It's very positive. Very strong. Very loving. Very feminine. Somehow I can't imagine a male Dom using such
a word. They'd probably use something like "training." Nurturing has a more compassionate ring to it.

S.

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RE: What's Your motivation? - 8/8/2005 7:01:51 AM

Oumae

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Euryanx

quote:

ORIGINAL: Oumae

My motivation is from caring, nurturing, control, power and FUN!

Oumae

Qumae,

I really like what you wrote, particularly the word "nurturing." Interesting that you chose to use such a word.
It's very positive. Very strong. Very loving. Very feminine. Somehow I can't imagine a male Dom using such
a word. They'd probably use something like "training." Nurturing has a more compassionate ring to it.

S.

Thank-you Euryanx.

I have a maternal streak in me but as I don't wish to mother a sub I prefer the term nuture... some might also say guide. Part of my fluffy side.

Oumae

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RE: What's Your motivation? - 6/29/2011 1:29:22 PM

lthrpup

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quote:

ORIGINAL: saret

quote:

I do it because I was born to do it.

So when you popped out of the womb, the doctor slapped your mom's ass?

-S-

Still funny and appropos six years later

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RE: What's Your motivation? - 6/29/2011 1:55:18 PM

LadyPact

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So, you necro'd a six year old thread for shits and giggles?

Excellent contribution.

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RE: What's Your motivation? - 6/29/2011 2:05:50 PM

mummyman321

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I feel a MOD lockup coming soon to a thread near you!

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RE: What's Your motivation? - 6/29/2011 2:24:50 PM

LadyConstanze

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quote:

ORIGINAL: mummyman321

I feel a MOD lockup coming soon to a thread near you!

Before it's locked, I better throw in my opinion... My motivation would be fun!

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Those who do and those who don't!

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RE: What's Your motivation? - 6/29/2011 10:30:57 PM

LadyHibiscus

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Yay, my original nic! So fun to see my early posts :)

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